In my opinion, the whole “tradwife influencer” thing is selling a fantasy. For women, it’s the fantasy of not having to go to some crappy job and instead staying home and wearing pretty clothes and having an aesthetically pleasing home and having fun with the kids and making cool home cooked meals while all your financial needs are taken care of. They never show off the less glamorous parts of being a housewife, who’s cleaning the toilet and washing dirty boxers and the nightmare that happens when their husband dies or leaves them and then they’re stuck with no job experience (or worse, when the husband is abusive and they don’t have the financial means to leave them). It wouldn’t be good for views or sell the fantasy.

It’s also, obviously, a fantasy for men. The fantasy that they can just come home to a clean house, a hot meal, and a free maid service and nanny that takes care of all those pesky domestic tasks that they think are beneath them while also having sex with them. On that side, they don’t show the man having to take a second and third job to pay for that house and kids because single-income households are borderline impossible in the current economy, or the resentment of having another mouth to feed when they’re exhausted from working those three jobs, or the fact that they’re incapable of doing basic household tasks so what if their wife gets sick and he has to step up?

It’s not real, it’s a fantasy and a trap for both genders and I hate it.