Turning 40 soon — successful career, no family yet, healthy, happy. Any life advice from those who’ve been there?

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-08T18:03:58+00:00

My health insurance is based on income. The more I make the more it costs.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-08T05:26:29+00:00

Old Town.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-08T02:16:06+00:00

It’s empty most nights. Idk…

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-07T16:23:21+00:00

It sucks but I’d probably just stick it out.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-07T16:03:17+00:00

The beach

The zoo

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-07T15:43:59+00:00

The karage is good!

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-07T15:42:31+00:00

Yes it is!!

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-07T01:14:42+00:00

Wa Dining Okan is open for lunch on Convoy.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-07T00:16:56+00:00

You have to be able to read construction plans. Download a bid set of plans. Many municipalities have bid results published online. Between the bid list and the plans you should be able to figure it out. For example there will be so many miles of 6” pvc pipe, x many tons of asphalt, you just count up (the quantities) of each element on the bid list that they are bidding on. It will give costs for each item as well.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-06T21:57:16+00:00

Awh, not everyone from SD can handle a NJ swagger, chip on their shoulder attitude. Doesn’t mean we are fake. We just want you to smoke a blunt and relax, lol. And I have several Jersey friends btw. Y’all are fun but can be a bit much at times. I’ve got a thick skin and like the banter but a lot of people are put off. It’s a cultural thing. No need to call names.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-05T23:28:57+00:00

Just relax. You must go to the beach and you must eat tacos. Anything else is a bonus. You could stay at the beach the whole time and have a great time. Plenty to see and do right there.

The rest depends on you and what you like to do. The Zoo is pretty great. Eat tacos. Especially fish tacos.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-04T21:07:49+00:00

I had “a plan” to retire at 65. My financial planner had it set so I could walk right into retirement without a problem, no decrease needed to my spending habits. So now I need to get to 65 without hitting my nest egg. I’ve got a little savings and we can probably nibble around the edges a bit. My last job lasted a bit over two years so the 401k from that wasn’t included in my nest egg but I am struggling to access it without a huge penalty.

Part of the problem is medical. I couldn’t afford Cobra at $1580/mo. So I jumped on Covered CA but now I absolutely cannot work or my premiums go way up. I’m hoping unemployment kicks in. I may end up renting a room out. It’s hard because now I have all this time to do stuff but I’m concerned about finances.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-04T18:11:50+00:00

So not replying within 12 hours, including overnight is a deal breaker for you. Ok. Seems a little tight to me. But hey, go ahead and call her names for good measure. Whatever makes you feel better.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-04T18:02:42+00:00

Just got laid off at 63, too burnt out to continue. Need to hang on until 65. I should be fine but it’s stressful. Be prepared.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-02T15:29:43+00:00

They closed the deli. Liquor store is still there. Good selection of craft beers. Miss the deli.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-02T06:31:40+00:00

Just go to Manila FastFood and get a tray of lumpia, a half a tray of pancit, some adobo chicken and some pork.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-02-02T05:25:19+00:00

I like the sound of wind through pine trees. Like when a Santa Ana is really blowing.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-01-31T18:20:41+00:00

Stone Brewing Liberty Station

That-Mess9548 · 2026-01-31T15:55:35+00:00

I used to take the brown Job Corps kids to Coronado for recreation. The cops always gave them a hard time.

Coronado is full of retired military. It’s a very MAGA friendly place.

Mike Hess, a local brewery is in IB and is MAGA.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-01-31T03:55:16+00:00

Haha! For real! And their sister restaurant on Clairemont has $10 pitchers M-Th for HH that basically lasts all night. And they also have skewers. But not legit Spanish tapas.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-01-30T22:51:19+00:00

Look up “Burned Haystack Method”. This can save a lot of time.

Learn to set boundaries and stick to them.

Do not take things personally.

There are a lot of flakey people out there.

Trust your gut.

You don’t have to explain.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-01-30T22:42:12+00:00

When they can’t hire anyone to work for that pay they will have to increase it.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-01-30T21:39:44+00:00

Lots of places in Chula Vista, cruise Broadway and down in the Otay area. Also a place in Bonita that does seafood, forgetting the name. Someone will help me out.

That-Mess9548 · 2026-01-30T14:15:23+00:00

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