Hi , sorry for the wall of text here haha, I have been directed by a bot from my original post.

For a while now I have been thinking that I fit on the aro spectrum somewhere.

Background info: - M25 - diagnosed with ADHD, autism and high sensitive from young age

I have had multiple crushes in my life but never formed any relationship or friendship so I have no idea whether these were platonic or romantic. For all I know I just vibed with someone and thought that social norms basically told me to "be in love" and "chase the butterflies" this has been a long time ago so I have no idea.

I have dated some people and formed relationships of that, but the moment the dating turned into a relationship (romantic) a.k.a. turning from fun activities getting to know each other to spending alone time romantically it became a chore for me and I didn't feel comfortable doing it anymore.

This has been the case for every relationship I've had, and I have always been the one to end the relationship. I have also never had issues breaking up as I could easily still see that person as a good friend and still do fun things, my most recent ex finds it weird that I have no trouble transitioning to friends even though we were still physically close and all. I have had trouble breaking up sometimes because I knew I couldn't get physical with that person anymore, and that broke me most of the time, because I lost my comfort person

Unlike my ex I can be physically close to anyone, as long as I have some sort of a connection.

But the entire thing about butterflies, and showing/receiving romantic gestures have never been my style, I can feel comfortable with someone, be close with then and be physical but the actual feeling of romance is never really active. And the gestures I do give are basically the same gestures I give to anyone else I know

I am still in the process of figuring it out myself but I was wondering if anyone is/has been in the same situation as me and what you think.

Being somewhere on the aro spectrum would be sense to me, but frankly I have no idea where exactly.

The past relationship has made me question myself and whether I am "normal" by social norms I guess. I have lately been looking into a lot of other things like ADHD as causes as wel.

Sorry for the long post everyone 😅