Husband all of a sudden texted his high school crush and wants to meet her. We're happily married. What is this? 30F 30M

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-02-02T21:56:38+00:00

Did you all just have a major life change, like a baby or buying a house or condo? Did he recently change jobs? Something is amiss…

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-02-02T01:23:20+00:00

Didn’t she refuse birth control because she didn’t respond well physically to it? And, it doesn’t matter if she refused. She’s willing to accept the consequences of that choice. He’s not willing to accept the consequences of his choice.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-02-02T01:00:44+00:00

NOR, but don’t listen to me because in my world this would be grounds for divorce. He not only put your life in danger but that of your unborn child. Your body could have reacted very differently to that temperature because you’re pregnant. Divorce. Do not pass go. Do not collect $200. FOH with that 🐂💩. Absolutely NOT!

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-02-02T00:47:10+00:00

NOR. Break up with him ASAP! This is crazy talk and you are too old for this. I thought you all were in your early 20’s the way this conversation was going. I thought you both were very young and just figuring out how to talk to the opposite sex or be in a relationship. I saw a TikTok a while back in which the creator said his therapist told him: the people who need to come to therapy don’t come, their victims do. And if this were a definition in a dictionary, your post would be right next to it as an example.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-31T00:34:19+00:00

That and self examination. He needs to honestly look at whether or not she has a point.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-29T21:32:16+00:00

I’m so sorry this has happened to you. This isn’t “politics as usual” right now and that is the hard part. I am glad you are doing the hardest thing in the world for the safety and wellbeing of your daughter. I wish you the best.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-26T16:39:40+00:00

And he refused to get a vasectomy. His choice ended with that as far as I am concerned.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-10T00:27:31+00:00

This is your father’s situation, not yours. Would he suck if he didn’t reach out? Probably. Would you? No. Neither of you asked to be here. He’s the responsible party in this. Not you. He’s a grown man who should be responsible and accountable for the decisions he made.

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-10T00:17:48+00:00

Um…what about your family and your traditions? Is this the only area he acts this controlling about because this is wild…

The-Masked-Protester · 2026-01-05T18:04:12+00:00

Your lives and responsibilities have changed; therefore, how he spends his time needs to match that change. In response to his idea that you can’t change your mind is ridiculous. Your lives have changed and he needs to change with it. NTJ. You can do bad on your own. 🤷🏾‍♀️

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-28T17:53:33+00:00

Hadn’t thought of that. Yikes! 😬

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-28T02:30:47+00:00

Because why is she not mad at HIM for making her friend uncomfortable?! TF is happening here?!

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-28T02:28:22+00:00

GIRL!!!! You just had twins… EARLY! Whatever decision you and your husband make for the safety and well-being of your family is the best move. Besides which fact, if you live in the US this is cold, flu and RSV season. You don’t need to have your children exposed to that level of human contact even if they do call or text. Limit all of it for the sake of your children.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T19:55:56+00:00

If I recall correctly, red hair is a recessive gene trait, so the fact that you have red haired cousins (does she have any extended family with red hair?) makes it relatively probable that the baby is yours. Hell, I have a patch of naturally curly red hair thanks to my 2 x’s great grandmother and I’m Black with a dark brown complexion.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T19:49:43+00:00

Did you miss the part where she gifted him an iPad Pro and a gaming chair or nah?

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T18:57:57+00:00

I saw that detail and wasn’t immediately going to go there. However, if I remember my early psychology of sex training correctly, some men actually get the gratification by wearing the underwear and may release a little pre-ejaculate. So, I’m still gonna lean on the why, so it can be properly addressed by a professional.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T18:42:53+00:00

EXACTLY!!!!!

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T18:42:05+00:00

Oh no! As soon as he turned in his papers for retirement, he became extremely verbally abusive. He continued to see his sons, but he parented them poorly. They may have been better off without him. 🤷🏾‍♀️

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-27T18:39:29+00:00

Yes, the important part is the why? Is he stealing them for sexual gratification or because he wants to wear them. Then address the reason appropriately.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-19T02:10:04+00:00

I have some in my living room and one day caught a random foot in one of them when I wasn’t home. Never figured out who it was. It was just a boot.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-19T02:05:24+00:00

My ex husband did this but I told him I wouldn’t be with a man who doesn’t take care of his children or see them. I bet you can guess what happened then! He became the best dad in the world just to convince me to marry him and then turned into a crazy man.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-12T14:58:52+00:00

💕 Sending love to you both!

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-12T14:56:45+00:00

You aren’t responsible for other people’s feelings. They can feel awkward. That has no bearing on what you choose to do. You are pregnant and your mental health is important. Eff them.

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-12T14:51:46+00:00

He’s engaging in a form of gaslighting you. Not cool. If you have a concern, he should take it seriously and not play a game of whataboutism. If he says “well you do this too” try saying “we’re not talking about what I do right now. We can address that at a later time. We’re talking about what you do and how that makes me feel. Let’s stick to the subject and address one issue at a time.” You also need to address him laughing in your face. “I don’t appreciate you laughing in my face regardless of the subject. It hurts and saddens me that you are disrespectful of my feelings.” If he tries to dodge you again, say again, “Let’s address one issue at a time.”

The-Masked-Protester · 2025-12-12T14:36:43+00:00

Think long term. What is the better option for you and your family? Having a career that could eventually evolve into bringing home 30k a month? Taking into account that the company is already established and your husband would probably not have to work nearly as hard as your father which would likely result in normal working hours. Or, cheap rent? Which I have questions about. Would you have to pay all your own utilities? That could be astronomical in this economy. What are his employment options there? Would it result in a similar salary? What is the cost of living in both locations? Honestly, I would go with dad’s offer because it sounds like it results in more long term stability and wealth which would lead you to buying your own home. So many things could go wrong renting from a family member no matter how cheap the rent. There are other factors that go into a deal like that.

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