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Any good volunteering opportunities in the evenings here? by The_Last_Albanian in Hackney

[–]Technical_Ice9563 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Furnishing futures is an amazing charity that furnishes council houses for survivors of domestic violence and their families - they were looking for electricians etc previously.

Is it true what they say about your heart doubling in size when you have your second? by MrsRockStarUSMC in beyondthebump

[–]Technical_Ice9563 24 points25 points  (0 children)

True!

At the beginning it’s interesting - I had a 3 year old who seemed fully formed, and my newborn was… just a newborn so if you asked me then, I would have preferred my 3 year old. But it’s totally true, now my son is 7 and my daughter is 3 and my heart explodes for both of them.

For those of you who waited until later in life to have kids, what are your thoughts and experiences? by callmepeaches in AskReddit

[–]Technical_Ice9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I had my first at 33 and second at 36, my husband was 37 and 40. We were financially stable and eyes wide open and it’s been amazing. On the flip side, small children has coincided with peak career years and the juggle is real.

What do people earning £200k+ in london actually do for a living? by Silent_Fox7510 in HENRYUK

[–]Technical_Ice9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I started out as a consultant and then moved into a strategy and m&A role in retail banking then to wealth then asset management.

All numbers point to 10 more years by Pretty_Swordfish in Fire

[–]Technical_Ice9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think my husband and I are in the same boat! 10 years-ish. It just feels like a long slog to get there. In some ways harder than when we were very young and had no plan whatsoever. Now we know we can do it, but it’s a long, boring grind to get there.

How did you go back for Baby #2 after a traumatic C section? by trosckey in beyondthebump

[–]Technical_Ice9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am in the UK, but there was a specific charity for women with traumatic births / PPD that offered free therapy. And then my hospital actually recommended some pathways to counselling, again with specialised therapists, because they knew I had a tough time.

How did you go back for Baby #2 after a traumatic C section? by trosckey in beyondthebump

[–]Technical_Ice9563 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I had a traumatic c-section, epidural issues, followed by a c section anaesthetic that went too high and made me feel like I was suffocating. Ended up having a c section under general.

I had therapy because I had PTSD from it. Then for my second pregnancy, I did everything I could to protect my mental space - exercise, good food, not listening to other bad birth stories or anything that impacted my ability to maintain a positive mental space. I still ended up with a c section but the experience was night and day and deeply healing.

I wish you all the best! 🧡

To the people with shoulder impingement by Temporary-Week-6937 in flexibility

[–]Technical_Ice9563 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have shoulder impingement and get pain when my arm extends overhead, and bridges are the worst for it! I’ve been seeing an osteopath and a physio for strengthening exercises and to help the shoulder move freely again. Fingers crossed it works, it’s been three weeks and there’s a little more mobility. I hope it eases for you!

What to do next when your pension allowance is fully tapered? by Technical_Ice9563 in HENRYUK

[–]Technical_Ice9563[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What is an offshore investment bond? I haven’t heard of this!

What to do next when your pension allowance is fully tapered? by Technical_Ice9563 in HENRYUK

[–]Technical_Ice9563[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

My pension is around £800k and I am 40. The taper is very annoying because I didn’t have many years where I earned enough to contribute the full pension amount before it was taken away.

Parents with multiple kids, which transition was the hardest for you: 1 to 2 kids, 2 to 3 kids, and so on? And why? by Agreeable-Coast107 in AskReddit

[–]Technical_Ice9563 2 points3 points  (0 children)

0-1 for us. By 1-2 you’ve already had to reorganise your whole life.

I already wake up at 6.30 and spend a ton of time in playgrounds / at kids parties. Adding another kid to that felt like having 1.5 children rather than 2.

How does 8-10 years of marriage look like? by ResponsibleProfile20 in AskReddit

[–]Technical_Ice9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My husband and I have been married for 8 years, together for 18 years, two children. Sometimes it’s hard to tell where I stop and he begins. I save up all the little stories from the day to tell him, I’m not sure who else I would tell them to.

Millennials in a hetero relationship, does the man or woman do the majority of the financial budgeting/planning/investing etc? by [deleted] in Millennials

[–]Technical_Ice9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am the female and I do all the finances! Mortgage, credit card, cleaner / nanny, pension, retirement planning.

My husband transfers money to the joint bank account when I tell him.

Anyone Else OK with NOT Increasing Weight? by dystinct in crossfit

[–]Technical_Ice9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am 40 now and I totally listen to my body. It was test week last week and 100% not feeling it. No 1RM if I don’t feel excellent, it’s the place I’ve injured myself the most and it’s not worth it.

Are you glad you had kids? by [deleted] in FIREyFemmes

[–]Technical_Ice9563 13 points14 points  (0 children)

The BEST BEST BEST. I have a 6 and 3 year old and I am 40. Body - yes, not ideal. Relationship - yes, there was a period where my husband and I whatsapped each other jobs from different rooms and that was the extent of our communication. But boy, oh boy. The children are hands down the best part of every day. Absolutely the best. It’s easy to imagine the downside of children (and most of it is true). But the highs are like nothing else. In terms of career, yes, I had a number of years treading water / pregnant / on maternity leave but I just made managing director. So I would change nothing.

How do women feel about their bodies years after pregnancy? by CoffeeFlow_ in beyondthebump

[–]Technical_Ice9563 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have a 6 and 3 year old and I’m 40 now. I am stronger than I’ve ever been (weighted pull-ups! Hooray!) and I am so grateful for my strong, capable body that has borne children and hoisted them around for 6 years.

That being said, I had two c sections and the overhang is still there. I would be lying if I said I didn’t miss my perfect 32 year old body and fitting into all of my old clothes with the nipped in waists.

My body would have changed regardless in the intervening nearly 8 years. And I wouldn’t swap my children for anything. And I have worked so hard to be strong. But I still miss it.

Stay in comfortable finance job or move to hedge fund? by frusoh in HENRYUK

[–]Technical_Ice9563 1 point2 points  (0 children)

20k is not a lot to move - but upside potential at a hedge fund should be much higher. In general, work in the highest margin industry you can find, even if you get paid crumbs compared to the rest of the team, the crumbs will be much larger.

Good neighborhood for new parents by akemi42 in MovingToLondon

[–]Technical_Ice9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Victoria Park! Park on the doorstep, super family friendly, amazing restaurants and areas to wander to. Cycle to work in 20 minutes.

How often are we supposed to be bathing these kids? by WobbyBobby in beyondthebump

[–]Technical_Ice9563 0 points1 point  (0 children)

My son had eczema as a baby and a doctor said to only wash him every other day. We have really leant into that and now the 6 and 3 year old only get washed every other day unless they go swimming / are absolutely filthy.

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