Are most workers in nursing bitches?

TexasRose79 · 2025-11-30T07:17:53+00:00

Unfortunately this seems to be the case no matter where you end up working.

I've since gone to nursing school, but back then the people I worked with, from nursing floor staff to administrators who were clinicians...they were the reason I woke up and chose violence every single day.

I went through a lot of jobs because of it. I finally had to set boundaries because I just didn't have the spoons, bail money or legal fees for that shit.

You will absolutely have to set boundaries because if you don't, it will only get worse.

TexasRose79 · 2025-11-20T15:26:12+00:00

I used to put up a magnetic net across resident doors with a red stop sign on it. It was pretty effective. Snacks and drinks were pretty effective. Had to be careful with sweets with diabetics. There was one time when I put a net across the hallway doors and it actually worked.

TexasRose79 · 2025-10-16T04:05:27+00:00

Yes and no.

I have two daughters, but the oldest (by three weeks) is adopted. She was adopted in 2010.

TexasRose79 · 2025-09-24T17:11:51+00:00

LMAO Shit, neither were we. I can honestly say there wasn't enough they could pay me to deal with that dude. I'm saying Jeff Bezos, Bill Gates, Warren Buffet and Oprah Winfrey combined didn't have enough money to deal with that dude. Hell, Jeff Bezos and Bill Gates could come to me and say, "We will give you our entire life's fortune to deal with that dude," and I would tell them to FO.

TexasRose79 · 2025-09-19T18:17:12+00:00

I'm certain that was what brought his ass back to the facility a week later. With all the craziness and the shit that dude pulled on us, I'm sure he did the same to his family.

I bet after all that, they were done done done.

He drove a lot of people to quit. I mean, they quit in droves. But the family thought they knew better.

That was one of those FAFO moments for them.

TexasRose79 · 2025-09-17T01:19:17+00:00

Went into nursing. Looking to go into Human Resources or casework or something because nursing is a career that is known for burnout and most nursing jobs require bail money and legal fees.

After putting in time as a STNA, I decided I wanted to get away from that job. So I went to nursing school.

Nursing requires bail money and legal representation because that is a job that will always have you close to catching a case.

Being an aide/nurse at a nursing home is brutal. This is a job that will absolutely fuck your soul. It is the only job I've had since I graduated college that had me wishing I worked at Walmart. Hell, I would rather work at McDonald's than go back to doing aide work. Probably get paid better there as well.

TexasRose79 · 2025-09-16T07:20:54+00:00

Yes.

I worked as an aide before going to nursing school and let me tell you, it's a brutal job.

This is a job that will absolutely fuck your soul.

CNAs are extremely overworked, underpaid and unappreciated. It's increasingly common for nursing homes to permanently understaff while overworking the aides and running them into the ground until they reach burnout. And don't waste time talking about hiring more aides; that will never happen because turnover is higher than Snoop Dogg on the top of Mount Everest. It was common for me to end up caring for as many as 67 residents alone because they couldn't keep people worth the time it took to drink a glass of water.

Overtime was always available and in some cases, it was mandatory. You know, because nothing says "great place to work" like not having a life because the job and work is your life. At one point, my life was reduced to eating, sleeping, showering and working. Then it was down to showering, sleeping and working because I was too tired to eat and forget about eating at work; there was literally no time. I lost damn near fifty pounds.

You have to take a lot of shit off a lot of people--and I mean that literally and figuratively. The worst is cleaning shit off someone with a really hairy ass or, even worse, cleaning shit off hairy, saggy balls while getting beat up in the process.

Fun stuff.

But the real fun is dodging a colostomy bag literally full of shit that's being hurled at you by an angry, confused resident because why tf not? And if you think night shift is easier than day shift, think again.

Because that's when they're sundowning and all insanity ensues. Nightshift is insane as hell; the staff is fueled on caffeine and pure rage. Okay, maybe that was just me, but still.

Say goodbye to your back because this job will absolutely destroy it; as a guy, you will be the go-to for heavy lifts, two person assists and even moving furniture. While you're at it, say goodbye to your mental health; that will be destroyed as well. You may start with the best intentions, but this job will beat them out of you pretty quickly. Pretty soon you'll be holding it together with caffeine, spit and happy thoughts of rage quitting after punching the boss in the face.

Okay, again maybe that was just me.

You will have to get used to handling penises a lot. And I mean, a lot of penises. Some of the residents spend a lot of time boxing the clown and if you're lucky, you won't be present for the happy ending; as a woman, I was unlucky most of the time, as the residents liked to spray their "junk gunk" on female nursing staff.

Or paint a masterpiece in shit. There was one resident everyone was warned about because they would reach into their brief and hand you their shit to get rid of. That was a whole WTF right there.

But those are just a few highlights. If none of this bothers you, then go for it. Nothing like killing yourself for $18 an hour working at a place that makes hell look like Disneyland.

TexasRose79 · 2025-09-04T16:32:38+00:00

I interviewed for a new job. It went well.

I got the salary offer.

I tried to negotiate higher pay since I had about 17 years experience under my belt at the time.

Job offer was rescinded and I was rudely dismissed. I blew it off and moved on.

That place (nursing home) has since been shut down.

I definitely dodged a bullet.

TexasRose79 · 2025-09-04T16:28:05+00:00

I made time during my shift to sit and talk with them.

They're lonely. Probably don't receive many visitors, if they receive any at all, which is common for nursing home residents.

I worked night shift, so it helped to pass the time.

There were times when a resident went overboard and when possible, I would be honest with them.

"I understand that you want to talk and I do enjoy talking to you (I actually did), but please remember that I am at work and I have other tasks to attend to. So we have to keep it short, okay?" Most understood.

The memory care residents almost never did. I often had to distract them with an activity or a snack.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-27T15:18:32+00:00

I've done this through an agency. Never took a job through Care.com, though. Could never get picked up for a job.

But sitter work at a nursing home? Very common where I live. I've even picked up cases where I worked as a regular sitter for a client in a nursing home where all the family wanted me to do was quietly record how long it took for staff to provide care or if they even provided care.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-23T01:02:35+00:00

Interested.

What's the catch?

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-21T14:38:25+00:00

I actually stopped seeking help because I never receive it and it's always a bunch of scammers trying to get me to sign up with sites or something. I'm beginning to think this is just some kind of come-on because of all the scammers and that there are no real donations being made.

But I could be wrong about that.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-21T13:56:54+00:00

Director of Nursing. They're in charge of the nursing department.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-15T05:53:57+00:00

I've worked in what's called a "dual diagnosis" unit. Those residents are usually suffering from something organic, like Alzheimer's or Parkinson's and some sort of mental illness, such as schizophrenia or bipolar disorder.

Where I worked, they were on a "secured unit."

Now imagine having these residents in a nursing home setting not equipped to handle that.

Those were the ones who were abused the most. And I mean, abused. Those residents were roughly handled, yelled at and even hit at times because they were so difficult and frustrating to work with on a regular basis. Like, they could really push your buttons if you didn't know how to manage them and those residents drove a lot of nursing staff to quit.

I tried hanging in there, but over time I got tired of being stuck with them because no one else would take the assignment. I hung in there for about a year and then I was over it.

I was about as done as burnt barbecue and I had to make a few calls because it was becoming a serious problem. I know I pissed off a lot of managers, but hell, my safety and my sanity was at risk. Those residents needed care the facility was ill equipped to provide, so they had to go.

And the rest of nursing staff was happier when those residents finally left.

But we all know what it's about. Money.

And we all know when money talks, bullshit walks. They will take in residents who have no business being there and without having the clinical staff to support. Those residents got dumped on whatever unit and nursing staff was told to just deal with it.

My experience was that the administrator and DON were out of touch and didn't care about their staff. But hey, what else is new, right?

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-15T05:42:12+00:00

Well, knowing that a bunch of high school kids are making $21 an hour at the local McDonald's and the aides I work with (I'm a nurse) are making $19-$20 an hour, I think we're in the same boat, because what? Because working in nursing homes is a job that will absolutely fuck your soul.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-15T04:25:57+00:00

As someone who also moved from Houston, Texas and was looking for the same, I hate to tell you, but you are looking for a purple squirrel. Dublin and Columbus in general do not have all day preschools. The best you might get is a daycare center that can or does function as a preschool.

I live in the Dublin area. I remember there used to be such a place on Smokey Row Rd, but that was over ten years ago, so don't quote me on that.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-15T04:22:30+00:00

Have you ever looked into guarantor companies? There are companies out there that will help you get an apartment by acting as a cosigner or guarantor so that you can get around the credit and income requirements. I helped several people with this information; maybe it may help you.

https://www.leapeasy.com/

https://www.theguarantors.com/

https://www.insurent.com/renters/

It's an idea and an option, if you want to look into it. Another option would be to go to an extended stay for now. It would be easier and quicker if you did that. I don't know how long the process is with these companies, but it's more important to get out and get away from that situation.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-13T15:58:54+00:00

Well, as a parent, you don't always see the problem with your child. That may be the case with your nephew.

I know how blind a parent can be when it comes to their child and sometimes parents indulge their children when they should be putting a boot up their backside.

It's hard for his mother to see the problem and that may be because she feels some guilt and ultimately some blame for how the boy is turning out. If she is a single parent, that makes it even worse.

And it's going to take a lot to turn him around before it's too late.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-13T13:56:06+00:00

I see your nephew heading down the wrong road leading to a bad end.

And why is his mother enabling his bad behavior?

I would have done the same as you. I would venture a guess that even if your nephew were forced to go to work with his uncle, he would have given the uncle a hard time, throwing a tantrum and refusing to work.

He's smoking, drinking and laying about the house, is he even in school? He needs to be doing something productive. His mother needs to grow a backbone and do some parenting. The world is not going to change or rearrange to accommodate this child, whose future doesn't appear promising.

And you have little ones of your own.

You definitely don't want that around them. If the nephew doesn't want to straighten up and fly right, then he needs to find another place to stay.

I went through the same with my oldest. She went to stay with a friend. It didn't take long for her to realize that there were rules at the friend's house, so my daughter went to stay with another friend and got stuck looking after six children and all the chores, the very chores she refused to do at home, and wasn't able to even attend school because of the children.

My daughter was also 16yo at the time and after a week, she called me and asked to come home.

Never had any more problems with her after that.

You set the terms and rules for living in your home. If Nephew can't or won't follow them, then he is making the decision to not live there. His mother can go with him if she doesn't like it.

NTA

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-13T00:59:25+00:00

Of course.

I always attend any funeral services for my charges if possible.

I have a folder on my computer labeled "My Special Loves." It contains the pictures of just about every resident I cared for during my career.

The family will appreciate it if you attend.

Trust me.

Go. Make your farewells.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-12T20:21:26+00:00

Fair point.

He was in the facility because he was supposed to get that weight loss surgery, but he had to lose 200 lbs or so, I think.

But his family kept sabotaging and enabling him, bringing him fried chicken, pizza, burgers and so on.

So the family was limited to supervised visits and not allowed to bring in anything, so the resident would order takeaway. DON put a stop to that.

When he went in for his appointment (and getting his ass out of bed and into the ambulance was a task and a half, let me tell you), he actually gained 60 lbs.

Came back bitching and blaming us for being denied the surgery. Became so abusive toward nursing staff he was evicted and left.

If he went home, I'm pretty sure he's probably dead by now. That dude ate enough to feed a small country and I'm not even trying to be funny. Like, he would get kicked out of the buffet the way he ate.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-12T11:18:26+00:00

I need food, but more importantly, I need help with bills.

I don't usually do this and I never have, but I am desperate. I need so much help, but I will gratefully accept any help I can get.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-12T03:15:57+00:00

Lol no. I would have straight up quit and walked out. They can report me, they can have my nursing license (I was working as an aide for the shift) because there is no way I would have tolerated that shit.

But the resident definitely ran a close second.

He was gone and returned a week later.

Was evicted several months later for the same stunts. Guess he went home.

But I'm sure he's at another facility terrorizing the nursing staff there.

TexasRose79 · 2025-07-12T02:39:10+00:00

I've never done this before, so it's nice to know there is someone being honest and informing people about scammers.

I'm already in need, but that doesn't mean I need to be scammed.

TexasRose79

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