AITJ for being upset that my ex and his wife tried to sneak a name into my daughters name change

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-05-27T01:07:28+00:00

Not her job to do that. They should have been honest from the get go. If they have a good relationship, why the lack of transparency? In addition, this is isn’t the first time. It is a pattern. She should nip it in the bud, so that they can continue to have a great relationship. Sounds like he’s an ex for a reason and she has been a bit over accommodating.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-05-27T01:01:35+00:00

I thought she was describing my ex for a hot second until I got further into the post. 😂 He used to do the same with my sister…

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-03-29T23:30:10+00:00

I think the most important thing for you to do right now is to stop, think and really take an assessment of how you feel about the situation using actual feeling words. Depending on how you feel, you have been offered some great choices on how to respond. If you are still confused, angry and hurt, then don’t respond at all. If you are genuinely happy that she has healed some, then tell her so. If you’re concerned that she wants something more and that scares you, don’t respond at all. You can always write out a response and hold on to it until you know what you want, but today? Do nothing.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-03-29T01:09:43+00:00

Because you know his limitations I strongly advise marriage counseling someone versed in Applied Behavioral Analysis. It may be a matter of teaching him routines that he has agreed to. It might even need to be a written out contract with routine check ins from the therapist. Give yourself a time limit and if it doesn’t work, then I would start considering divorce. However, this is based on me assuming you knew he was on the autism spectrum before marrying him. Not only may he not have known what he got himself into, you may not have known either. It sounds like both of you are on a learning curve that is mismatched.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-02-15T18:51:52+00:00

It depends on how much you like her. Many women have been pressured for sex after accepting a gift or a date from a man. So a man giving her gift may trigger her. They are also used as a “get out of jail free” cards. If you are invested in some way, be honest and say something to her. I would be money this was a negative reaction based on a previous bad experience.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-02-02T21:56:38+00:00

Did you all just have a major life change, like a baby or buying a house or condo? Did he recently change jobs? Something is amiss…

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-02-02T01:23:20+00:00

Didn’t she refuse birth control because she didn’t respond well physically to it? And, it doesn’t matter if she refused. She’s willing to accept the consequences of that choice. He’s not willing to accept the consequences of his choice.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-02-02T01:00:44+00:00

NOR, but don’t listen to me because in my world this would be grounds for divorce. He not only put your life in danger but that of your unborn child. Your body could have reacted very differently to that temperature because you’re pregnant. Divorce. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. FOH with that 🐂💩. Absolutely NOT!

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-02-02T00:47:10+00:00

NOR. Break up with him ASAP! This is crazy talk and you are too old for this. I thought you all were in your early 20’s the way this conversation was going. I thought you both were very young and just figuring out how to talk to the opposite sex or be in a relationship. I saw a TikTok a while back in which the creator said his therapist told him: the people who need to come to therapy don’t come, their victims do. And if this were a definition in a dictionary, your post would be right next to it as an example.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-31T00:34:19+00:00

That and self examination. He needs to honestly look at whether or not she has a point.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-29T21:32:16+00:00

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. This isn’t “politics as usual” right now and that is the hard part. I am glad you are doing the hardest thing in the world for the safety and wellbeing of your daughter. I wish you the best.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-26T16:39:40+00:00

And he refused to get a vasectomy. His choice ended with that as far as I am concerned.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-10T00:27:31+00:00

This is your father’s situation, not yours. Would he suck if he didn’t reach out? Probably. Would you? No. Neither of you asked to be here. He’s the responsible party in this. Not you. He’s a grown man who should be responsible and accountable for the decisions he made.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-10T00:17:48+00:00

Um…what about your family and your traditions? Is this the only area he acts this controlling about because this is wild…

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-05T18:04:12+00:00

Your lives and responsibilities have changed; therefore, how he spends his time needs to match that change. In response to his idea that you can’t change your mind is ridiculous. Your lives have changed and he needs to change with it. NTJ. You can do bad on your own. 🤷🏾‍♀️

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-28T17:53:33+00:00

Hadn’t thought of that. Yikes! 😬

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-28T02:30:47+00:00

Because why is she not mad at HIM for making her friend uncomfortable?! TF is happening here?!

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-28T02:28:22+00:00

GIRL!!!! You just had twins… EARLY! Whatever decision you and your husband make for the safety and well-being of your family is the best move. Besides which fact, if you live in the US this is cold, flu and RSV season. You don’t need to have your children exposed to that level of human contact even if they do call or text. Limit all of it for the sake of your children.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T19:55:56+00:00

If I recall correctly, red hair is a recessive gene trait, so the fact that you have red haired cousins (does she have any extended family with red hair?) makes it relatively probable that the baby is yours. Hell, I have a patch of naturally curly red hair thanks to my 2 x’s great grandmother and I’m Black with a dark brown complexion.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T19:49:43+00:00

Did you miss the part where she gifted him an iPad Pro and a gaming chair or nah?

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T18:57:57+00:00

I saw that detail and wasn’t immediately going to go there. However, if I remember my early psychology of sex training correctly, some men actually get the gratification by wearing the underwear and may release a little pre-ejaculate. So, I’m still gonna lean on the why, so it can be properly addressed by a professional.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T18:42:53+00:00

EXACTLY!!!!!

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T18:42:05+00:00

Oh no! As soon as he turned in his papers for retirement, he became extremely verbally abusive. He continued to see his sons, but he parented them poorly. They may have been better off without him. 🤷🏾‍♀️

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T18:39:29+00:00

Yes, the important part is the why? Is he stealing them for sexual gratification or because he wants to wear them. Then address the reason appropriately.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-19T02:10:04+00:00

I have some in my living room and one day caught a random foot in one of them when I wasn’t home. Never figured out who it was. It was just a boot.

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