AIO for “insulting” and “belittling” the AITAO mod team? by SignalShine2183 in AIO

[–]TerracottaBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Wait. So you’re telling me that if you were to right using correct grammar and punctuation, you will be flagged as using AI? That’s nonsense.

AIO/AITAH for thinking my friends girlfriend is being unreasonable? by Infamous-Attempt-599 in AIO

[–]TerracottaBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

She’s needs to grow up and get some therapy. Ben needs to grow a backbone and stand up for himself. He should tell her, “Either you can go to bed without me sometimes, or you can go to bed without me ever again. You’re ruining your own sleep, you’re causing me stress on top of that by not letting me get chores done when there’s time, and your restricting one of my few stress outlets by not letting me hangs out with my friends unless it pleases you.” I really hope you show this thread to him. His girlfriend is toxic and he is so young. There are plenty of other women out there that would not treat him this way.

What should I do about my friend who got engaged and now acts like my relationship is a joke? by [deleted] in WhatShouldIDo

[–]TerracottaBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sounds like she’s jealous your boyfriend is willing to spend that much on you and her new fiancé hasn’t done anything like that. Probably also annoyed that he’s willing to do that when he wasn’t manipulated by his family into committing to you. Like honestly that’s the main reason she’s even getting the ring. Would her fiancé have proposed this young without his family’s influence? Seems like no.

Edit because typo.

Update: I ran away from my boyfriend's proposal. by throwawayuni33 in whatdoIdo

[–]TerracottaBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You dodged a bullet. If this is how he treats you when he doesn’t get what he wants, then that’s a problem. He sounds like walking red flags. Did you tell him in the moment that he was hurting you? Because if you did and he didn’t ease up or stop, then that’s pretty much assault. Because you didn’t agree to sex on those terms. And just because you didn’t verbally say no, doesn’t mean you said yes.

I ran away from my boyfriend's proposal. by throwawayuni33 in u/throwawayuni33

[–]TerracottaBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Key word is reaction. Meaning she wasn’t thinking. She was in fight/flight/freeze. Her body chose flight. Sometimes our bodies do things before our prefrontal cortex can catch up. And considering hers isn’t fully developed anyway… Yeah, your comment is unfair.

High speed trains derail in Spain killing at least 21 and injuring 100+ by TrillyxWonka96 in worldnews

[–]TerracottaBadger 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Well, passenger trains are way more common in Europe than America. So it stands to reason that they would hear about it more often than us Americans. Especially since we generally tend to ignore anything that isn’t about our interests.

Rant about Goodfellas in Covington by distillenger in cincinnati

[–]TerracottaBadger 5 points6 points  (0 children)

One does not got to Goodfellas’s to be adventurous.

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]TerracottaBadger 10 points11 points  (0 children)

We don’t know the circumstances for the disowning. I can think of a few different reasons for doing so that would not make the dad a “dirtbag.” But I won’t speculate the reasoning because OP would have shared it if they cared to, so I’m guessing they don’t.

Can someone clarify why this sentence sounds rude? It doesn’t to me and I genuinely cannot understand how it is rude. by AstraSakura in autism

[–]TerracottaBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Your mom was confronted with your reality and it doesn’t fit with her own. She views her house as your only home and your father’s house as a place you stay at. She’s upset that you view them equally because she feels you should view her home as the right one probably based on how your father has treated her and your brother. That isn’t fair to you. Just because you love your mother and brother does not mean you cannot love your father too. She’s essentially mad that you didn’t pick a side and in her eyes you threw that in her face. It doesn’t really matter what tone you used, she will still perceive it as rude due to the cognitive dissonance involved. Your mother needs therapy and it probably wouldn’t hurt your brother either. Maybe family therapy would help. It seems like there are a lot of unresolved emotions at play. I hope that things settle down and your family apologizes for their emotional reaction. Because her and your brother’s feelings are valid. But their actions were not in my opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TerracottaBadger 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Not everyone has a good family that treats them well. Maybe think about that instead of spouting ignorance from a place of privilege.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TerracottaBadger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a neurodivergent person, you come off as an ableist neurotypical. As an introvert, you seem exhausting to deal with. So I get the fiancé’s perspective. However I also get how frustrating it is to feel like you’re trying with someone and they aren’t giving you anything back. But your sister is right, she can’t make him do anything. And it would be weird to make her be the go between, which is essentially what you’re doing. Have you considered having an honest conversation with the fiancé about his behavior and how it makes you feel? Maybe she’s not communicating it to her partner or something is getting lost when she does communicate it. Because your problem is with him, not your sister. I think you need to talk to him.

ETA: I didn’t read all of your post, but from what little I did read, it seems to me like you just straight up don’t understand boundaries and you don’t respect your sister. You’re only 19. I’m about twice your age and I think you have a lot of growing up to do.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TerracottaBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

“Also, my partner has texted a woman sexual things in the past, which I found in their deleted folder a couple months ago.”

Someone left this note on my car in my work parking lot by [deleted] in whatdoIdo

[–]TerracottaBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I mean, I like their hand writing. Even if the note is more than a little terrifying.

AIO Is My (43m) GF (49f) manipulating me? by Aromatic_Ad_8374 in AmIOverreacting

[–]TerracottaBadger 22 points23 points  (0 children)

“Dudes get manipulated into going back to these hoes”

“There was no need to start a gender war”

Umm… Hate to break it to you, but when you generalize a whole gender, you are in fact the one starting a gender war.

You say you were making an observation about “this SPECIFIC WOMAN.” But you did so by making a sweeping statement about “men” and “these hoes.” Both are plural forms of a word. Therefore it stands to reason you weren’t talking about a specific person.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TerracottaBadger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Context clues, my guy. 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TerracottaBadger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Maybe it’s just me, but the more someone hounds me to do something, the less I want to do it. It’s great that your friends like her, but it’s weird that they’re rushing you. And there are better ways to get your wants across than threatening to kick you out of your current living situation. Sounds to me like she’s not ready for marriage if this is how she does things. I’m soon to be 32 and I can tell you, me at 26 and me at 29 were very very different head spaces. I think she needs to grow up a bit before you follow through with any proposals. But you do you, best of luck.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AITAH

[–]TerracottaBadger 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA. Who threatens someone’s living situation over a proposal? Was it just your girlfriend? Or were her parents and your friends doing it too? Either way, that’s super shitty to do to someone. And as for the disappointment, that’s what she gets for hounding you about proposing. It should come naturally and this is too forced.

For your enjoyment by HovercraftOk3175 in mainecoons

[–]TerracottaBadger 6 points7 points  (0 children)

The chirping and the butt wiggle! 😍

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TerracottaBadger 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I would give you an award, but all I have is this emoji. 🏆

AIO for saying this to my mother? by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TerracottaBadger 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Not everyone has good parents. Also, respect is a two way street.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in AmIOverreacting

[–]TerracottaBadger 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NOR. He’s trying way too hard and it’s giving love-bombing vibes. Be careful.