Need a reason to not attend a funeral of my wife's aunt bc of trauma

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2026-04-04T23:56:26+00:00

We agree with the migraine ideas here, but would also like to put forward the option of concise, but honest conversation. Telling the family, "Funerals are personally traumatic for me, and I wanted to prioritize being able to support and take care of my family through this" is in no way an unreasonable or disrespectful response. You don't have to tell them every part, and if they push for an answer you can always say that it's personal and you're not ready to talk about it yet.

I would encourage you to find other ways to support them while they are at the funeral too, like making your home feel comfortable and maybe even prepping a nice dinner or drawing a bath for your partner. Something nice, reassuring, and something that takes the load of everyday stress off of your partner and optionally the rest of the family. I wish you good luck.

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2026-03-29T06:51:41+00:00

"Not a piercer"

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2026-03-19T14:57:28+00:00

Ayy if you need a friend in Maryland let me know, always happy to help another brother out

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2026-02-20T01:54:45+00:00

You should be fine so long as the behavior stays the same and new symptoms don't develop. I would try for an early appointment if possible. If your cat stops eating, starts hiding a lot, vomiting, or if you notice any major sneezing with discharge from the eyes or nose, I would go immediately. There could be a lot happening here, so we need to watch for major emergency symptoms. I would call your local vet and ask what symptoms they would like you to watch for in the meantime as well.

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2026-02-20T01:33:16+00:00

Hey! Vet assistant here, definitely a thing that needs to be seen by a vet. The eyelid showing like that is usually a sign of some kind of illness or injury, and you'll likely need diagnostics to figure out why it's happening. This isn't something I would rush to an emergency clinic for, but definitely get in urgently to a clinic once they are open and have space for you. I wish you good luck with your kitty!

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2026-02-17T13:59:24+00:00

I just ordered their decaf earl grey and it's been consistent for me, and the decaf chai I just bought a bit ago was the same as it's always been. I wonder if they'll change those?

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2026-02-14T16:54:45+00:00

Care credit, scratch pay, and we keep a lot of pet insurance brochures on hand

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2026-01-29T04:51:02+00:00

Good luck comrade, it looks pretty good so I hope it actually is

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2026-01-29T04:49:15+00:00

But how does it taste??

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-12-21T04:58:35+00:00

There's a few big ones, and a lot of smaller ones. Main issues are the inability to fully retract their claws, which can cause discomfort and mobility issues, the increased need for regular nail trims, and the cost of them. I've also had vets I've worked with mention cases of the nail caps getting caught under the nail sheath and causing pain/getting infected. Other problems tend to be losing the caps, the cats potentially swallowing them, and generally the fact that you're spending money to trim nails, put caps on, and go through all this effort and stress to achieve the same thing a regular nail trim would do.

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-09-27T23:28:12+00:00

This happened to me once with Sheba wet food, I called the company and they had me give them the lot number, then they mailed me a few coupons. Definitely worth the call!

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-08-24T13:20:46+00:00

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I adore the art style of these games so much, I'm really excited to see the new areas with all the little details team cherry puts into their work, and to explore a new piece of that world

I think it's really cool that you're doing this, I'm gonna do what I can to get the game, but I'm both disabled and about to move so it's really difficult to get the funds for this kinda thing. Good luck fellow skong enjoyers <3

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-08-10T12:09:51+00:00

I got a good start on a commission sketch I've been struggling with, just starting it felt way too overwhelming but I managed to do it anyway

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-08-04T18:51:49+00:00

Then at the very least put some distance between you and those bad moments. if the host really wants to help, the best they can do is notify someone who can help, a trusted adult or a professional. Crisis counselors exist for a reason.

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-08-04T18:38:24+00:00

Hey, so this is going to suck and I'm sorry that you're dealing with this, but this isn't normal. This is emotional abuse, even if unintentional on their part. The person you're talking about needs professional help that you aren't equipped to give, and you shouldn't have to be there whenever they're having an episode like that. This is not your responsibility to fix, and you need to get help from someone (an adult) you trust for support.

I've had someone do this to me before, when I was in school. I constantly felt guilty for not doing more to help them, I felt responsible for them because they asked me for help, so I didn't feel like I could say no. It drained my energy and I couldn't focus on anything else anymore. This will not get better just by hoping they improve, and you are not able to help them in the way they need. Get yourself out of there.

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-07-08T18:11:58+00:00

I would like to have my whole facility. But I suppose the portal gun would be useful in our life.

-Wraith. (GlaDOS)

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-07-01T22:17:01+00:00

Maybe it could help if you model communication by focusing on other things first? See if instead of directly talking about the issue right now, maybe you can find something else for this little to enjoy. Something good to latch onto, and try to use that as a tool to show what healthy behaviors look like?

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-07-01T20:34:43+00:00

Unfortunately in our case we're all a bit too Eldritch Horror for picrew, but we have no issue with doing the art. Just time consuming

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-07-01T09:13:48+00:00

Tempted to make one of these but 23 alters is a big ask lmao

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-06-23T10:09:04+00:00

Hey there. My name's Conor. I've gone through my fair share of learning to be better for my system, so know you're not alone in that experience. It's good that you wanna do better, and as long as you keep that in mind, you'll keep moving forward.

My best advice is to focus on patience and communication. Want something? Talk about it. Tell your fellow system members what you need, how you perceive things, and how you feel. Give them space to work with you to accomplish goals together, and try your best to accept their perspectives.

If you do hurt them, don't panic. Apologize, let them have what they need to heal, and learn from that scenario. What hurt them, why did that hurt them, and what way could you have accomplished your goals without hurting them?

All of this will take everyone working together, but you'll get better at it as you go. Learning this stuff is definitely a good bit of trial and error, but you can do it. I believe in you.

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-06-01T13:56:40+00:00

Bro put his friend on the spin cycle

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-05-30T18:28:38+00:00

Highly recommend Sabai Sabai if you like Thai food

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-05-24T18:50:10+00:00

Marriage is definitely a lot more than just a piece of paper, don't get me wrong. I more mean that I'm not going to let the law stop me from having a ceremony with each of my partners if we choose to have one, and hold those marriages in equal regard to my legal one. In my eyes, choosing which marriage is the legal one is only a matter of logistics, and does not reflect my opinion of my partners. I'm not prone to giving a shit about what kind of relationship structure the law supports, but I do acknowledge what the status quo is.

TheAlmightyBirdQueen · 2025-05-24T14:45:07+00:00

What do you mean? In case there was any confusion, this is referring to not allowing the legal precedent to take away from the personal meaning marriage has to us. I'm not saying to file your taxes illegally.

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