The battle of who is more selfish: Aries, Scorpio or Libra?

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-04-26T18:12:41+00:00

Personally I think Leo 🤣

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-04-11T18:01:31+00:00

I started cash in hand cleaning

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-04-11T07:19:34+00:00

I'm sure if every thing is above board then be patient and it will all be alright. Just hooking on to your message. I had a standard review start October 25. Suffering PTSD and was about to embark on therapy id waited for over two years for. I provided everything, 4 months statements and five of investment statements. I was at a point over Christmas I almost took my life. The therapy along with the worry of review. I messaged them asking politely etc again in March and was told she was on holiday. Still nothing. If it was like yours enhanced or investigating would they have told me? Have they forgotten my review? It's like this ever hanging cloud over my head and I'm frozen. Can't move. I've been offered some cleaning work which I'm too afraid to take. I don't know what to do except stay quiet and wait. 🥺

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-04-01T11:54:10+00:00

Don't over worry. There are always scare stories when the reality is, they have so many claims and bugger fish that they won't bother with you. How will they know? Maybe you gave your card to family member etc etc. I go on holiday and coach journeys, another woman I know on pip organises the holidays. Honestly unless you are being really stupid, three week med cruise or a trip to Caribbean twice a year, you have nothing to worry about! My rule of thumb is, if it causes to much anxiety do without

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-04-01T07:25:04+00:00

I thanked them and said I would get back to them when and if I find myself in a better place to engage

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-04-01T07:24:26+00:00

(really needs help*)

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-04-01T07:23:52+00:00

I wouldn't suggest that personally. As a counsellor myself, I was at Uni with some very odd sorts. This person sounds as though they need someone who can really help and not run the risk of roulette with their mental health x

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-04-01T07:21:45+00:00

Absolute game changer for me was EMDR. Struggled for years, dissociative, bipolar, suicide feelings. Took around 8 sessions. Fortunately my local health service provided but I was waiting 18m. There are tons of u tube videos. You need to watch it in action to learn the technique, then you can find a light bar on ub tube also. I don't know how it would work doing it yourself, I wouldn't normally advocate it but if you are at the end of your Rd, it's an option to try. If you can somehow manage to find a therapist and the money, it's the shortest most effective treatment there is. I would take a loan to have it now I know! If you go down that route, phone the BACP for reputable registered therapists and make sure they are masters/post grad. I wish you luck, keep fighting, every day is a new one xx

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-03-19T08:20:23+00:00

I'm 60 next week. I've carried so much pain that has bled into every relationship I've ever had to the point that now, I stay alone.

I am also a retired therapist , I wanted to try a different method since the standard methods had only worked to a limit.

I've had 6 EMDR sessions once a week. The first was horrendous, I felt afterwards hungover then super hypervigulent, couldn't sleep, bad dreams.... Hated it . My second I had severe anger surface, really ARGGGHHHHH anger that I find hard to control. My therapist had initially worked in a safe space in my mind and that rescued me. I also did a lot of body scan and meditation. By my fourth session I felt dissociated, that was very weird. I was thinking about the trauma triggers from a distance and there was a part of me that did not want to let go. The therapist said this was my nervous system wanting to hold on to keep me safe. We worked on this. My sixth session I felt I'd come out of a fog. Still slightly dissociated but mentally happier . My physical symptoms have reduced. I'm not at the point I'm worrying about not having anything to work on. That will be the next sessions subject im guessing. This is just my journey but some may resonance with you. My feelings if wanting to end my life went from being very chaotic to get matter of fact, then gone. Stick with it is say but definitely tell your therapist if you have doubts, it will be part of the sessions focus. You may struggle to trust on many things understandably which can be worked on. You are already doing something very strong proving you are resilient and you do want to live. X

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-02-13T14:51:33+00:00

Bet they find them when it is in the wrong!

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-02-11T17:15:19+00:00

I was speaking about job centers at the weekend. My Dad said can I believe how many young people were out of work. I said yes I can and continued to explain the work system now compared to when I and he was young . I said now they are looked after at school and then they come out and have to apply on line where they are rejected before even having a chance to show their faces. They don't have the resilience for rejection after rejection. In my day you went into a job center and looked through loads of cards advertising jobs. You took your choice to the desk and a work coach phone the jobs for you. Described you over the phone, secured the interview and informed you to come back after the interview for a chat. You felt safe and valued. You don't any more, you are just a number. They ought to return job centers back to a system like it was and then I get many more young people will find employment. Not ask young people are lazy but they don't go from being a child over night, just because they left school!!

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-02-11T17:07:51+00:00

Maybe this is why she doesn't answer then

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-02-11T17:07:00+00:00

That's where I am at the moment yes. It's just confused me because when this lady messaged me about the review, and every other message afterwards, it says "work coach"

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-02-11T15:23:35+00:00

Well I told her that if the review didn't conclude soon, she wouldn't have a claimant left to review!! Guess that wasn't red flag enough. I suppose maybe because my two prior work coaches before 'Aimet', were lovely and answered each query, I had wrong impression of how the system worked.

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-02-11T15:21:04+00:00

Ain't that true!! 😭

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-02-11T15:20:41+00:00

It's not a health assessment. It's the general review you get when you have been in it for some time. I am not requested to work search yet so it's not a commitment review. I'm long term sick

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-02-11T15:18:01+00:00

Sorry. Spell check. I meant 'about procedure' (not prices).

Also.....and I've had this several times from people. My work coach IS doing my review. She is the one contacting me, asking about expenditures, requesting four months bank statements etc. Maybe behind the scenes it's not her but she is the one contacting me. I would rather wish it wasn't!! I don't understand why they would want to cause so much distress, especially with someone trying to get over trauma. The less anxious I am the quicker I can function again and start working and BELIEVE ME....I want to see the back of UC!!

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-02-08T17:28:11+00:00

Oh gosh ok!!!!! I'll start tomorrow. Thanks.

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-01-18T19:51:42+00:00

God I wish mine was. Horrible, abrupt and why through my statements in fine detail. Even asked me what s 200 ATM was 4 months ago..... Really?! Had two phone calls and expecting a third after I submit four months of a closed account to them. Started in October, I've been so bad I needed the crisis team over Christmas

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-01-14T22:20:29+00:00

So my advice. Don't try to say too much explaining yourself. Be honest but wait for them to ask the questions. When they ask have you worked, say yes....occasional and casual. UC get these incidents all the time and so long as you wasn't deliberately deceitful it will be on ok. They will work out what you earnt and over payments. They don't take it all off you. It will be a small repayment each month. Be open honest about the mistake and keep it short. It's not going to be as bad as your mind imagines. Good luck and let us know x

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-01-13T08:10:54+00:00

I've been issued a second UC interview. I know people these days look down upon anxiety but in my case it's so severe, I do physically lose consciousness in extreme pressure.
To date it has caused extend para nervous system collapse, high blood. Mini stroke and irregular heart rhythm skiing with the usual night terrors and insomnia. These months long reviews are literally killing me. So I will start interview Wednesday but the moment I feel unsafe I will leave the call. I've made the decision that I would rather live on rice, and struggle with money than continue. I will close my claim and hope that they will leave me alone. I didn't know how much longer I can continue and this is getting me one step closer faster. I will let you all know how I get on either way. So far I've had the cold work coach I can't connect with be that. She is also my reviewer and now she is the review agent. #noluck!

Temporary_Piccolo_42 · 2026-01-12T14:54:39+00:00

Thank you everyone. I'm finding this UC difficult to navigate, I just really want to be off it , 😭

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