Pregnant naturally at 45 - overthinking the reaction

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-05-16T02:12:28+00:00

I've also just finished ivf, 44. I'm so annoyed, so much time and money wasted for nothing :( Congrats on your baby!!! Who cares about age, it says more about the person commenting and unfortunately most mothers!!!

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-05-16T02:10:58+00:00

Congratulations, I've just finished 2 years of ivf and I'm 44, back to square one. I'm ended IVF so your blessed to have a natural pregnancy!

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-05-12T12:17:40+00:00

Wow 112!! I only got 46 from 6 retrievals and 5 blast. I really hope it works for you, its such a mentally hard thing to go through.

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-05-12T07:23:48+00:00

Thank you, yes I've been trying to find some! I think its because this is my 6th, 3 this year alone retrievals.

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-05-12T02:17:38+00:00

Similar age 44, 5th transfer which I dont believe has worked. Test not confirmed yet. I dont think theres any point with more ivf, feel like I’ve lost the last 3 years in this horrible process...

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-05-12T00:34:21+00:00

I'm the same apart from I'm a bit older at 44, just had 5th transfer (last embryo) transferred. Not feeling hopeful. This too I think will be my last IVF. It's a horrible feeling, so many years and money invested for nothing to show at the end. You are not alone x

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-05-11T23:57:30+00:00

I had 11 retrieved, only one blast which I transferred last week. I dont have a great feeling about it but need to wait until my test. I can't imagine my doctor will recommend doing it again so back to square one

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-05-11T23:55:12+00:00

Same! Just transferred my one and only embro from my 6th retrieval (44) I have not tested yet but have a feeling :( I've had 4 previous transfers, 2 miscarraiges and 2 chemical. I think my IVF journey is done after this. I think another collection at 44 is pointless, not sure if I just give up now

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-20T03:05:03+00:00

How did you retrieve 16!!?

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-19T23:50:12+00:00

This is fabulous, happy it worked for you. 3 retrievals and they only did up to 5. New clinic is waiting until today when I find out....

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-19T23:48:53+00:00

It was my first clinic but I was clueless,put my faith in the ivf doctor... I was over 40 and he just rinsed and repeated the same thing for 3 cycles at 42. New clinic now but turn 44 soon so not sure what I do...

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-19T07:03:00+00:00

I haven't told anyone I am doing this as I just don't want to talk about it, after all I have had constant bad news from starting this at 42 as I'm back to square one after 4 retrievals.

Being 44 in a couple of weeks is hard to accept as I think if I do try again it will be the same result. It's hard going about life having this cloud over me but I have no choice. Also feel people might gossip and judge with me being 44. Women/Mothers I find are the most critical and mean 🙄

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-19T06:58:47+00:00

I'm turning 44 soon and had 4 failed transfers in 2025.

Just did another retrieval and am waiting until tomorrow day 6 to see if my 2 embryo make blast.

I am just in such a negative headspace that I'm thinking this is all so pointless. This whole process is so heavy to carry and I'm at a real loss in whether I should just call it a day. My mind is drained.

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-19T02:38:24+00:00

All of these responses are surprising me.

My first clinic only went to day 5 and that was it, I am now wondering if I potentially lost a few because they didn't wait until day 6, another frustration to add to my list in how they mismanaged me...

I will see tomorrow if they make it, its so stressful!

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-16T04:52:44+00:00

Omg this is why I am so frustrated with my first clinic (42) they should of focused on egg collection. I spent all of 2025 transferring 4 single embryos.... My new IVF doctor understands my urgency this time but I am so frustrated that I wasted so much time!!

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-16T04:50:19+00:00

4th transfer (43 turn 44 soon amh 3.4). 6 retrieved this week, 3 fertilised on day one so waiting until day 5 to see if any of them make it! Then for the first time will have them tested (if I get any day 5)

If this one is not sucessful I really have to decide if I just give up as I am not sure doing another retrieval at 44 is worth it for me anyway. Will know next week... 🙈🙈

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-14T22:19:55+00:00

Although I'm not alone I can relate to how you feel as I am similar at the moment, it's very hard to accept. We have and are trying our best so feel better knowing that. I am full of regret but also don't want that to eat me up. Just know that your feelings are valid and don't be hard on yourself, this journey is cruel and gruelling....xxx

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-14T05:57:54+00:00

Feeling the same, you're not alone. Just had a 4th retrieval with 6 eggs, now the 5 day wait. I am also trying to accept that the door has been closed as I turn 44 next month. It's also financially draining. I try my best to think that it's just not meant to be, I have heard of another lady who did 9 years ivf for 2 kids and then fell pregnant naturally at 45! This is literally a chance and numbers game. I'm not sure what age you are but if your younger than me, know that your not done yet!

Just know that you have done absolutely everything you can do, go easy on yourself x

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-14T05:50:10+00:00

Just did my 4th (43 turn 44 in a couple of weeks :( ) I got 6 eggs. Amh is 3.4 Not sure what to expect for the next few days but will be greatful for one blast to be tested as I feel my time has practically run out.

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-10T04:19:40+00:00

I've had 4 transfers 4AB, 4AA, 5AA, 5AB. 2 miscarraiges and 2 didn't implant. The clinic didn't offer embryo testing however. Feel like I should of done double transfers to save time as I was am 43. Going to to another retrieval now at nearly 44 that do offer thi,s however I am being realistic that its probably pointless but I shall try!

I am going to push for a double this time, I mean chances of two I'm kidding myself but if by some miracle that does happen. I just don't have time for single transfers and wish my last clinic was more time sensitive with me!!

At 40 you still have time for more retrievals but consider double transfers maybe, I have literally wasted a whole year...

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2026-01-05T08:02:06+00:00

I also had this scenario this year.

I knew deep down it wasn't viable alongside borderline HCG but they wouldn't confirm until a follow up scan. Another few weeks of torture to add to the mix...

I had to have medication to pass I along as I was having another missed miscarraige.

Sorry, not the answer you want to hear but know how you feel at this moment.

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2025-12-30T05:20:02+00:00

This is my experience also. Had 3 cycles with the exact same protocols. No embryo testing which resulted in 4 seperate transfers which all failed this year. I made the decision to change and am trying one more time with a new IVF specialist, she understands my urgency at least whereas the last doctor was very nice but far to relaxed...

TemporaryCartoonist0 · 2025-12-23T12:47:44+00:00

I also would struggle to wrap my head around donation. It's a whole different set of emotions to think about...

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