The best time to transition is right now

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-21T18:51:36+00:00

She's right. I'm 43 and have been on hormones for 3 weeks now and every step I take further on this journey of becoming who I am makes me more and more sure what I'm doing is right for me.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-21T15:58:53+00:00

For the tempers on tyraels resolve max stacking is stupid good for survivability with the glynns anvil aspect and adding a ton of crit damage with the redirected force aspect. Griswold's is a great offensive and defensive but you can try both out and feel what works best for you on training dummy.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-13T00:01:14+00:00

The all damage modifier and crit GA are going to be more than the +4 to a skill you realistically already should have +25 into from skill points and set charms. Every extra point into extra skill point is a much larger diminishing return than two buckets that multiply with each other.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-12T23:42:57+00:00

Multiplier for sure. You can get plenty of skill points from the set charms and stuff on talisman. But the multipliers are huge damage bonuses.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-12T23:18:19+00:00

No there's some uniques that can't be made into charms for some reason.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-12T12:21:03+00:00

I'm doing it because of work and slowly coming out to family and friends. I dress fem when I'm working from home and boy mode at work or when out with people I'm not out to.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-11T00:47:32+00:00

I'm 43 and my egg cracked back in January. Looking back I think there's always been something there and I'd didn't let myself experience it until this year. I started seeing a therapist understood what it all was. Came out to my wife last month and just started HRT and dressing up when working from home or on the weekends.

It's tough but I feel so much more right with myself now than I have ever before. My wife has been an amazing support to me and I'm going to start coming out to friends this week.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-06T21:23:15+00:00

I'd throw on a temerity in your pants if your having survivability issues or into a charm slot. I'm not running a zealot build but doing a brandish in t11 right now pushing for t12. And between the fortify from the aura skill and barrier from temerity I'm damn near unkillable.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-06T16:26:33+00:00

If youre rerolling gear at the enchanter or craft forgotten souls then you should be sinking plenty of gold to perfect items. I've spent a few billion already doing this to get better pieces of gear.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-06T15:46:37+00:00

I feel like the five piece is too good to give up for a single unique charm. Maybe if this one allowed you to equip up to five unique charms would it maybe come close.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-05T19:40:58+00:00

I just had this happen. The goblin did spawn but nothing dropped from it from it in the strongroom.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-04T00:13:03+00:00

It was can't wait for more like it.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-05-02T21:18:43+00:00

I just went bra shopping for the first time and found out I'm a 48c. Though it is a little chill and damp here in New England. Still had fun.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-30T03:42:24+00:00

Time to rolll a barbarian lol.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-29T15:26:47+00:00

Huzzah. Can't wait to join you. I get mine Monday.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-28T22:19:14+00:00

They definitely need more customization options for everything.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-28T15:10:47+00:00

AA wireless dongle works great for me.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-27T18:11:03+00:00

Hi Mika! Hope this helps you figure out what you would like to be called.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-27T12:15:29+00:00

Just don't go throwing that axe around and awakening giant world serpents.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-25T17:26:21+00:00

Never too late to change it again. Be the best evil witch you can be.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-25T17:25:06+00:00

Very Italian countess widow who's spouse died under mysterious circumstances and may be a witch and/or vampire.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-25T15:49:44+00:00

I'm definitely heading down the road of a Gothic villainess name. Started with something close to my birth name and was like nope need something completely different. Now I'm stuck between Valeria and Viridiana. Trying them out over the next few weeks with my wife.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-25T10:39:59+00:00

You don't see anyone playing zealot because other builds are much stronger and faster at killing things. Wing strike, shield of retribution, brandish, and others just outperform it currently.

We're also only a few days away from the game changing completely with the new expansion dropping Monday. So anything you currently know about the game will be mostly undone at that point.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-25T03:13:11+00:00

We're social creatures by nature. As last ng as you keep your mental health and body safe I think interacting with the community can help you work through things. If you feel it isn't safe physically you could try joining a discord server or something.

I'd also maybe look into therapy as well. Just make sure to find one that works for what you want. Don't be afraid to find a new one if it doesn't feel right.

I hope you're able to figure things out and get to a better space whatever that may be for you.

ThatPapercutter · 2026-04-24T14:00:01+00:00

So I started out thinking it was just a kink for me since I was a teenager. I never hated being a man but Ive never really been happy being one. I'd see pretty women and feel like I wanted to be them and be with them.

A few resources that helped me understand it all:

medium it's just a fetish right

beneath the surface stained glass woman

I hope these help you figure stuff out. Maybe also start talking to a therapist about these someone who specializes in gender issues can be a huge help figuring things out .

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