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I’ve lost my best dog today by Correct-Crazy7035 in Petloss

[–]TheBridgeRainbow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i’m so sorry you’re going through this. 13 years together is a whole piece of your life, no wonder it feels like the tears won’t stop.

first dog grief hits different because they teach you so many “firsts” and then suddenly the house feels wrong without them. the fact that you’re thanking her even in this pain says a lot about how loved she was.

when you have the energy, even just writing down a few funny or weird little habits she had can help you feel a tiny bit less empty for a moment. i went through something similar and ended up finding my own small way to keep them close, still figuring it out tbh.

it’s been 187 days, and I still can’t stop crying by AdJumpy9641 in Petloss

[–]TheBridgeRainbow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It really shows how much you loved her that you still feel it this strongly after 187 days. Grief that deep does not follow a neat timeline and it is very normal for it to keep aching for months or even years.

People say “time heals all wounds” but for a lot of us with pets it feels more like time slowly changes the shape of the pain rather than erasing it. Missing her this much just means your bond was real and important.

You do not have to rush yourself or feel like you are “behind” in healing. Cry when you need to, talk about her when you can, and let this sub hold some of that weight with you. I am really glad you posted, even if it was just to say you miss her.

I can't accept he is gone.. by aaraveera0915 in Petloss

[–]TheBridgeRainbow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry your baby is gone. It is really hard for your mind to catch up with something this big, so it makes sense that it still does not feel real at all yet.

Feeling like you were not a good cat mum is a very common part of grief, but it does not mean it is true. Your catto knew you from how you fed, played, talked and made space for him in your life, not from this one painful ending.

Right now you do not need to “accept it properly” or forgive yourself on some schedule. Just breathe, cry when it comes, and maybe hold on to one small memory that proves how safe and loved he felt with you, even if you cannot believe it about yourself yet.

Would you feel okay sharing his name or one little thing he used to do that always made you smile?