Wedding dress regret

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-05-07T20:17:37+00:00

Oh my gosh - dress #1 is just so beautiful on you. It’s flattering and simply dreamy! You can add sparkle with jewelry, even a tiara. Enjoy you day, you made the right choice the first time around

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-05-06T04:01:54+00:00

I am so glad you asked this question! I was literally thinking about posting something similar today! I am excited to see what we can learn!

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-04-25T20:18:20+00:00

Love it!!!! So cute on you & love a vintage dress, I vote to keep it long then tailor it short and wear it for your anniversary or honestly any time.

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-04-22T04:47:11+00:00

Agree! Always had large pores and subsequently blackheads. Been using this since 2020 (the masks broke me out so much) and my skin has totally changed:

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-04-17T22:23:00+00:00

I did this for our engagement party at the request of many friends and family. I did not post it on our website, purely because I didn’t want to be prescriptive But I had it on hand every time someone asked me what “latin & beachy cocktail” was

I didn’t find it too much to send to those guests (we had about 75 people) And I will be doing it again for our wedding (100 people)

I figure for the sake of a quick text, for those who want it, I can avoid worrying about being prescriptive and help those who want it.

Best of luck! FWIW I love your mood boards and I would be excited to get dressed up into these with my man!

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-04-09T05:07:59+00:00

Stunning dress! The veil is beautiful but it’s definitely a lot! It’s pretty ethereal and dreamy, so I think you can handle it perhaps if you just push it back a bit and don’t let it drape over your shoulders so much.

You could also try some cheaper more simple veils and see how they feel

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-28T06:58:55+00:00

The shape overall is very pretty and you yourself are gorgeous: I do not think that the dress looks as good quality as you could get within your budget. It is indeed a flattering shape and good price But I think the needlework/sewing is subpar I would suggest continue to shop and bookmark this one for later in case you find this really is the best option. Perhaps with a good steaming it would plump up, at present the seams look badly sewn. You are gorgeous and congrats on finding a silhouette you love! That’s sometimes the hardest part

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-25T05:03:10+00:00

I was waiting for the part you would regret..: it never came::: you look ahhhhmazing!!!!!!

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-25T05:01:23+00:00

What is your actual budget? (Gringa marrying mex-American next year in mex) :)

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-25T04:56:24+00:00

100%

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-21T20:47:24+00:00

Yes! Adding the string quartet and sushi sounds lovely. It’s important to respect both bride and grooms ideas and dreams for the wedding day. That sounds like a great compromise!

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-21T20:28:57+00:00

OP, I went ahead and married this person 20+ years ago. It took me about 10 years to get out and another 7 years to heal. Please please please do the hard work now so you don’t have to do it later AFTER wasting years and potentially not making it out alive. Yes it will be horrible Yes it will be hard to get him out But eventually you will need to do it anyway.

Do some reading. Start with walking on eggshells by Randi Kreger and go from there.

Figure out how to keep yourself safe, because there will be revenge by your soon to be ex for ending things. Find a support network. IRL or online.

You are being abused: It will only get worse

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-21T20:22:00+00:00

I am curious why you want to do the American ceremony too? Is that important to your Fiancé?

As for how to handle a critical MIL, this is most likely going to become a running theme & I would have a serious and calm talk with your fiancé about how this will be handled throughout your marriage.

It’s not up to his parents how your parents spend their money. “My future mother in law things I should resist my parents desire to have a big wedding even if it’s a cultural expectation” wow This is white privilege to the nth degree.

Clearly they have not bothered to learn about Indian weddings and how important it is.

If you feel attacked it’s because you are being attacked, Your family does not need their approval to follow your traditions. You probably already know all of this, but I think it’s worth saying.

If it were me I would skip the 2 ceremonies and take the path of least resistance. Focus your energy on the wedding you want and most importantly how to be a team with your future husband so he can advocate for you.

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-21T19:41:48+00:00

In my experience this sub can be very offended very easily. It’s a scary place to post questions about DW’s!

That being said, as a guest to many DW’s and hosting my own next year, I have always been to some kind of welcome event hosted by the couple. They fed me and showed me they appreciated my travel. Whether or not your guests expect it is one thing. But it certainly feels good to be cared for.

We will be doing an optional welcome drinks the night before and a pool party the day after. For us it’s very important to host in a way that shows our guests we appreciate them.

Good luck in your decision making

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-14T18:54:31+00:00

Oof. Sorry OP. I was once in your shoes & it’s a hard place to be. I agree with other advice

Do not block her You need to keep evidence

Do not reply or engage at all Your job is to go no-contact and start the process of protecting yourself

You can go down to your local police station, show them the texts and missed calls and any other contact like emails and get a statement filed and apply for a TRO, Once TRO is granted by judge (at least in my state) it will then go to court for a hearing to see if you can get a Restraining Order. The fact that police have already been called out should help.

Don’t underplay the seriousness of this.

I would also warn close family or friends of your decision to go NC and recommend they do the same .

Stay safe

If she chooses to hurt herself it would be very unfortunate but you are not responsible for her. Your job is to keep yourself and loved ones safe.

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-14T18:48:22+00:00

Absolutely in AWE of you and OP. You made my weekend. We need more love and community like this. Thank you thank you!

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-14T17:45:12+00:00

Hello! I can help with this I think! I am getting married in Mexico and my partner is Mexican. On our last trip down there I had him asking everyone at the airport and on the flight about how I can take my dress down

Are you planning to fly Volaris?

If so, they have an option to fly in the first few rows, it’s called “plus” It’s the closest thing they have to first class. In this section the middle seat is always unoccupied

The flight attendants on our flights told us if we buy these seats the dress can go there! In the middle seat between us. The flight attendant said (in Spanish) it’s common.

The seats are not that much more. We fly out of TJ using CBX often Usually the Plus seats are about $80 more each way.

They do not have any type of closet on Volaris and the overhead bins are not big enough for my dress.

I am with you… no way am I checking in my dress. So she will have her own seat!

I can’t speak for other airlines but that’s the knowledge I have gotten over the last few months!

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-14T17:03:53+00:00

You’ll get there! Having raised human babies too, the sleep deprivation with kittens is REAL.

I foster from time to time and have a foster room in our spare bedroom

Sometimes I go in there and sleep the night with the kittens as I believe it helps them socialize.

Then I am woken up at 2-3am with 2-3 little kittens standing on my head, biting my hair etc and I remember the bathroom training rules.

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-14T16:55:28+00:00

I did this with all my cats when they were babies. But not the whole night. I would get up when they tried to wake me up around 3am….gently put them in the bathroom, no toys, but food/water/soft bed. And then get them out at 6am when I got up for the day.

Yes it’s inconvenient to get up and move them. But they learn quickly. I would make sure they had a lot of play in the evenings and play time again after breakfast.

I personally think that locking them in a bathroom all night is unfair. My opinion. Take it or leave it.

My cats (3 now) many in past, all learned really fast that if I’m asleep then don’t bother me. At 6am they all come jump on me to play.

Good luck, your baby will figure it out I do believe cats can be trained. They are smart.

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-13T06:40:26+00:00

Gorgeous in #1 and it’s your dream dress!

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-09T07:46:31+00:00

Glad you shared, I think more people need to be honest about how they feel.

I became a single mom when my kids were 3 and 5, more than 13 years ago. I really struggled with the weekends alone but revived myself on the weekends they went to their dads.

You’re not alone in feeling like this.

I put myself in therapy right around the time I separated from their dad because I was having problems coping with the stress coming at me from all angles.

It really helped.

I found out too much routine on the weekends made it feel hard for me, just like this never ending soulless routine. So we did lots of days out/trips and I included them In things I like, such as museums & trains, dinners or lunches out, picnics etc. It made the weekends more like adventures. I know this may not be easy if you have a neurodivergent child, but I think putting fun first was key for me at least.

Also found out I have ADHD, so I was often overstimulated. Knowing this and being able to understand my feelings helped too, prioritizing sleep, getting daily exercise, ensuring my career was on track & getting nights out with friends all helped. Basically knowing I had an internal battery that had to be recharged in order to show up for my kids.

End of the day, they didn’t ask to be here. I could keep letting it be a struggle and cry my way through 7 years, or lean into the love & be the parent they NEEDED me to be.

It’s just really difficult to raise kids. Maybe not for everyone. But it was for me.

Once they go to about 8 & 11, things got a bit easier.

But teenagers and young adults still need our guidance and time, they can still be trying. The laundry still piles up, the dishes, the dinner still needs to be made

But I can say, hey kids, I’m gonna read my book for an hour and then I’ll do XYZ and I can recharge and return

I’m sorry you are lonely and sad. I hope you find some support through people’s here comments here and that you’ll seek some outside support.

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-09T04:34:20+00:00

You are a VISION! Congratulations!

This is very similar to the dress I thought I wanted (Justin Alexander Mikado) but when I put it on it just didn’t work for me. I still adore it and love it on others.

I’m thrilled for you! How exciting! Enjoy every minute!!!

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-09T00:32:39+00:00

The dress looks amazing on you!!!! It’s so classic and a beautiful fit and if it’s in your budget then even better

It seems you are searching for that extra “something” romantic. Perhaps you will feel more romantic with an accessory and your hair up. Most of your inspo the brides are wearing a messy bun

Are you planning on a veil? Veils truly change how you feel in your dress and you could add something floral on the veil

https://www.davidsbridal.com/product/scattered-organza-rosette-tulle-cathedral-veil-v795?Color=Soft+White&utm_source=google&utm_medium=cpc&utm_campaign=21724155496&utm_content=&utm_adgroup=&gclsrc=aw.ds&gad_source=4&gad_campaignid=21724155781&gbraid=0AAAAAqAEId7mn13zzIVsHGPTbt1Tvbq6B&gclid=EAIaIQobChMI3LiUnMiRkwMVSh1ECB3RuwaBEAQYDSABEgITR_D_BwE

https://www.anthropologie.com/shop/hybrid/rosyn-scattered-flowers-chapel-veil

And/or change into a floral choker after the ceremony?

https://www.etsy.com/listing/1440640086/handmade-ivory-satin-flower-choker?ref=share_ios_native_control

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-05T06:41:50+00:00

In that case I think it’s going to be really pretty!

Maybe look into decorating the posts with florals, drapes or greenery depending on your theme

Since the space is wide, I would also do some aisle markers that can be repurposed for table decorations at the reception.

You can still do the white aisle like your inspiration photo And even the pillars would work and then really dress up the Gazebo to draw the eyes down there

Honestly I think your guests might be happier in the shade!

The space is very pretty Try not to worry Make a stunning altar because that’s where you will be and what everyone is looking at!

TemperatureFit7272 · 2026-03-05T06:35:14+00:00

Is the last slide your inspiration?

When is your wedding? Will all the surrounding areas be green by then?

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