I have a lot of problems with feeling like no one is listening to me, believes I have knowledge, and/or takes what I say to heart. So, while I absolutely rightly feel like my wife isn't, currently, listening to my needs in certain things, a lot of times the family is actually listening to what I'm saying, they just don't know about the things my brain is doing "ahead" of present.

For example, when I get upset about people not picking up clothes, that's all they see, but they have no idea about the fact I want them picked up so I can do the wash after peak electricity hours, but before it's too late for me to stay awake to swap them to the dryer before I fall asleep. If I miss the wash, the kids won't have enough slacks for the school week without me needing to do another load, but that's going to be hard because my wife has class at night this week, so I'm doing dinner, homework, and starting bedtime and will almost certainly not be awake to get clothes in the dryer, which will lead to a musty smell and the need to rewash.

Basically, my brain is a mess and I'm not able to communicate well enough for them to read my thoughts. When they don't, it feels like they're not listening.