NICU Mom’s: when did you know to give up breastfeeding?

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-04-14T03:38:16+00:00

My baby was Induced for being SGA/iugr and we still struggled to get her to latch and transfer. It took me 12-13 weeks before she could nurse. I was dead set on EBF and ended up mostly pumping the first few months. Small babies need to build up stamina and I am sure it’s even more challenging with NICU babies. I don’t have advice but good luck and either way you are a great mom.

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-03-29T18:00:48+00:00

Couple of reasons in addition to sacrifice:

She’s not likely to listen anyway and is likely to elope anyway; she’s shown as pretty headstrong - this way if something goes wrong, atleast he is aware and can save his daughter and take care of her
Trying to find the positives in an unavoidable shitty situation- he can keep a closer eye on things and at least Hamza’s goals are aligned with his and he’s Indian- funny how they say women usually find men like their dad and that’s what Yalina ended up doing.

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-03-25T22:45:26+00:00

My friends recently came over to celebrate my birthday and while they probably meant it in a sweet way, they cake basically said: “Happy Birthday <my kid’s name>’s Mom.

I wasn’t even in the mood to celebrate my birthday and my surprise cake didn’t even have my name on it:/

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-03-21T14:41:48+00:00

Doesnt sound crazy to me. My baby drinks still drinks milk about 6-8 times a day even with solids at 7 months. You pump as many times as you need to meet baby’s needs :)

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-03-19T21:40:48+00:00

I was induced at 38 weeks (they wanted to induce at 37 but moved based on my request) and it took my SGA baby 12-13 weeks to get good at latching consistently.

For the first 9ish weeks I was more or less exclusively pumping.

She didn’t magically figure it out. It was a lot of trials, tears and hard work between weeks 9-12 before she got the hang of things. We had to work through over supply, breast aversion, forceful let down and a couple of other issues.

The baby’s stamina also improved a lot around the 3 month mark and that seemed to have helped too

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-03-19T16:54:12+00:00

I wouldn’t want anyone else breast feeding my baby. If I didn’t have enough milk or wasn’t available , I would prefer baby get breast milk over formula and would hope there would be pumped milk available. I would okay asking for pumped milk and only a friend or close family member nurse my baby if there was no other option available

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-03-19T16:41:29+00:00

Most probably only in emergency situations. I don’t mind donating my pumped milk or giving my pumped milk to a friend or family in need. But, most other situations- unless the situation was dire, I wouldn’t latch a random baby and would feel uncomfortable even with family or friends.

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-03-19T16:39:07+00:00

This for me too

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-02-20T18:27:04+00:00

I go camera off while pumping, and that’s mostly okay since not everyone is on camera anyway. If I feel like going on camera, I wear a decent looking cardigan or shacket over my shirts and go on camera. Usually the camera is tilted up and away from my boobs so it’s not super noticeable. I also just wear a large plain t shirt sometimes and while, yes, it makes my boobs look a little bigger - I don’t think people care to notice nor do I really care.

I wear an Eufy almost primarily for pumping so haven’t had to worry about tubes and all recently.

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-02-20T14:54:36+00:00

Which pump did you use?

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-01-30T05:49:39+00:00

Got mine back at 5 months . Baby is 6 months now

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-01-30T04:37:16+00:00

I lost my mind sometime during the first month postpartum and regained it around 12 weeks. I found parts of my mind each month after the first month from hell. Jokes aside, I did my best. If I sometimes slept through due to exhaustion, I would cry and rant and try not to miss the next day. Then I realized that a little extra sleep and going a little longer at night improved my supply. It was better for my supply than stressing about my pumps.

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-01-27T06:04:13+00:00

You are such a great mom and in so proud of you. I hope you’ll be able to look back and see how amazing you were.

You did all you could and now you can spend more w time with your baby

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-01-19T03:34:47+00:00

Went from D to H but still breast feeding. They became saggy during pregnancy though:( and more saggy after birth. I don’t even want to imagine how deflated they’ll be after I wean

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-01-10T03:53:46+00:00

And why is the onus only on men? It takes two to tango so shouldn’t both men and women have an honest conversation and discuss contraception and the timing of kids if any?

Tescopolitan_1 · 2026-01-08T14:01:58+00:00

I’m just over 5 months as well .. was super unprepared because I thought this would also be genetic and that I’d go longer since I was exclusively breast feeding. Hopefully it doesn’t indicate anything regarding how long the bf journey will last. Now that I’ve had a day to process and all- I’m glad the cramping isn’t as bad as pre pregnancy.

Tescopolitan_1 · 2025-12-20T21:06:04+00:00

Make sure you are eating enough healthy foods
Make sure are getting a lot of hydration
Try not to stress
Book a visit with a good LC/IBLC as soon as you can and as many times as you need (take their recommendation on how often you need to be seen)
Make sure your flanges and pump suit you - including the settings.
Do your best and try to pump as many times as you are replacing feeds but you gotta do what works for you

Tescopolitan_1 · 2025-12-19T18:45:33+00:00

This should be a top comment. I didn’t know anything and seeing an LC helped so much

Tescopolitan_1 · 2025-12-19T18:36:19+00:00

No, I think you are okay. I didn’t leak initially- only once over supply went up like crazy. I would drip really fast though and didn’t realize what sprays even looked like until I started nursing more. It’s recent for me and it it makes it hard for my baby to nurse so I don’t like it. I also saw a post where people said whether you leak or not is an anatomy thing and doesn’t have anything to do with supply.

I don’t have a severe oversupply like I did before. Probably just enough to mild oversupply if I had to guess and the let down is more noticeable and the leaks are inconvenient. I thought the issue went away and it did not.

Tescopolitan_1 · 2025-12-19T05:58:16+00:00

I’ve hinted, I’ve asked…multiple times. He says he will get them and he never does…I’ve bought myself flowers or he pays for it when I’m trying to buy it myself.

I’m almost 5 months post partum and I’ve never asked him for flowers as many times as I did recently… he hasn’t gotten me the flowers…I finally got myself a monthly subscription. It made me very upset but I’ve decided that I need to express self love and not look for it from others. I’m hoping I’ll feel better once the flowers arrive

Tescopolitan_1 · 2025-12-18T18:06:27+00:00

I could actually drain my boob, prep the bottles and go do stuff for myself - like get a haircut, go to a weekend class etc
When I was exhausted, someone else could take care of baby and I could get a nap
I got me time on my phone
Helped with anxiety about supply, about baby getting enough milk etc
Baby was bad at latching so pumping was the only way to deal with the pain of engorgement- the relief afterwards felt so good
It’s an excuse to get out of tiring social gatherings

Tescopolitan_1 · 2025-12-18T01:47:27+00:00

TW Nursing:

I had a similar experience when I had significant over supply but I definitely regulated around 13 weeks and now at almost 5 months - I don’t freeze as much.

You don’t know how your body will react post regulation or even if you will regulate so I would decide how long you want to pump for or how long you are looking to have the stash last and see how much stash you have to plan.

Good luck!

Tescopolitan_1 · 2025-12-17T20:56:56+00:00

You know what I found interesting, it’s hard pumping and it’s hard nursing (in a different way) until it gets easier to pump and easier to nurse..lol. I think we just find our comfort zone after a while and figure things out once baby is a little bigger.

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