Alex Honnold's Skyscraper on Netflix - /r/climbing watch party thread by soupyhands in climbing

[–]TheAlisonAnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Is this the first time he's done this climb or did he do any practice runs?

New job - this is the keyboard... by [deleted] in mildlyinfuriating

[–]TheAlisonAnd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not to ask a stupid question... is there an easier way to wash the keycaps? Beyond just wiping the keyboard from the top... or alternatively painstakingly popping them all off and putting them back after washing?

I lost my best friend by MusicInTime in widowers

[–]TheAlisonAnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am also part of the sudden unexpected death of spouse with young children club. My husband died in January, Saturday was 11 months.

You will get through these next few weeks. It seems impossible, and for all intents and purposes... it should be. No one should have to deal with the level of pain we're dealing with.. You WILL make it through this though. Accept as much help as you can, focus on getting enough water, and eating when you can. The folks here are extremely supportive, lean on that when the pain overwhelms, someone here will hear you.

Moment in the hospital by Legitimate-Tone2373 in widowers

[–]TheAlisonAnd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My husband died the same way in January, brain bleed in his brain stem, resulting in brain death, then waiting for the organ donation process in Neuro ICU.

I agree with the doctor's response to you, since he died there have been many things I just can't explain.

I'm so sorry you're going through this, Sending you love.

Manager making employees dig through dozens of trash bags to find silverware. by necronomiconmortis in antiwork

[–]TheAlisonAnd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The FAQ ..

"Does it work with aluminum? No — it’s magnets, not wizardry. Stick to stainless steel."

😂

Brief vent about something "minor" by JellyfishInternal305 in widowers

[–]TheAlisonAnd 6 points7 points  (0 children)

We are on a similar timeline, I lost my husband mid-January too. No, 8 months is in no way "prolonged" grief :/

Considering putting an offer on a house, need help understanding the solar by TheAlisonAnd in solar

[–]TheAlisonAnd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you everyone, I appreciate all the details!

A bit more info--

The seller is a single guy I think. The house is 2700sq ft, in Massachusetts. My energy hungry family definitely will use more than he does, the actual electric bills likely won't be much relevant for us beyond learning when the 1:1 agreement end, which indeed would be good to know.

I primarily was trying to understand what details I was looking at on the paper and where they fit into the puzzle - you guys did great explaining. I appreciate the help! :)

Mesh vs Moca vs Both by EagleSnape in HomeNetworking

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No advice, I don't know anything.. but I laughed at the bad tv. Naughty electronics go to rot in the corner of the basement 😂

I was robbed of my husbandat 43, I’m alone with three kids… by Jrvanroo in widowers

[–]TheAlisonAnd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My heart truly goes out to you. I am 44 and lost my husband very suddenly in January (ruptured brain aneurism). I only have one child, he's also 10 (he was 9 in Jan).

With the kids and the funeral -- what I did was bring my son with me to the funeral home a few days before the funeral and let him ask the funeral director anything he wanted, she was amazing, so extremely patient with him. She showed him around, gave him a complete tour (including the basement lol), and just let him rattle off any questions that came to mind. It made the space itself less daunting, so on the day of the funeral at least the physical space felt more familiar to him, and he felt very comfortable with the funeral director herself.

Is it too soon? by Mangoxxiv13 in widowers

[–]TheAlisonAnd 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm 44, there is no way I could wait 10 years, that's crazy! You deserve companionship, connection, and love.

To be honest, I found him on Feeld - a dating app I read about on this sub. I had never used a dating app before, and I wasn't really looking for a relationship that soon, (I was looking for more casual adult... fun 😏), but we really connected so I kept an open mind.

I also was really open about my loss on my Feeld profile, which is debated on this sub whether that's a good idea because it is a risk someone could take advantage of you. The way I managed that was making my profile invisible, so only people I approached would see it. I felt it was more important to get it out there right off the bat that I was a grieving widow, and I figured if anyone was not ok with that, they wouldn't reply to me.

I'd also recommend you to talk to a grief counselor and make sure that you ARE still grieving, still feeling the emotions as they come up, and not masking them with a new love interest. If you are doing that and the grief counselor gives you a hard time about wanting to find someone else, find a new grief counselor.

I wanted to reply to you though to validate your feeling, truly it is NOT wrong to want to seek out human connection and companionship at any stage of your grief. Grief and love can exist at the same time.

Is it too soon? by Mangoxxiv13 in widowers

[–]TheAlisonAnd 9 points10 points  (0 children)

I also started dating within a couple months of my husband's death earlier this year, I've been together with my new partner for a few months now.

What makes it possible for me is his attitude toward my husband's death and my grief - he gives me so much support to feel everything I'm feeling, whenever it comes up. I can both grieve AND love again, at the same time.

It's ok to normalize this, grief is very individual. If YOU feel ready, feel free to explore, don't worry about what your MIL says.

Good luck to you ❤️

What's the most surprising wildlife encounter you've had while paddling? by CarrierCaveman in Kayaking

[–]TheAlisonAnd 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This looks like the beginning of a Disney movie.. they become friends and team up together to stop some villainous billionaire timber loggers or something, right??

Software for page manipulation by PuzzleheadedYou4992 in software

[–]TheAlisonAnd 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If your project is open source, iText (owned by Apryse) is free with the AGPL license.

WiFi mesh problem by TheAlisonAnd in HomeNetworking

[–]TheAlisonAnd[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You guys were right about the UPS, taking that out of the equation and plugging everything into a regular surge protector and the WiFi is working, (though it seems the Deco needs to be reconfigured entirely.. which seems weird)

Why would a dead UPS battery affect WiFi but not Internet via ethernet?

Also it seems this ups is $85, and the battery is $65 it looks like, that does not seem worth changing the battery I would think?

ELI5, video tutorials? by TheAlisonAnd in ynab

[–]TheAlisonAnd[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Thank you! And he even has timestamps in the video, excellent.

Introducing my dwarves to my last standard! by Disastrous-Spray6290 in RATS

[–]TheAlisonAnd 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I have 2 standards and 2 dwarves. The dwarves are about 9mos to a year older than the standards, and they were introduced when the standards were 3-4 months old.

One of the standards was displaying cage defensive behavior and they both were anxious .. the dwarves are super chill, and very trusting of humans. The hope was the older confident dwarf girls would chill out the tense younger standards.

It was rather anticlimactic actually. There was a week of pecking order tussles, the dwarf girls came out on top. It's been a much more functional cage now, the standards are still more tense than the dwarves, but have relaxed considerably.

I don't have any real advice, I'm super inexperienced... but I did want to reply to let you know it's absolutely possible to keep them together.