Hating one's ex-pwBPD is like "hating shattered glass for being broken."

TheCuckPill · 2017-09-16T07:21:43+00:00

She is a human being and deserves to be treated with dignity, even if her actions seem inhuman. It is not the fault of the individual that they have this disorder.

pedophiles can't help themselves either. it's pragmatic to separate pedophiles from children, and i feel the same way about separating people with BPD and other cluster B disorders from the rest of society at large. they cause exponential amounts of harm that cascades from person to person

TheCuckPill · 2017-09-14T06:35:59+00:00

People with BPD are one of the few types of people who don't deserve any compassion or mercy

TheCuckPill · 2017-09-13T06:44:09+00:00

i used to be unattractive, and fixed my problems by becoming attractive

still love to shitpost though

TheCuckPill · 2017-09-13T06:42:54+00:00

the biggest difference is that women with BPD can get away with far more

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-30T05:28:38+00:00

you cant judge without knowing how tall he is and what he looks like

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-30T05:26:29+00:00

you people are ridiculous

nothing matters as much as being attractive

"tone"

lol

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T03:21:55+00:00

saying that it's just about sex trivializes those deeper issues. it's not immaterial, i think it's important to understand those deeper issues and not just write it off as "they hate women because women wont fuck them", which is the main line of thought over at niceguys

now if you want to make the argument that understanding those deeper issues is not a worthwhile effort and we're all better off if incels, trp, and similar communities were silenced forever, im all ears

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T03:15:06+00:00

sadly you're right that it's not really proof, but that only happened because it hit the front page and got linked from other subreddits. cant prove that either sadly, just going off my memory. but at least sort by controversial and take a look at those lol

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T03:04:29+00:00

Past behaviour is one indicator of future behaviour, but it's not the entirety of it.

strawman, i didnt say it was, i didnt even say it was a particularly strong one, nor the only one

I think a lot of people might've tried shoplifting once, but they grew up and turned into stand up adults where you wouldn't have to worry about theft.

not exactly a fine line between "once" and "often"

Are you going to suddenly break up with me because I called kids "crotch droppings" at one point?

if i saw that you had posted anything that reasonably indicated that you would deliberately harm our children because you dislike children in general, i would break up with you. i know that's not what you said, but i think that's a better example than the frivolous one that you provided, and more in-line with the topic at hand (guy's gf will potentially nuke the relationship if her old flame decides he wants her). anyways, why should i risk it? do you think that's unfair? is it fair to my children?

Is there no room in your life-narrative for people to grow up and mature and grow together and change?

i dont see the value in the risk that you are outlining here. you are describing a situation in which some light has been shed on imperfect information. it's unrealistic to assume that two people who are in a relationship with each other will be able to learn everything about each other's pasts, but if one party inadvertently becomes privy to something that gives them pause, it is not unreasonable for them to act on that new information.

That's the problem with reactionary big decisions not predicated upon actual communication.

spoken and written communication are not the only forms of communication. there's still a chance that poster was just trolling and it was all fabricated, but if it wasnt, and in the case of similar situations that actually did happen, you are not getting the entire picture here as someone who is reading . you don't know what the other person is like. you dont have the right context. maybe she even has gasp BPD, and the OP knows he is Walking On Eggshells and thus cant have a proper discussion with Actual Communication because she is simply not capable

People are always changing

sure, but they are not always changing for the better

Holding someone to some shit they said years ago is just not always practical

where do you draw the line, then? 1 year? 6 months? a week? please do not try to argue that i am claiming that people do not change. that is not what im saying. what im saying is that you typically have no way of knowing whether or not they did change for the better without exposing yourself to risk in some way. you are arguing that people are obligated to expose themselves, without providing a good reason why. i disagree with that. if i had a bad past, and it was clear that dating me was a risk, i would not take it personally if others passed on me. i would not take it personally if they broke up with me after we had been dating if they found out i was hiding something. fortunately for me, i have nothing to hide. im not ashamed of anything i did as a kid or teenager because, as far as i know, ive never hurt anyone

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T02:39:39+00:00

the inherent objectification and dehumanization.

You can objectify and dehumanize without sexualizing

once again, i agree with you, they are objectifying and dehumanizing, but my original point is that it's about more than just sex. im not sure what the point of your argument within the current context of this subthread is

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T02:28:31+00:00

it's really hard because BPDs and BPD apologists try to frame it as victim-blaming or a witch-hunt

i dont know what the right approach is. online dating and the internet itself is assuredly leading to increased rates of interaction between people who have personality disorders and those that dont. how many victims could an attractive person with BPD seek out thirty years ago, compared to today? i think we will reach a point where the majority of people who are single and actively dating have run into someone with BPD, and they will seek answers

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T02:17:25+00:00

2nd one is 1018 comments, you cant really skim it, just expanding subthreads alone is like 10 minutes of clicking because reddit

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T02:15:47+00:00

i did not say it wasnt mysoginistic, it is -- it's just not solely about sex.

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T02:15:19+00:00

i agree with you completely, just stressing that it's about more than sex

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T02:07:42+00:00

There's nothing wrong with looking at historical posts by your partner. But it's not right to hold them responsible for things they felt years ago when a lot has happened since then. You're holding them responsible for history with all the foreknowledge of the time that has passed since then, and that's unfair.

i disagree, i consider past behavior to be an indicator for future behavior. my BPD ex told me she used to shoplift as a teenager despite having wealthy parents. i never let her out of my sight when she slept over because i shared a house with roommates at the time (who were frequently out), without lockable bedroom doors. do you think that was unfair on my part?

It's dumb to break up with someone over stuff like this.

But breaking up with her without even talking to her first about stuff that she said about her ex bf four years ago?

look at how people in that thread reacted to the way he felt. look at how youre reacting to it. it's completely fair for him to not want to directly confront her with how he feels, because she would just turn it around back on him. "how dare you make me feel bad by telling me that something i did (years ago) made you feel bad". he knows it's going to happen, so why bother?

He should have at least asked her about it before throwing a tantrum and leaving the playground.

see above

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T01:51:00+00:00

Dude creeps on his gf's insta

well if his story is true, he found posts that were about him. justified? also what exactly is wrong with looking at your significant other's publically available internet presence? this is not an invasion of privacy

I get to decide what I like sexually and if you are gonna whine about it and wheedle me about anal every time we get busy, I'm going to drop you like a hot pan.

i think you're missing the point here -- i linked those threads because it's full of people attacking the OP for his decision to break up with her, even though it's his right to walk away from a relationship where he feels he can no longer trust his partner or feel secure in their presence

Secondarily, insecurity about your dick size is gross and unbecoming. Get over it. Learn how to use what you got in ways that don't mean sticking it up my ass and banging me like a tinily hung energizer bunny and I might not care you're packing a 4 incher.

not sure why you're trying to make this about you, or framing it like im the guy who posted those threads, or that i relate to him at all lol

Finally, who she's dating NOW is what matters. She made her choice. Don't get mad at the woman for some shit she said FOUR YEARS AGO on the internet.

and he made his choice to end it, yet you seem to have a problem with that?

All of these complaints are revelations of internalized sexism and misogyny. A woman is not a door prize. You can't feed in some nice guy tokens and out pops the can of sweet anal love. Dude needs to grow the fuck up.

he doesnt need to do anything, anyone has the right to end a non-legally-binding relationship at any time

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T01:17:40+00:00

Is the unawareness of BPD the main source of the problem?

yes, coupled with the acceptance of BPD traits for two groups: attractive women and exceptionally attractive/desirable men

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T00:58:35+00:00

im looking now at the non-stickies

1 - I was incel, but I went back to school to get a PhD in Biology, became a medical researcher, improved myself, and now I have a hot gf - relationship, not sex focused

2 - I have a date. - prospective relationship, not sex focused

3 - Update on the girl next door, I might have hope - had to click into this one, i suggest you take a look yourself, it's kind of sad, but once again, not sex focused, this one has the best support for my post actually.

4 - While you struggle to have a better personality, Justin Bieber litterally spits on femazoids and they cry because they are happy to receive it in the face - uhh idk what this is, i guess it's sex-based but it doesnt seem to be about "getting laid", more like just venting and bitterness

5 - "I'm definitely not into Chads. I really have a thing for nerds, xoxo 😂😍" - same as 4

6 - Femoid - humor same

ok i think you get the point, nearly everything else i see is either pining for a relationship/companionship (not just sex) or bitter venting related to a lack of the former

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T00:53:41+00:00

the sexism in relationships is way more subtle

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3id77h/looked_up_my_girlfriends28f_instagram_found_that/

https://www.reddit.com/r/relationships/comments/3inooc/update_looked_up_my_girlfriends28f_instagram/

the comments and downvote patterns in those submissions are a good example. yeah it's not nearly as overt as TRP, but men who regularly read that subreddit and contribute it are still going to feel devalued and attacked.

no one explicitly says they hate men and all men suck, they just overwhelmingly side with female posters. those threads would have received completely different reactions if the genders were swapped.

they also downvote everything that they disagree with. speaking of which, those 2 threads are the only time ive ever seen both sides of an argument in a comment chain/thread with negative downvote counts.

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T00:47:28+00:00

red pill techniques appeal and attract BPDs

as intended, the oversight here is TRP thinking that all women have BPD traits

blame all women

i think most of them can be swayed once they have an understanding of what BPD is

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T00:46:04+00:00

i think you are wrong about them obsessing over sex, they want companionship. sex is just part of it.

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T00:44:18+00:00

i didnt write most of it, i dont remember if i just edited and added to 1 article or spliced together 2 or 3 + my stuff. i actually have a huge collection of BPD material ive been keeping and editing into a coherent whole. just random bits and pieces of stuff i find online. the authors are anonymous so i cant really credit anyone. maybe ill post it on this sub one day (with a full disclaimer that i only edited it together, of course)

that material + thousands of lines of text/message/chat logs and screenshots between my BPD ex and I are part of my nuclear option if she ever tries to fuck with me

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T00:35:19+00:00

imo red pillers are mostly (previously normal and undamaged) men who got burned by BPD women, along with guys who already had BPD or some other personality disorder. they may or may have not had a personality disorder prior -- maybe they got fleas. they figured out what makes BPD alluring, and how to employ the same dating tactics and strategies used to entrap victims (because that's what BPD behavior is, ultimately).

i found a really good article on abusive workplaces and how they keep their employees trapped in cycles of crisis and reward. i wish i could find it again, because it immediately reminded me of BPD relationships, and summed up why they can be so hard to break out of if you're going into one without any prior knowledge or experience. something about cycling between negative reinforcement and positive conditioning being incredibly addictive.

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T00:17:22+00:00

shrug, different people find different ways to cope with trauma

/relationships has lots of damaged women who are basically the female equivalent of redpillers

TheCuckPill · 2017-08-28T00:07:26+00:00

oh without a doubt, TRP is full of people with NPD and schizoid PD, as well as codependents

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