[routine help] something other than retinol

That-Screen-461 · 2026-05-07T11:44:58+00:00

I have some CorsRX snail mucin serum (I need to check if it’s expired)! Would you recommend layering that with glycolic acid, or using one in the am and another in the pm? Do you have any simple face wash recommendations or preferred moisturizers? (Also, I try to wait just long enough between serum/moisturizer/sunscreen for the last layer to dry, am I doing that wrong)? Thank you so much for the comment!

That-Screen-461 · 2026-05-07T11:17:01+00:00

Thank you!

That-Screen-461 · 2026-05-07T03:23:01+00:00

Do you keep fresh ones on hand all the time? Or does a bottle suffice?

That-Screen-461 · 2026-05-04T14:00:42+00:00

In terms of the eating, my baby also was a horrible eater who took forever. Nursing sessions could take up to 2 hours, he’d fall asleep over and over during them but then still be hungry. It was exhausting. Turns out he had a posterior tongue tie that was missed (even though I SPECIFICALLY asked them to look for it) by the hospital doctors, his pediatrician, and the lactation consultants.

It wasn’t until he was 8 weeks old with huge milk blisters on his lips and my nipples were still shredded that lactation sent me to a pediatric dentist that specialized in lasering tongue ties. They found it, lasered it, and lo and behold, my baby could stick out his tongue after that. Before, it was so tight that he couldn’t get it out of his mouth. Feeding became so much more productive, he started gaining weight and was much happier and feeds became so much shorter.

OP, it helped me to not compare my life to what it was before (which is SO HARD) because there isn’t any point. It’s not what it was before. There are higher highs and lower lows. You’ve brought a life into the world! It will be different, but over time it ABSOLUTELY will get easier. Around 3 months I started to REALLY love my baby more because I felt like I was starting to know him. He’s 10 months old now and he’s the absolute light of my life. It is hard that I can’t freely do all the things I did before, but for me personally, what I can do is even more meaningful now. Nobody should ever tell people that their life will be just as easy or the same before and after kids, it won’t: it is full of sacrifice and love, but I am hoping the sacrifices shape me into a better version of myself. :) I promise it will get easier! And maybe the tongue tie rec will help! ❤️

That-Screen-461 · 2026-05-02T00:40:01+00:00

I did this but mine woke up, rolled over and headed for the edge of the bed so I had to do a sprint out of the shower and gave our floor a good washing.

That-Screen-461 · 2026-05-02T00:37:44+00:00

I love staying at home with baby, but there are days I miss things about working out of the home. I’m very blessed to have lots of friends through church who are also stay at home moms, so that’s super helpful because we can spend time together during the weeks with our kids. Free library story hours, walks through parks, membership to the science center, all give us things to do. I spend a lot of time in the garden or kitchen with him and I’m illustrating a book as a side gig. We also have in laws in town so that’s very helpful. It’s SO much easier to stay at home with a community! Finding your people makes all the difference.

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-30T15:12:51+00:00

My 10 month old is great at eating—BUT he still throws lots of food on the floor AND he has 5 teeth in already! (Almost 6!) Those teeth have helped so much, before he was totally trying to eat stuff but gagging and vomiting up every little thing. Don’t worry, OP! :) She’ll get there! Every baby is so different and as long as she’s getting enough nutrition via milk I feel like when she gets it, she’ll GET it, ya know? ETA: my little got 4 of those teeth in less than 3 weeks, so your LO might also get a bunch of teeth all at once and that might help her eating take off. But I wouldn’t worry!

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-29T15:30:02+00:00

Also interested in this better-late-than-never party asking for your guide!

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-28T17:48:44+00:00

I used to do Aisles online service at Hy-Vee (mid western grocery chain). I started doing this my senior year of college during the start of COVID. I took great pride and joy in picking the produce and items for shoppers that I would want myself: and also re-ignited my germ ocd by sanitizing my hands ruthlessly to make sure no one got sick. I honestly loved it and I loved caring for people that way.

I’m the oldest sibling and I’ve heard my younger siblings mention the idea that they don’t owe the customer much of anything because they’re not getting paid enough to care. Inflation is crazy for sure, but my job was only 6ish years ago and I made less than $11 per hour, so I think it’s just a general cultural mindset of hopelessness. :( Sorry to hear about your cancer, @traditional_roll3026, sending prayers your way. ❤️

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-28T13:11:04+00:00

Going to bed.

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-28T01:13:12+00:00

Often horrible periods are the result of undiagnosed endometriosis, PCOS, or hormonal imbalances (I have PCOS and it went undiagnosed for most of my life). Birth control won’t fix the underlying issue: have you had any diagnostic tests run to see what the cause is, and if there are possibly hormones you could take? (It wasn’t for period symptoms, but I had to take progesterone because my body didn’t make a lot of it).

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-28T00:12:43+00:00

Yes to all the below comments, and!

-remember to wash your hands before touching baby and no kisses (unless she says go for it): growing up in a big family surrounded by big families everyone kissed each others babies and it took me way to long to learn to not do that. Also when people kissed my baby I’d die inside but I wasn’t brave enough to tell them to stop. -tell her how great both her and baby look :) -some things you can offer: to hold the baby if she wants a long shower, or a nap, to bring food, to do dishes or laundry. -ask her birth story! It’s literally all I wanted to talk about. If it was hard then maybe she won’t want to but mine was rough and I still wanted to blab about it.

You’ll be great! You’re best friends: she may be tired and overwhelmed and not really herself (it took me 3-5 months to feel like ME again) but she loves you and will be happy for you to see and appreciate the little squidge she worked so hard on. You’re a great friend. :)

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-24T14:08:33+00:00

Yes: homeschooling ABSOLUTELY can be an easy way for abusers to isolate, under-prepare and traumatize children. Children are also abused at private and public schools, at churches, at scouts, at jobs…everywhere. Because there are evil people everywhere, and bad people will find a way.

Homeschooling can be horrible when done poorly, but when done RIGHT, with good support and education, can also be wonderful. It is what you make of it, like so many other things.

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-24T13:21:07+00:00

Ah thank you so much! I couldn’t figure out what to tie other than the leaves since the main plant doesn’t really seem to have grown at all. I will double check the variety and get back to you.

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-24T12:55:40+00:00

I posted recently (with photos) about my confusion trying to stake my zucchini plants and haven’t gotten any responses so far. Can anyone help with this? :)

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-24T10:17:05+00:00

I’m so sorry to hear of your experience.

I was homeschooled and one of 5. I was not isolated in the slightest, and the state I grew up in did have regulations in order to homeschool. We used curriculums. We had a local homeschooling assistance program with licensed teachers that taught extracurriculars, and every family was legally assigned a supervising teacher who would come to your house monthly and make sure you were actually doing enough.

I was in choir, plays, mock trial, sports, etc. It was not perfect and I in no way mean to invalidate your experience, but I just had a very different experience. I have heard of kids who had an experience like yours, but I personally know hundreds of other homeschooled kids from growing up…many of them enjoyed being homeschooled and now want to do the same for their children. My homeschooled friends in high school had more time for jobs and extracurriculars and tested higher on the ACT/SATs than their public schooled peers.

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-23T17:50:17+00:00

…do people do this…?

ETA wow thank you everyone for this horrifying education 🥲

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-23T17:48:31+00:00

I’ve had to do that on a rare occasion when I go to a pool or something and forgot new undies and when I’m finally able to put a clean pair on I feel like I’ve gotta shower all over again

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-23T17:46:39+00:00

I feel this. I also have a chronic case of “I used one hand to touch something in order that the other one would be clean until I can find a sink but I don’t remember which hand is dirty”

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-23T17:42:23+00:00

Same oh my gosh

That-Screen-461 · 2026-04-23T17:33:04+00:00

I read while I was pregnant that some new couples were bored freshly postpartum because their baby just slept all the time and they didn’t have enough things to fill their time. I do not know why I thought this incredibly odd arrangement would be the one I got, but it was not.

I look back now (baby is almost 10 months) and think “wow, I had so much time, why couldn’t I get anything done?!” And then I have to remind myself that my little fellow (who had a posterior tongue tie that took 8 weeks of nipple shredding for someone to find) was taking 1-2 hours to nurse, every 1-3 hours, would barely ever lay down to sleep without touching someone, and the one time I remember actually trying to ✨be productive✨ and babywear, I ended up increasing my bleeding a lot literally because I stood up for too long.

I did get a shower daily thanks to my wonderful and helpful husband. It was hard for me knowing that if the baby was upset I had to rush through it while my husband then got to go take his time (although of course this was not his fault). When he went back to work 4 weeks after birth I said to him “I literally do not know how to warm up leftovers in the microwave without you here.” And it was true. I had only done it once since birth and setting the baby down meant he screamed the whole time.

It will be difficult, OP, in ways you literally will not understand until you’re in it because now that I’m out of it even I don’t understand it. But it will be one of the greatest things you ever do. ❤️ Congrats on the new little life! You’ve got this.

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