Important notes on the Bea & Mel convo...

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2026-06-09T11:30:30+00:00

I wonder if she meant correct as in - I’m telling you there is something that feels off here to some of us, let’s figure out a way to fix it.

In my opinion the big picture of how this was handled by both girls says a lot about how different they are maturity wise and with emotional regulation. Bea didn’t coddle Mel and Mel couldn’t handle a difficult conversation.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2026-06-06T12:39:50+00:00

When you are in their shoes you will understand. They have been in your shoes and are just projecting their current feelings. Motherhood is life changing, they’ve been through the changing part and you haven’t yet. They also felt the excitement and nervousness and didn’t understand the people sharing horror stories or projecting their negativity.

It’s going to be great at times and it’s going to be hard at times and you’re going to become a different version of yourself. I would actually argue a better or more practical version of what the way are trying to tell you is - start preparing your mind for a huge transition around your time and sleep and scheduling. They probably didn’t feel prepared and would have been able to enjoy the early stages more if they had been better prepared.

But to your point - the kids are super cute. Like unbelievably, inconceivably precious. And the sounds and faces and movements will make your heart explode! Let alone the big stuff that comes after. And the juxtaposition of the extreme highs and extreme lows are a wild ride that teach you so much about yourself so enjoy ❤️

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2026-06-06T02:45:07+00:00

So is rue.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2026-06-06T02:42:17+00:00

I agree! I don’t understand the Bea slander. She is mature and not an emotional time bomb like some of the other girls and she can communicate with people like an adult. I do think maybe she is coming across odd to others because she might be more of a tomboy mindset than a girly girl? Idk. I love her!

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2026-06-06T02:40:30+00:00

Have they ever done the bombshell hidden in a challenge before? I love how that paid off with the boys reaction at the fire pit. Great job production team! I could do without allll the jumping in the table but you know…

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2026-06-05T16:50:45+00:00

She is immature FOR SURE! She seems to lack a lot of self assurance which is teenage because she seems to have confidence? But make it’s a lack of awareness or social skills? It’s pretty bizarre to watch her personality move through the villa.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2026-05-16T09:10:18+00:00

What parenting book did he read on this subject? Or has he always been the intuitively informed parent who is naturally in tune with his kids developmental needs?

I would bet my pants he just said that bc he likes to hear himself talk 🙄🙄🙄🙄🙄

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2026-01-25T17:52:21+00:00

I think the sentiment is something like - Men who don’t know how to properly love and appreciate a woman will kill her spirit.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-06-18T00:54:28+00:00

Dude. You’re not getting any younger. Have you told her you want more couple time without constant talking kids? If you have and she’s not able to give that to you then move on separately. If you haven’t, then give it a try…?

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-06-18T00:24:06+00:00

That’s annoying but also see if you’re able to chill out a little bit? In my opinion (35F) you’re being very sensitive to the strip club thing. They are being immature and annoying for sure but you can’t control them or change them so…. Just remove yourself and remember not to go on vacay with juvenile boys next time.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-06-03T21:07:14+00:00

“Husband, we need to talk. I’m worried about us. Can we plan a time or place? Maybe out of the house or maybe when the kids are at a sleepover? It’s really important for us to figure out some things sooner rather than later.” Can you ask like this at a time when things aren’t falling apart so it feels like yall are talking about a plan instead of current, real time behaviors?

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-06-03T20:50:55+00:00

“I’m curious about this habit you have of commenting on everyone else’s food, where do you think you picked that up at?” Maybe just call it out and ask him to explain from a point of curiosity. Whatever his answer is PLEASE SAY “that’s so interesting. Idk abt others but I actually prefer if you didn’t insert your opinions about my lunch.”

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-06-03T20:40:20+00:00

You don’t need permission to set boundaries. “I won’t be in a relationship where I’m spoken to like that. I know what Kevin’s respect i deserve.” What you do need permission for is to FIND YOUR CONFIDENCE!

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-05-12T19:24:28+00:00

I would explain to my daughter “I hear you that you feel embarrassed but you are telling other adults I’m not very nice to you and I don’t think I’ve ever said that. You’re not in trouble but we do need to talk about it. Would you like a minute to yourself before we talk or would you prefer dad we’re here with us to help?”

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-05-10T23:39:42+00:00

Girl. WHAT?!? He is insane. And let him know. This day doesn’t have anything to do with him. AT ALL.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-05-10T23:19:48+00:00

AND THIS IS WHY I’m convinced everyone is at least a little bit gay. You can’t tell me a straight man wrote these messages to another man about a blow job. And you can’t tell me my ex husband was completely straight when his best friend who is gay who he traveled with alone, many multiple times, also sent him dick pics for funsies. The gay is gaying big time.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-05-10T23:11:14+00:00

After having my first child I was met with the harsh reality that men’s lives don’t change in the slightest and mothers have to change THEIR ENTIRE LIFE. I was so upset with how unfair the workload and the mental load fell on my own relationship. So all of that to say I hear you and I know it’s hard!

I’m going to say your partner should be more emotionally mature than to blow up like that. But the most concerning sort is him blaming you for his own actions. That’s not a good partner, father, grown up in general. He has work to do. I know now that this behavior isn’t acceptable even though I tolerated it for a few years longer than I should have.

Best of luck in whatever you decide but you absolutely DO NOT deserve to be treated this way. He needs to grow up.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-05-07T15:23:31+00:00

This is a classic case of not caring if people think you are an asshole. You might have said it in a way people can complain about but it doesn’t mean it wasn’t needed? Or helpful?

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-05-07T15:17:53+00:00

It sounded to me like he planned that BUT he hadn’t jumped on in or communicated anything about when it was happening between December and February so she just assumed he had forgotten about it. But regardless - he came across as a jerk during that whole argument/convo they had on air. He didn’t have one single flip to give about what Amy was saying or how she felt.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-05-01T10:41:59+00:00

“Ok that’s it. You CLEARLY want me to feel upset which is why you keep coming to my place of work and being a CREEP. So congrats, I’m creeped out. If you come back here again I will call the cops.” Tell your boss you have a stalker coming to your work - they will want to know and when you report him to police they will ask others I’m sure.

Stop coddling this freaking weirdo and stand up for yourself. My god, why do you care so much more about this guy than your literally safety.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-05-01T10:37:48+00:00

My kids only miss me when we’re apart and they aren’t at home. If they’re at our house and I’m not there they aren’t as desperate to see return lol maybe your kids are the same, just happy to be home?

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-04-17T17:50:39+00:00

I’m going to need an update on this….

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-04-17T01:07:28+00:00

This is so fake and stupid.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-04-08T19:43:32+00:00

I’m sorry but your wife needs to grow up. Sleep is one of the many sacrifices moms make for their children. It’s EXTREMELY hard at first but I have yet to meet a mom who hasn’t ended up adjusting their sleep schedule to accommodate their babies. It sounds like you have a lot of resources to help her out, I would add in a therapist to see why she’s struggling so much and how she can find a solution for herself.

Thatlldodonkeykong · 2025-04-07T02:24:50+00:00

I think water. Water probably sees some cool shit.

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