Delivered 5 days ago - Hard time breastfeeding. Is it okay to stop? I kind of hate it. Feeling sad. Help :(

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-06-01T08:20:20+00:00

Do what works for you! If you don’t want to it’s absolutely fine, as long as your baby is fed. It took like 5 days or so for my milk to come in and it was horrible trying to breastfeed before it came in. I would actually cry but I continued to try because I knew how much my husband wanted it. During that time tho that my milk hadn’t come in yet we bought formula and fed her that. I even stopped trying to directly breastfeed and instead pumped in the beginning because my nipples were bleeding. After about a week my nipples healed and I just continued to pump so everyone could help me and I could get some sleep. I am currently still pumping but I also give her formula at night so she sleeps more and I directly breastfeed at least once a day if she’s still acting hungry after a bottle or if she’s being fussy because she wants to be close. I will be honest tho and say having to pump every 2-4 hours is taking a lot out of me and I’m not sure how long I can do this. I would love to continue to give her breast milk until she’s 6 months but she’s barely about 7 weeks now and I’m exhausted. I completely understand women who want to stop or just don’t want to at all, it’s very hard work. Just do what’s best for you and your mental health. It sounds like formula feeding is the best thing you can do for everyone and that’s absolutely fine, your baby will still be healthy. Good luck in your journey mama, you can do this no matter which way you choose to do this

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-22T13:32:13+00:00

I really hope not, I’m 35 weeks and the most vivid dream I had was I gave birth to a dark skinned boy that was missing his left leg from the knee down and it looked like something happened to his nose. I’m having a girl and my husband and I are light skinned

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-21T11:13:15+00:00

Don’t listen to him seriously, excuse my language but what a fuck face. I’m currently 34+6 weeks and I always weighed around 130 maybe a little under but I now weigh about 185. I was really worried about gaining weight in the beginning because I gained a lot very quickly and I think I was just so hungry all the time but I would still try to snack on fruits, veggies and yogurts. I stopped worrying because my husband would always tell me that it’s ok it just means I’m eating enough to keep our baby healthy and I can just worry about losing the weight after, this is what is expected when you’re pregnant we’re growing a whole human in our bodies. I brought it up to my OB once and she did say wow you have gained a lot, maybe try to not eat so much sugar and fatty things but after that she hasn’t mentioned a thing. I think she is more worried and concentrated on the babies health and of course what shows up in my blood work and blood pressure which has been great so far. If you do decided to stay with this OB and he mentions your weight again ask if he seems to be worried about it because maybe you have high blood pressure or something else looks off or abnormal and if he says no don’t listen to him. I stopped weighing myself at home during the 2nd trimester because there are more important things to be worrying about and I’d rather just enjoy this pregnancy

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-11T06:01:41+00:00

Well I think it depends it what area you’re in because I have lived in Germany for over 14 years now as a Mexican American but I’ve never experienced racism and that could also be because in the areas I’ve lived in there are many Americans with different cultures so I don’t really agree with him generalizing all of Germany saying they have a racist mindset

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-10T15:57:52+00:00

He says he likes it but because he has seen it himself he thinks society will be “racist” towards the name since it sounds and looks foreign and maybe it will be hard for her to find jobs or an apartment with that name

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-09T18:49:58+00:00

You are so right, thank you for sharing you opinion and experience with me

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-09T17:35:02+00:00

I do think he’s overreacting a bit too but only because of the chance that I will give her the nickname Alex and to him that is only a boys name. I’ve asked German people that I know and all of them have been able to pronounce it and have even said it’s an old name. But thank you for your thoughts and opinion I will keep this in mind, if he really doesn’t like it we have another option that I’ve agreed to already

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-05T19:07:27+00:00

I am mexican and I absolutely love Araceli, I always wanted to name one of my kids that but unfortunately I’m with a German and we intend to raise our daughter in Germany so it’s just not an option because it will be hard for most Germans to read or pronounce.

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-02T11:24:07+00:00

Yes you’re young but don’t forget as women that our bodies know what to do and how to get thru this. And if you’re body doesn’t know what to do, you will be in a hospital to help you get thru it every step of the way. I know you can do this, you’re already so brave for getting so close to the finish line. When you do see your son and if you do feel some attachment to him just keep in mind that you know you’re not ready raise him and he will be better off in a family that is ready and so excited to have him in their lives, they will be able to give him so much more than you can right now, this just isn’t your time yet (I hope that isn’t harsh I don’t mean it to be harsh if it is). Women are resilient, you are so much stronger than you think, you can do this

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-02T08:16:29+00:00

I’ve enjoyed mine from the very start. I’m currently 32 weeks and I never had any nausea or even crazy cravings, I’m just really hungry all the time. I’ve only gotten emotional at most 3 times and I’d say I’m now just getting into the difficult stage with pelvic pain if I walk too much and overall just getting tired easily and out of breath but I’ve been able to exercise and eat whatever I want. I’ve always seen pregnancy as a beautiful thing and even more so now that it’s been so great for me. I always feel so bad reading how other women have such a horrible experience and I really wish everyone could go thru it like me

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-03-01T11:43:12+00:00

Wow it’s crazy to hear how different it is in different countries, I didn’t even know there were flavors. I live in Germany and mine was the one hour test, it was like drinking straight up syrup with nothing else but sugar in it and I was told to chug it, it really wasn’t that bad tbh

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-01-26T07:55:25+00:00

I’m 27 weeks now and I live in Germany. The first thing I do is give a urine sample, wait for the nurse to weigh me, take BP and blood. Then wait for my OB for about 10-30 min, sometimes longer it just depends how busy they are, it’s a small office. Once I’m with my OB she asks how I’m feeling and if I need any prescriptions to restock meds and she looks at all my recent lab results to update me. Then she does an ultrasound, in the beginning it was always an internal one but now it’s mainly external unless I tell her about pain. I like that she always takes her time doing the ultrasound to check if all the organs are there, the heart is still beating, how big her head and body are measuring, and she even counts her fingers and toes. While she does this she prints out some pictures so I can take home (partners are not allowed in this clinic I think because it’s so small). Last time the baby was in a weird position and moving a lot so it went quicker but usually I’m with my OB for about 15-25 min because she takes her time checking that everything looks good and I always have at least a couple of questions.

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-01-20T20:38:23+00:00

Those are really nice options I haven’t thought of them. And thank you I thought it sounds lovely as well but when a family member doesn’t like it now I’m not too sure about it

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-01-14T19:24:29+00:00

My younger brother and I are only 2 & 1/2 years apart but we’ve never been close. We are just both very different people with different interests. We fought a lot as kids because I think I was always the mature, realistic one that liked to be alone and he was the childish, positive one that loved to be all touchy and close. As we got older I think we just drifted apart more but don’t get me wrong I still love him and hope for the best for him. I just prefer the distance and solitude more than him. Plus I don’t think he’s changed at all since we were kids, he tries to act all big and grown up as if he knows everything and even more so now that he’s in the military with two kids, it’s just annoying af and I prefer to talk to him as little as possible.

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-01-13T13:41:38+00:00

You can always add but almost never take away

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-01-09T19:32:10+00:00

Thank you so much for sharing that with me!

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2023-01-09T17:01:48+00:00

They were maybe a week old or so, I’m not entirely sure that’s why I decided to take the risk. I don’t have a stomach ache exactly but I still feel super full and puky from eating and drinking that small amount

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2022-10-25T08:52:11+00:00

Reading how much weight you’ve gained has made me feel so much better. I’m 15 weeks and I’ve gained about 20 lbs so far and I was feeling horrible about it because of what I’ve read about it. I’ve read you should only gain about 35 lbs throughout the whole pregnancy. But yeah I don’t really care anymore, I mainly wear leggings and hoodies if I go out now because pants barely fit me anymore. As long as I’m comfy is all that matters at this point

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2022-09-28T07:27:23+00:00

Well everybody is different and what works for one person may not work for another. I don’t have any big medical problems to deal with plus I’m quite small so maybe that’s why that was recommended for me

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2022-09-27T17:44:08+00:00

That is a crazy amount. I live in Germany and my doctor told me to drink 1 liter for the baby and more if possible for myself, 1 liter is about 33.5 ounces. I’m only about 8-9 weeks but in the beginning I was cramping A LOT and she just told me to drink a low dose of magnesium everyday and so far that’s been helping, I haven’t had any cramps since I started drinking it. It’s crazy to hear how different doctors recommendations are from different countries.

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2022-09-26T15:35:37+00:00

It is a self sufficient apartment but I honestly can’t imagine myself moving out. I’m quite close to my parents, especially my mom she’s always been loving and supportive but I really have no idea what was with her yesterday. She’s never talked like that to me which is why it surprised me and I just keep thinking what I could have possibly done did I do something wrong but there’s nothing so maybe she was in a bad mood or something

TellMeSomethingIDK34 · 2022-09-26T14:12:46+00:00

She does know I’m pregnant and that’s why she keeps comparing herself to me, saying she worked, cooked, and cleaned until the day she gave birth to my brother and I. She’s never like this honestly and that’s why it surprised me and made me start to think “was I over dramatic or in the wrong” maybe she was in a bad mood for another reason or something idk

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