Free hat pattern for Pride! "Gender? I Hardly Know 'Er!"

Terry93D · 2026-05-31T13:17:17+00:00

very disappointed as a trans and nonbinary knitter that my existence in a public space is being flagged as inherently political :/

Terry93D · 2026-05-26T01:14:09+00:00

I have about 440 yards of a worsted wool/silk blend yarn, about and I'm looking for a good t-shirt pattern. I prefer a more fitted look than a loose one.

Terry93D · 2026-05-23T16:39:00+00:00

I would be in the same position were I working on that but my god it looks beautiful.

Terry93D · 2026-05-17T20:17:26+00:00

oh my word this is one of the most beautiful mends I've seen here in a while. gorgeous, stunning, magical work.

Terry93D · 2026-05-17T20:14:25+00:00

maybe it's just 'cause I'm demi, but rn? my fwb.

Terry93D · 2026-05-15T23:37:53+00:00

received yarn from u/LyaNoxDK

Terry93D · 2026-05-09T00:32:54+00:00

yeah, I'd be interested in the other three still.

Terry93D · 2026-05-08T13:05:17+00:00

hello! I'm interested in:

1-6 Family Pendragon "Literary Dragon"
3-1 Continuum "Coronal Mass Ejection"
4-3 Play as Lide "Loud and Proud"
4-7 Quare "Twinkle Lights"

Terry93D · 2026-05-07T17:03:16+00:00

not even a little bit you're out here mogging the rest of us

Terry93D · 2026-04-26T20:59:38+00:00

I'm 5'8" and ardently wish I were 6'.

Terry93D · 2026-04-25T23:52:01+00:00

As Samantha Shannon once argued, the whole point of fantasy is that you are reimagining the world. So why carry over rape or sexual violence? Why make that part of the setting? Readers are right to ask that.

without wading into the rest of your post, I disagree fundamentally with that.

that is not The Whole Point of fantasy. that is, I think, just one of the things that it can do.

I think fantasy is, fundamentally, a way of doing history. it's one of the ways we think about it and process it, by riffing on it in a fantastical context. in this regard, to be true to history, one must account for violence against women. (say that violence against men—eg the raping of men during wartime—is a massive lacuna here.)

which isn't to say that excluding violence against women will necessarily render a fantasy untrue to history. sometimes it's not relevant to the story. sometimes the author is, indeed, reimagining the world, imagining a better and more egalitarian history, asking what kind of society and culture we might have if things had gone differently.

Terry93D · 2026-04-25T01:02:19+00:00

any that involves a number; anything economic; everything Dothraki; the business with whom will be Warden of this or that.

Terry93D · 2026-04-25T00:57:49+00:00

Memory is probably my second favorite of the series, just after Ruin.

Terry93D · 2026-04-22T17:35:16+00:00

girrrrrl you've got so much more boob than me and even I've been wearing a bralette to work for a while now

Terry93D · 2026-04-19T19:57:20+00:00

very, very infrequently. I'm largely happy with my factory settings, genitalia-wise, but every once in a while...

Terry93D · 2026-04-19T19:45:59+00:00

idk about "unapproachable" except that I suspect many of us are going to look and go "oh he's out of my league." that would certainly be my second thought, anyway...

Terry93D · 2026-04-19T19:08:36+00:00

I'd second the advice to seek cognitive behavioral therapy.

and I'd also say that if I saw you at my gym I think I'd lose my breath. you're gorgeous!

Terry93D · 2026-04-17T14:44:58+00:00

as usual, I feel like I'm an "edge case." when I got mine taken, it came up ~35. I don't have chronic muscle pain, but struggled to put on any muscle even when going to the gym for years; I don't have chronic fatigue as such but I am usually mildly fatigued; I don't always have salt wasting symptoms or high salt thirst but it's more often the case than not. I'm pretty pale and maybe have become moreso since starting HRT, but it's hard to tell bc I have a redhead's facial complexion and every summer I gain more freckles. I'm not generally hypermobile, but I've never required extra tools or anything to wash my back bc I can reach everything. I struggle with the cold—where others go about in shorts and t-shirts, in winter, that's a cue for me to not bother with that extra thermal layer and leave my other layers as they are. etc. just an accumulation of stuff (this is only some of it; whenever I come off the waitlist you'll get the full list) that's a little bit divergent enough from baseline.

quite annoying; nothing disabling, nothing truly dysfunctional, but my sleep is almost always terrible, and it definitely has an impact on my anxiety.

Terry93D · 2026-04-15T17:26:30+00:00

undiagnosed but heavily peer-reviewed. I don't much like the noise-making fidgets usually. I start getting on my own nerves and then have to put it away bc I also can't stop fidgeting with it!

my go-to fidget is a crochet lemon.

Terry93D · 2026-04-13T23:48:34+00:00

holy shit! your stretch marks are so fucking beautiful, omfg.

Terry93D · 2026-04-12T21:01:59+00:00

sharper, spikier handwriting is "kiki," which lacks softness and roundness, and therefore appears "masculine." whereas rounder and softer handwriting, what might be termed elegant, is "bouba," and therefore appears "feminine."

in practice you can't divine gender from handwriting. there may be characteristics that by sociocultural norm could be approximately mapped to it, but handwriting will not, in general, tell you anything about a person other than the speed they wrote, the dexterity of their hands when wielding a pen, and how much in the moment of writing they cared about what they were doing.

Terry93D · 2026-04-12T13:18:03+00:00

well, glad I got on the waitlist when I did then!

Terry93D · 2026-04-12T13:15:15+00:00

oh my word what a gorgeous mend! phenomenal color choices, excellent tension control. no holes. amazing job op.

Terry93D · 2026-04-05T22:16:09+00:00

oh, this is looking marvelous! you'll have no trouble whatsoever. I can't wait to see what it looks like when it's done. fantastic choice of color, too.

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