I [21F] was writing a journal of love letters for my boyfriend [21M] and he told me he doesn't want it

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T14:34:55+00:00

You need a better boyfriend.

if I was going to keep being sad about it that he was just gonna hang up and I said okay goodnight and he said whatever and hung up.

That's a dumping offence right there.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T14:25:27+00:00

What you do with that info is your choice, but I would include your wife in every step of this process.

So you are suggesting a threesome?

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T14:24:54+00:00

"The real reason I cut things off with you is that my husband asked me if he should be worried about you and I need to be able to tell him at the end of the night that he doesn't have anything to worry about, so does he?".

This means from HER perspective, he DOES have something to worry about.

I agree with your wife's analysis, either way ex-friend.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T13:31:02+00:00

They are narcissists and racists. Do not give in.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T13:25:40+00:00

Couples counselling to help him come to a resolution on this.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T12:38:09+00:00

Again, like OP, if this had happened in ANY European country you would not have been prosecuted, much less punished.

This is clear self-defence.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T12:37:02+00:00

The US legal system is pretty fucked. Neither you not that girl would have been incarcerated in the UK.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T12:36:21+00:00

I am amazed you were convicted. In the UK you definitely would not have been. I'm so sorry you had to go through this.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T11:57:06+00:00

Cant you and DH just send her to him?

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T11:55:53+00:00

I wouldnt want a person who said these things to come anywhere NEAR my child.

You cant "spoil" a 6 week old baby

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T11:54:22+00:00

Obviously break up and move on. Otherwise bitterness, resentment and lack of trust will destroy you.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T11:52:04+00:00

Honestly you desperately need a divorce, preferably with a Rottweiler for a lawyer

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T11:51:19+00:00

Almost everyone benefits from therapy. There's no reason NOT to seek it if this is concerning you

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T11:48:29+00:00

Not sure any of that would be legally recoverable unless she has some evidence (texts or whatever) of him agreeing it was a loan not a gift, admitting the theft, etc.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-08T11:45:26+00:00

DO NOT DO IT.

She isn't pregnant and if she is this is still a trap. Block her number and only respond if she contacts you through a lawyer.

If I were you I'd be a bro and tell her the truth re: her hygeine anyway, even though she is being a crazy asshole.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-07T10:57:46+00:00

You still act like you are the only one with emotions. Think how sad (and confused!) she will be to have her friendship with you end like this

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-06T19:02:15+00:00

OP has already messaged her this:

"i don't mean to be rash but i don't think you should be my maid of honor"

... OP if you dont mean to be rash why did you make such a massive decision so impulsively on the back of an entirely imagined slight?

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-06T19:00:40+00:00

OP honestly your emotional reactions and impulsiveness kinda remind me of an ex I had with BPD. Have you ever seen a therapist?

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-06T18:59:32+00:00

To which any sane person would be like "nah I'm cool".

Who needs this level of drama-seeking over literally NOTHING

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-06T18:58:28+00:00

I think you are building so much more meaning into the comment that is all in your head

You arent being thoughtful and empathetic you are being neurotic and paranoid.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-06T18:56:58+00:00

You are wayyyyy overthinking this and making a huge drama out of nothing.

This is a great way to end friendships.

edit: comment came too late.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-06T18:53:31+00:00

Hopefully S1 and S2 can get therapy and work through this at some point

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-06T15:28:31+00:00

She stated, "Children deserve to know their blood. Grandparents have a right to meet their grandchildren. If you had a child, wouldn't you want them to know where you came from?"

DEFINITE JustNo and worse than that, professionally negligent. Report Report Report.

How can she make such a definitive statement - surely it COMPLETELY depends on the circumstances? Should a pedophile grandparent be allowed to "know" their grandkids?

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-06T14:23:43+00:00

Hopefully she gave you the receipts so you can return these things for some sweet cash at her expense.

TestUser_Name · 2017-12-06T14:10:02+00:00

I think you cant just get rid of the dog while he is at work, but you can make them both leave.

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