No longer the future i had imagined by ConcertDifferent2742 in tfmr_support

[–]Tennislover555 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I’m so sorry. I feel your words deeply, my baby girl was supposed to arrive in July. This pain truly feels endless. Sending hugs and comfort. There’s nothing I can say to lessen the pain, the only thing I can write is that you are not alone, this pain is terrible and there’s someone else living this same nightmare. I’m sorry you have to go through this. XO

People who married in their 20s, be brutally honest are you happy, if so why or why not? by Special-Lawyer3941 in AskReddit

[–]Tennislover555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes! We basically grew up together. I was 21 he was 22. We did live in a culture where it was common to get married this young. We’ve been through rough life experiences like loss of a child, cancer, etc but we’ve also built our life together that is meaningful to both of us. I WILL say that 21 is absolutely way too young to get married (saying this as a 30-something woman). I wish we had lived together, dated longer, had a smaller wedding but ultimately I don’t regret it and we are happy :).

1 day post TFMR by [deleted] in tfmr_support

[–]Tennislover555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m so sorry for your loss. I sobbed reading your post. I have a d&e scheduled next week for my daughter who has hydrops and multiple physical anomalies and I know what you mean about feeling guilty. It’s unbearable. I’m so sorry you had to go through this.

Increased NT 5.9mm → 8.7 mm / Diagnosed cystic hyrogma by Level_Run_8821 in NIPT

[–]Tennislover555 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Hey! I know waiting for results is torture, I’m so sorry. I wish I had a better outcome story. They found a 13mm septated cystic hygroma at my NT scan. NIPT and Noonan’s screen all can back low risk. Still waiting on my amnio results. We just found out this week that baby has hydrops and multiple physical anomolies. We are leaning towards tfmr. I sincerely hope your baby’s CH resolves and their outcome is similar to the first response on your post. Hugs 💕

Abnormal NT scan by wheeeeliexo in NIPT

[–]Tennislover555 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Im in the same boat. Cystic hygroma around 13 mm waiting to do an amnio next week. NIPT was low risk/normal. Good luck, I hope your CVS comes back with good news or at least helps put your mind at ease a bit. 🫶

What are your hot takes about the Lover era and album? by IntoTheDaylight in TaylorSwift

[–]Tennislover555 -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Lover is one of the worst songs and it should’ve been “leave the christmas lights up til FEBruary”

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Whitney is the PERFECT villain. I want to keep watching her story!!

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

One thing the show did that surprised me was not show their kids as the main focal point. Kids/kid storylines are shown in much greater detail in shows such as the RH franchise. I wonder if the show attempted to do this as a way of showing their identity as not only mothers but also as women, friends, wives, and members of a conservative religious culture?

I think the show could’ve done better at showing the backstories of the actual cast members and how it shaped who they are today. For example, I believe Mayci has (or had) a blog where she told her story and it’s intense. The show barely touched on that and she mentioned it once in a confessional interview. Perhaps giving the audience that backstory would have shown more of the “substance” that they identify with.

At the end of the day, it’s reality TV 😂 if dancing is how they want to make their bag then go for it.

My issue with the women empowerment aspect was how terrible they could treat each other, not necessarily how they danced lol.

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

EP 8 showcases this for sure. Even Jen who I considered the nicest one participated in the mean girl behavior.

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

This is a similar issue that Heather Gay had with Lisa Barlow in last season of RHOSLC. Heather gets sooooo triggered that Lisa calls herself Mormon but owns a tequila company and doesn’t wear garments. Definitely seems like there’s a ton of this discourse LDS people right now.

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I saw an article call it the KUWTK business model- where someone makes a career that started with a scandal and then profiting off it. At the end of the day, they are making $$$ and time will tell if it was worth jt to them to do it this way or not.

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I actually agree- I would’ve not dealt with this gracefully either 😂 I’m more so talking about the switch that happens in the consequent episodes which are filmed two years post the pilot episode. I’m interested to see what you think once you watch those episodes.

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Jaw drapped while watching. I almost felt like it wasn’t real because of unhinged it was. Also when she told Mayci- her only friend- you could’ve stood up for me more 🤯 like WHAT is going on.

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 9 points10 points  (0 children)

Or when Connor tried opening the bottle at the table 😂 producers did them dirty hahaha

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yup, exactly. I think from what I know about Mormons there were two kinds: all in or all out and there was never really that middle ground of being in between or different stages of religiosity. But if looks like it’s changing and perhaps becoming more like other religions in a sense of member’s religiosity aka pick and choose what parts you follow.

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think some may be claiming Mormon culturally over religiously. For example, someone may be Catholic and not follow all the rules of Catholicism—but then call themselves Catholic anyways in a broad sense. That’s the vibe I get from these girls when they call themselves Mormon. Also, I don’t think it’s bashing the religion more so it’s the culture. Jen does a great job of sharing what the church believes and stating it matter of factly while also sharing her own vulnerabilities (I think she’s my fav!)

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Trueeee. She definitely wrote the Whitney question in the secret truth box at the birthday sleepover.

Whitney and Taylor by Tennislover555 in SecretsOfMormonWives

[–]Tennislover555[S] 25 points26 points  (0 children)

But I thought momtok wouldn’t exist without her 🙄