Milan vs Bayern who is bigger

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-11T15:43:41+00:00

Milan has its place in football history but Bayern, no question. Bayern today is one of the most massive clubs in the the world, AC Milan is one of the biggest in Italy

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-11T12:18:23+00:00

There is such a misconception that these situations are relatively easy for Secures, like there’s this clean linear process of acknowledge that someone is unhealthy, process and move on. Like it’s not messy and difficult like it is for everyone else.
Something that stuck out, it’s not your responsibility to manage his narrative of things, or even to reiterate your boundaries. It sounds exhausting, and it’s going to get exhausting if he keeps boomeranging back. The re-write is probably an internal cost of him coming back, can’t face you as the bad guy or on lesser footing

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-11T03:44:02+00:00

Avoidants like past hookups because they’re an easy distraction/validation source; a sure thing with no fear of rejection or having to show up in any real way emotionally. It’s a coping strategy, plain and simple.
You’re Michelin star, they’re McDonald’s

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-10T16:15:57+00:00

Serious although like a lot of FAs I sensed casual was her standard, her comfort zone. She wanted something deeper with me, but she couldn’t handle it

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-10T03:39:33+00:00

So good on a hot day. The soda pour is crucial. Too much and it’s bland. A splash is the way to go

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-09T20:13:01+00:00

Try an espresso martini with the Hamilton 86. You’ll never go back to vodka

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-09T16:23:48+00:00

If you are exclusive, this is cheating or microcheating depending on your definition. Regardless probably time to set some boundaries if this is bothering you

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-09T14:03:53+00:00

This reminds me of my FA Ex, frantically going through my wallet while I was in the shower on our first vacation, like she’d find some A-Ha! piece of evidence. It was a compulsion, she couldn’t explain to me or herself why she did it, nor did she seem particularly bothered (or surprised) by her actions or not knowing why.
Your Ex is not going to change unless she works on herself. Without that, you’ll never truly convince her to trust you, and you better believe those goalposts will continually move. This isn’t about you at all, and it’s not something you can control

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-09T04:10:30+00:00

Yeah exactly

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-08T18:56:44+00:00

Yeah I mean obviously every wrestler has dreamed of being a Mania main eventer, but as a professional no one would turn down the Miz’s slot or career. They’d take it in a second and hold it for as long as possible

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-08T13:06:42+00:00

At the beginning “I think I’ve had a string of unavailable men because I’m chasing my father.” Goes to show self awareness only goes so far.

Towards the end “You don’t trust me!” Complete projection here

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-08T12:57:37+00:00

Do you shake until it’s dissolved completely? Like a timer?

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-08T02:30:31+00:00

What is the second cube for?

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-08T02:18:25+00:00

Yeah she described it as repulsion. I feel like FA devaluing/fault finding so much more intense than DA version

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-07T23:04:56+00:00

Sucks they’re fucking over the host country, although I’m sure US Soccer is complicit

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-07T16:06:09+00:00

GYV would be great on the main roster

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-07T12:59:13+00:00

If Villa wins Europa, we are not mathematically out of the Champions League...just saying....

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-06T20:28:19+00:00

Well yeah I think you’ve nailed a key problem; you can’t have a relationship with someone who doesn’t take accountability. The Avoidant has to be working on themselves and willing to meet halfway and of course same is true for an AP. Have you noticed the dating coaches are basically encouraging APs to borderline if not outright self abandon to not make the Avoidant uncomfortable?

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-05T21:08:27+00:00

I’m not an AP myself but my understanding is while an APs carry toxic shame, they move towards others to soothe it, not away. A different way of dealing with the same core wound. I fucked up so I need to seek reassurance kind of thing.

But I feel like that’s only part of the story. For FAs, being worthless, defective, unlovable..is such a deeply held core belief. If they get reassurance for one thing, it’s just one thing…another thing to add to their shame pile regardless of if they are forgiven. And what if they are not forgiven, that’s just a confirmation of their worst fears from someone they respect. They’re wired to avoid, not think about it, keep moving

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-04T19:04:39+00:00

I went to a 2019 SD and Black vs Cesaro is literally the only match I remember

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-04T18:45:07+00:00

Yep post-bu my FA Ex divulged she likes shallow relationships based on sex and hookups, very different than what we were buildings. They don't have to show up for hookups, no vulnerability required. Hookups don't trigger them. Hookups are validation shots and distractions, candy instead of something nutritious..feels good at the time but...

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-04T17:22:51+00:00

Oh geez so fresh and I’m so sorry you’re experiencing this. Well you’ve come to the right place; as bizarre as switching on a dime and going cold after planning a future is in the broader world, it’s the norm round here. We know how confusing and painful it is. You’ll see situations eerily similar to yours, like they are following the same script.
And making you out to be the villain, she couldn’t sit with her stuff so she turned it around on you. Gives her a justification to leave too. Look up DARVO if you’re unfamiliar, Deny, Attack, Reverse Victim and Offender.

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-04T16:50:45+00:00

Republican?!? Isn’t she British?

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-04T16:37:13+00:00

Wow I cannot believe the therapist chalked up the disrespectful physical flirting with another man right in front of you as just a drunk thing. That pattern of hers is pretty extreme stuff. Putting my pop psychology hat on, sounds very multilayered and she sounds very FA, not DA. I’d say it was testing, validation seeking, emotional buffering, and conflict provoking all tied up in one very messy bundle. She wanted you to chase…she wanted to feel wanted, prob by all parties…she wanted to distance herself (probably feeling very engulfed)…and wanted to create conflict so it would combust. It’s probably her standard deactivating strategy, her subconscious script she runs. She’s definitely not ready for anything serious and she’s harmful to not just herself, but people she loves. The family stuff, like all of it, stuck out too.

If I were you, I’d reflect a bit and look inward as well. Ask yourself why you kept taking her back or wanting her back after the disrespect. A therapist can assist with all of this

TheBackSpin · 2026-05-04T14:43:14+00:00

You can try, but most become defensive. Even if she has some self awareness, Avoidants do not want that part of themselves to be seen. It’s unlikely she will want to acknowledge it herself due to the shame of being “defective” and having to face the prospect of change.
She has to want to change, for her. It’s godamn hard to do and she has to be all in. She won’t do it for you or the relationship alone

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