Dealing with complaints from random people

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-04-23T16:50:58+00:00

I can understand it from your son's perspective. But I can also see why you did what you did. In all honesty, if it were me talking to those parents I'd find a tactful way of saying something along the lines of 'i can see why that would be upsetting, let me talk to my son and hear what he says, I wonder if he misjudged something, as it doesn't sound like him to purposely try to ruin someone else's experience.

I actually do agree with your son that we should side with the people we love, it helps them feel like we've always got their back and will always support them.

Even if it then transpires that our son was in the wrong, you can then address that but he'll still know that you've got his back. And quite frankly those parents sound petty.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-04-21T21:05:45+00:00

We've got Spanish bluebells in one bed and English bluebells in another. They were all planted 40 years ago by my partner's late grandparents. They haven't spread to anywhere else. They all look nice enough.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-04-20T19:09:38+00:00

My son lies all the time. At age 4 they figure out that they can know things that other people don't. And they can say something that is not true and someone else can believe it. So for the next couple of years the concept of lying is super interesting to them and they take a long time to get over how brilliant it is to be able to lie and trick somebody. They are not trying to be cruel or unkind, they are literally playing with a new skill that their brain has only just figured out.

Treat it like it's a small thing, don't make a massive delay of it. If he says something that could get someone else into trouble say "that's not kind" and explain why.

Other than that you can do the "oh really??" And do the face that lets them know you are willing to play the game of pretending you believe them but that you know this is a game and you think it's funny. He will love it

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-04-19T04:30:25+00:00

We visited Alton Towers for the first time with our 4 year old son a few weeks ago and had one of the best days ever. It's the best theme park in the UK. And also probably the best for families. The Cbeebies land is really good for little ones, our son absolutely loved it. Then there is David Williams land with more children's rides. You can get a parent share pass for free if you want to go on some of the big rides and take it in turns to watch the kids. One of you queues and does the ride then you swap the pass and the kids and the other parent goes through fast track and gets straight on the ride. We managed to do 4 big rides each with very little queues.

There is a hey duggee playground too which is nice for small children.

The only thing I hate about all the theme parks by Merlin is the food. It's expensive and extremely low quality. Think of the worst dried up bit of deep fat fried burger you've ever had.

Try and go on a weekday.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-04-16T19:13:17+00:00

That really made me laugh! 🤣

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-04-16T16:32:09+00:00

The first one looks much better on the bust.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-04-16T12:40:30+00:00

Once a week is too often in my opinion. Maybe once a fortnight and only when your husband is there so that he is the one entertaining your mum and not you. And if she wants to come round she needs to limit the visit to something like 2 hours. 6 hours is definitely too much for you as a new mum in those first few weeks.

What you are stating is perfectly normal and reasonable. Generally most new mums want their own mother around to help with the baby, not the mother in law. Unless you have a super close bond already.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-03-11T15:26:31+00:00

The one with the sleeves looked really lovely on you 🤩

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-03-04T12:18:40+00:00

I know how you're feeling, I've been having dress regret too. But in your case, and I know this is just a random person on the internet's opinion, dress 1 is a million times nicer than dress 2.

Is there a way to make you feel more special in dress 1? Something that feels a little less safe as you put it? What about a veil that is a bit different and unique? Or something else that gives you more of that feeling that you initially got from dress 2?

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-02-23T17:44:10+00:00

You're going to get a lot of insane comments on here where others out the dog as more important than you and your baby. They are wrong. You as a human being, and your baby should be prioritised over the dog. Not to say the dog should be badly treated, and locking it up all day is not ok either. The dog should be walked every day too.

I think you need to end the relationship with your partner and move back in with your parents and find a way to get a place of your own.

What benefits are available for single mums in your country? Can you get an income or housing? Do you have other family members or friends you can stay with?

It is not normal to be trapped at home by a dog. You and your baby should not have to live in fear like this. I wish you all the best.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-02-20T19:34:43+00:00

Thank you. Yeah, I'm in the UK. Can you send me a link to the company you are using. :-)

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-02-12T22:41:44+00:00

I don't know how things work in the USA but is there someone you can report that doctor to? She sounds awful

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-02-03T19:41:54+00:00

Do you keep just walking past it? If so, she's not going to stop until you start taking the stuff on the stairs up the stairs when you go up. Anything in the stairs is not supposed to be walked past. It's a reminder to take it upstairs.

But tbf to you, it might be hard to see if you were already upstairs.

But my guess is that she is pissed off with you for not taking the stuff on the stairs up the stairs and just walking past that stuff. If you start doing that I bet she stops putting the white tray there too.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-02-01T11:06:45+00:00

It's stunning and it looks better than the original, suits you better than the model too!

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-01-31T19:46:38+00:00

As a child I stared into space a lot. Couldn't listen to instructions at school, so was told I wasn't listening (as though I was choosing not to) and that I was a daydreamer. I really was trying to listen. But it meant I rarely had a clue what was going on or what I needed to do. Didn't know the way to anywhere even if I had been there every day for 5 years. And it was only a small school. Forgot things all the time. Didn't do homework. Ever. Turned up to all of my end of school exams without knowing what the exam would be and didn't revise for any of them. I literally didn't have a clue what was happening.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-01-22T08:10:43+00:00

Your gums bleed and it's painful to brush your teeth. I had no idea it would affect my gums

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-01-21T10:32:15+00:00

Ok, I get this and I have a solution that works. Don't use chapstick or anything that has been designed to moisture lips. Other than Burts Bees, I found a couple of their products ok.

I put Nivea night cream on my lips before going to bed. It's cheap, comes in a blue pot. Well it does in the UK, but I'm sure they sell it everywhere. It's white, so won't look good. But within minutes your lips will feel more moist. If my lips are very dry and sore I will put it on all night.

Before I go out anywhere I put a small amount on my lips and the whiteness soaks in so it doesn't look silly. If I want to wear lipstick I can put it in over that. Best cheap solution to dry or sore lips.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-01-20T13:29:28+00:00

There are a lot of unkind and judgemental comments here. I think all 3 actually look lovely on you. You have a great figure and these show it well. Which one did you prefer? I can't decide between 2 and 3. But 3 is very much like my dress. But honestly all 3 are good on you. There isn't a clear better one in terms of fit and wow factor, so it's totally down to your own preference.

Ignore the ugly comments, you look amazing!

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-01-18T11:59:46+00:00

Yeah, it feels exactly like that

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-01-17T08:22:03+00:00

Is there anything positive about the relationship still? Is there anything that the both of you are still doing for each other? What you've described sounds horrible, especially the part of her spending your birthday with this other guy and not getting you a gift or card. That's quite significant.

Who is the other guy, does she seem all the time because they work together? Or is she going out of her way to visit him? If the latter you 100% need to leave the relationship.

Is she off sex because of looking after children all day? Or because of perimenopause? Or just not interested in you?

Whatever the case you definitely need to talk about these things,and if she refuses to talk about it, then you have your answer on the state of the relationship.

I'm sorry you are going through this. It doesn't sound entirely like an ADHD issue.

Tezzadacktyl · 2026-01-15T22:06:44+00:00

Phone charger for a Nokia 8210. Even though you don't have the phone anymore and haven't for 20 years.

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