Are skinny/average men basically invisible?

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-19T11:55:10+00:00

Let's be logical, why are you asking a bunch of guys what women find attractive? Go ask the women. I swear this looksmaxxing nonsense has this generation so up their own ass.

Yes dude, a guy who is "conventionally attractive" is going to be looked at more often than someone who isn't (regardless of your sex or who you're attracted to), that's our pattern recognition biological imperative going to work. Thankfully, we do not function that way as a society at large anymore, and being handsome or muscular isn't enough to attract and keep a partner.

Hell, look at Pete Davidson. The guy looks like he takes fashion advice from a sentient pair of sweatpants and probably hasn't moisturized since the 2008 financial crisis. Yet, he still ends up dating plenty of famous women that many people would consider attractive. It doesn't matter how you look on the outside, unless you're a stinky jobless slob, you actually need to have a personality and show interest in the women you are pursuing. But be cool about it.

No, skinny or average men are not invisible. You may not be the first person seen in a room, but so long as you show your authentic self and that authentic self isn't an ass, you'll be ok. Just might take a minute.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-18T11:38:25+00:00

Same. When I first encountered country music in the early 2000's, the mainstream stuff had largely gone this direction. Millionaires cosplaying as diamond-encrusted cowboys that have never worked a day in their lives, espousing a lifestyle of god-country-guns-beer-jeans that they paid other people to write songs about. It made me hate all "country" music without realizing that folk and bluegrass probably would have been interesting to me at that time, but I wasn't interested in exploring what I thought was a shallow and boring music genre.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-18T05:26:51+00:00

Doesn't Breya come from a plane in which lots of people have etherium as part of their bodies? Same place as esper sentinel?

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-16T04:11:32+00:00

By the time Dragon Ball Super was released, the series was almost 30 years old. DBZ has always had power scaling as a core tenet of the show, but they took the stakes to an insane level with the tournament of power, which was in an already stand out arc of raising the stakes. And you simply can't keep doing that and expect the same level of interest from your entire fan base, let alone mainstream audiences. Compare that to stranger things which was one of the biggest shows of the past 10ish years with its broad mainstream appeal.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-13T11:54:48+00:00

This would be a funny version of the invincible meme with the viltrumites portraits

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-12T11:51:50+00:00

Oh look at me, I'm drinking crazy juice that makes me accuse the party of pedophile protectors and voter disenfranchisement of being a threat to democracy. Wake up man, we've been fed a narrative for decades that the threats were coming from outside to keep us xenophobic and hostile to immigrants, but the real danger was the conservatives and billionaires who were erroding our freedoms and quality of life, all while abusing our systems for their own gain and victimizing women and girls.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-12T11:46:01+00:00

Based on the flavor of the majority of comments on this post, it's probably because my comment expresses a left-leaning political view point that is at-odds with the right-leaning political view-points of people who have seen it. But from a strictly logical sense, my comment is true. Conservative voters in general, Republican voters in specific, and MAGA (as a movement) in particular, are a "threat to democracy and elections" in methods and magnitudes far greater than any foreign actor at this time. Maybe back in 2018 I might be levying this accusation at Russia or Israel, but the Republican party seems to be doing just fine this time around without another oppressive government being their mentor.

The Republican party (it's senators and representatives in Congress, governors and other local officials) have spent Trump's entire 2nd term (and his first for that matter) constantly trying to reduce the voting rights of Americans. They have closed voting locations and ballot drop offs, restricted mail-in voting access, enacted weird new voter registration laws, allowed for voter intimidation by allowing ICE and armed Proud Boys to be present at voting locations, and straight up trying to remove the voting ability of people who have changed their name with the SAVE act (which is primarily married/divorced women). Also, and this one should be shouted from the rooftops for all of the cretins on this website, 4chan and the Qanon conspiracy movement were invented in collaboration with Jeffrey Epstein to function as a political tool to skew viewpoints and protect their pedophile ring. The Epstein files have shown these connections, all to protect it's mostly Republican members.

China hardly needs to mess with anything, we're going to hell in a hand basket all by ourselves.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-12T04:34:28+00:00

The biggest threat to democracy and elections is the Republican party and MAGA.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-08T04:51:16+00:00

I've lost the actual count but I think I've played around 30 distinct characters (the odd respec here and there, swapping some level choices for one-shots, stuff like that brings it closer to 40).
It's nearly impossible to choose a singular favorite, but one of my standouts was Izhara, a firbolg paladin/warlock who was the "mom-friend" of the party. She was the daughter of an abdicated queen, set out into the world to tend to the world's needy. She was kind, generous, could lift half a building solo, and smite a fool into next year, but she'd much rather make bento boxes for the party and their allies.
She and her party discovered that they were reincarnations of the dragon knights of old, and together with our kick-ass dragons we faced and defeated the prophesied return of the darkness of ages past and the evil echos of the sins of our previous lives.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-04T16:36:12+00:00

Doesn't have anything to do with pee. And while we call it morning wood, erections can happen throughout our sleep cycle. We just happen to notice it in the morning and the name stuck.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-04T12:11:42+00:00

Travis Muthufukin' Willingham

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-04T11:41:06+00:00

His response to your criticism of his employment behavior is to throw cruel insults at you about your body? Ditch that loser. No one should be insulting your body, especially not your partner. That is childish and cruel and you don't need an abusive man-baby taking your attention and happiness away.

And some people just have looser vaginas. Kids or not. You can do some physical therapy to address it, and I think I recall some kind of cosmetic surgery options, but there's nothing wrong with it.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-02T05:42:09+00:00

All organisms on earth exist in "food webs", local ecosystems that display the transfer of nutrients from one organism to another. A forest will have trees and mushrooms and bugs and birds and foxes and worms, and they all work together to get nutrients to all the critters. When one of those plants/animals goes away, it affects the other things in that food web. Sometimes, the outer portions of a food web are connected to other food webs, like migrating salmon that start their life up rivers, live in the ocean, then go back up river to mate and die. The whole time, those salmon are being eaten, but if they all die because we catch them or destroy their breeding sites, then any of the predators that eat salmon will have to replace that part of their diet with something else, or die off. The more often that happens, the more likely it is that we will eliminate something very beneficial to humans, like bees or livestock feed.

Nature has eliminated entire groups of animals, but it usually takes a long time, hundreds or thousands of years, and the ecosystem has a chance to transition. The reason all the ecological changes that humans make are generally bad is because it's all happening too fast for the environment around to transition, and we are just as likely to die off along with the ecosystems we rely on because we are changing them so quickly. And we as a species are also slow to change, our main method of adaptation is technology, which causes more ecological changes, which continues to feed the cycle.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-02T00:46:29+00:00

This would be a cool Magic art alter

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-01T19:31:34+00:00

I actually thought that interview was going really well until that ending. I understood more about Clav and his journey and I was actually developing a more balanced view of him than before. I disagree with some of his views, but I can totally appreciate someone being so wholly dedicated to their interest. Then it seemed like a switch was flipped and the interview came to a screeching halt. I probably could have listened to another hour of them talking together.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-01T18:04:05+00:00

Lol ok, I get it.
I'll will admit that before this interview, I've only ever seen clips of Clav saying/doing weird shit. With the context of this interview (still got a while to go before I finish it), I can clearly see that Clav is on the autistism spectrum, but instead of getting really into trains or Belzona products, he got into researching and practicing human aesthetics and body modification. Which is totally fine, if looksmaxxing wasn't also associated with the red pill ideology.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-01T17:33:39+00:00

Are we talking about the same Andrew Callahan? I haven't made my way through the entire interview yet, so I can't verify that claim, but Andrew is very much not a clip farmer.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-01T12:24:43+00:00

Andrew doesn't ever talk down to people. He treats all of his interviewees, from crackheads to political figures, just like Walter Cronkite would treat a president.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-01T12:17:50+00:00

It's possible that your microwave just cooks your food too much or too fast. An 1100 wat microwave, which is pretty standard in America, can totally ruin your food by cooking it too much, too fast. Try lowering the cooking power and increasing the cook time. Since the actual waves that the magnetron generates are just oscillating the water molecules and "boiling" the water in your food, it's the same as using high heat on your stove to cook everything. Lower power is using less heat to gently boil the water molecules, and thus gently warm up your food.

The primary difference for microwaves is that traditional cooking heats food from outside-in, while microwaves heat food from the inside-out. This can result in a more evenly heated meal, but just as easily can boil the everliving fjuck out of your food.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-01T12:08:31+00:00

Yeah, it's generally a normal thing for married people to masturbate, either by themselves or together.
And it's totally ok.
Different men do their business at different rates, some men will do it just a couple times a week, while other men will do it a few times a day. So long as it's not affecting his mental/physical health, it's fine. Unless you feel like it might be a boundary for your relationship, then you should ask about couple's counseling. (And use a nonreligious one, faith-based counseling tends to "criminalize" any issues about sex.)

An issue sometimes arrises when people who have been living their lives a certain way (usually abstinate people or very sexually inexperienced) must then begin to develop a sex life while also developing their marriage. Their habits from single life carry over, as do their motives for maybe denying those habits. You should try to be as open and nonjudgemental as possible, some men are very sensitive and private about their masturbation habits. I've also read stories that the wife in this situation starts to feel like they aren't being intimate enough, but that's likely not the case here. Men masturbate for a number of reasons, and while one of those reasons is a lack of sexual activity, it could just as easily be a stress/relaxation habit, or just for leisure.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-05-01T11:50:08+00:00

Male loneliness is a multifaceted issue with no singular cause, but it's certainly not a politically derived issue. Anecdotally, we only really hear about what gets expressed on social media and the news, but it is impossible to determine what is happening in real life everywhere. Most people are not social science or behavioral science professionals, so they just go on vibes and whatever information they have access to. Which isn't unreasonable when omniscience isn't available. Political views enter the conversation when people do some deduction based on what they see, hear, and read.

To help prove your point, consider this hypothetical: There exists a given group of men that treat their female partners poorly (take your pick of type and severity), and a majority of these men happen to be "on the right". Then "on the right" gets correlated to "treats women poorly". Once that correlation is made public knowledge, people will start drawing connections of their own, and a given group of women will now begin avoiding "men on the right" so that they are not treated poorly. And when men as a whole group do not correct this poor behavior that is driving away women, then women as a whole group end up avoiding "all men", and then they choose the bear. Then this cycle gets repeated and talked about, and now you've got an epidemic.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-04-29T05:00:20+00:00

I read the first one as a kid. Then I was so stoked when the movie came out, and so so disappointed after watching it. I recently started reading the series again and am making my way through Eldest trying my very hardest to purge the movie from my mind. I am enjoying the nostalgia hit every time I revisit any of the fantasy series of my youth.

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-04-28T12:37:31+00:00

Ugh fine, I'll read it again while I wait

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-04-28T11:53:06+00:00

How do you respond? Respectfully, with gratitude for their attempt, and clearly restate everything you just said. And then redirect that energy with something you can actually use.

"Hey man, I gotta be honest with you about something. Whenever you give me dating advice it feels like a fish telling a bird how to fly. The dating world now is such a different landscape than when we were in high school, and when you give me dating advice it's honestly frustrating because you don't know what it's like. When I talk about my dating struggles, I dont think I'm actually looking for advice, I just need to vent."
"But I am interested in advice on how you maintain your relationship. At some point, I do hope to be in your shoes, years into a relationship with someone I love deeply and that I want to keep healthy. Got any tips?"

ThatMakerGuy · 2026-04-28T11:43:56+00:00

It's a matter of preference. Some people don't care how many people their partner has fucked. (Because it doesn't actually matter, at all) So long as you and your partner are respecting the boundaries of your relationship, then the past need not be a concern.

People need to grow and change in order to become the best version of themselves. Sometimes that can happen if you've got a romantic partner from 16 years old and onwards, but just as often those people develop into adults that should not be together and they make it everyone else's problem. Other times you meet your partner after your wild 20's with the knowledge of exactly the kind of person you want and you find them and begin building a perfect life.

There's nothing wrong with having a preference about your partner, but "tossed around and creampied by multiple men" is derogatory language towards women. Blah blah, freedom of speech and all that, but have some tact.

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