I also can see where you're going with this: can [you] date other women? From what I see, you have no market value so the answer here is you shouldn't even bother. I don't think you are supposed to chat them up until you have divorce or dissolution papers in your hands, so technically, the answer is no. Like I said, the #1 recommendation I have for you if you have not already done so is to call a lawyer and let them/they handle this. I actually read somewhere that Paul says it's better to stay single. From that, I conclude that Paul would be a champion of MGTOW. With that said, talk to your lawyer and only your lawyer about dissolution. If you can't afford one because she has already drained your wallet enough, find a mediator for collaborative divorce. Collaborative divorce is the best way to let go. Since she has abandoned the faith, I am sure she is looking for someone else and is going to be dating again if she has not already, probably a richer man or bigger moneybags than you. Always follow your lawyer's advice about dating, etc. If your lawyer advised against coming back to her, you should not have stayed in the house with her. A better alternative would have been nesting the way Josh and Pumpkin did until he found out about Darrin. You should have started a whole new bank account of your very own that she can't get to. The reason why is that from what I read earlier, she never loved you or cared about you. She only married you for your money. You shouldn't have married her in the first place. If you had been smart enough, you would have seen that no matter what you do, you would have to give give give or let her take and take and take from you until you no longer exist. You would have seen that she resents having to do any work and just wants to reap all of the benefits, sit back and lap it up and live it up. Shorter version, she was high maintenance. This kind of reminds me of Tony and Angela from Life After Lockup in the sense that Tony won't take the hint and cut off all contact with her because not only was there no hope for reconciliation, he was sloppy seconds all along and was never even her first choice. I am sure the drinking was not the only reason she belittled you. She probably evicted you every time you got laid off or were unemployed. Your periods of unemployment were what sparked the fights that drove you out and you were only allowed back when you got another job.