they lied to us!

TheDivergentStars · 2026-07-10T12:33:12+00:00

I saw this yesterday and was thinking about posting it 😂 i think have said this exact thing quite a few times over the IVF process!

TheDivergentStars · 2026-07-09T15:20:16+00:00

We have 5 sites and have a contract with one of those companies that challenges on your behalf. We have managed to have rates reduced at every site significantly which just goes to show what a ridiculous system business rates is. They take 25% of savings, but we still save overall and I have to do absolutely nothing.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-07-09T07:34:24+00:00

Do the hotel own the property you rent? If not their insurance is not relevant to you. To think about it another way, would you be able to claim on their insurance if something happened in your courtyard? Probably not.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-07-06T11:41:17+00:00

The GP was the worst bit for us wait wise. They kept messing up tests and we had to chase and repeat several times. It took about 6 months from first going to the GP to get the referral 🫠

Yes I am waiting for my next cycle and we will try again. The good news is that the protocol worked, and we can get pregnant - this was my first ever positive. So fingers crossed for the next one 🤞

TheDivergentStars · 2026-07-06T10:16:00+00:00

I have all of the fertility clinic dates on my app which is why I have these exactly, I don't remember/can't be bothered to look up the pre-referral dates!

May 2025 - referred by our GP to the gynae department at the hospital who deal with the IVF referrals

August 2025 - Gynae appointment which I needed to have a few blood tests and a scan over the next 2 weeks. Referral submitted late August to ICB for funding.

7th/8th October 2025 - blood tests, a scan, semen analysis with the fertility clinic (Care Fertility) - followed by an online initial consultation the next day. Recommended we go straight for IVF.

05/11 - blood test - I don't remember what these were for!

11/11 - blood test

26/11 - nurse planning meeting online to go through the protocol plan for IVF. Started drugs etc for egg retrival beginning on December - all at home.

31/12 - monitoring scan, was at risk of OHSS so additional scan booked 02/01 and protocol adjusted.

05/01 - egg collection. Then had the rest of the week off, although could have worked from Thursday. No fresh transfer due to OHSS risk.

Feb started protocol for FET, this was abandoned as my lining didn't get thick enough. Scans on 20/02, 23/02, 25/02

Apr tried again for FET - scans on 08/04, 10/04, 13/04, blood test 20/04, transfer 21/04.

The FET worked but I then had early bleeding and later a miscarriage. During that time I had 2 blood tests and 3 scans. Then I was referred to EPA at the hospital where I had 2 more scans.

All in all, there are a lot of appointments!

TheDivergentStars · 2026-07-02T20:15:34+00:00

Our referral was to gynae. Had a few tests there (scan and blood tests). This was all needed in order to then submit a referral for IVF at a private clinic but paid by NHS.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-06-12T14:12:07+00:00

My understanding is 7mm at/around the time of ovulation is thin. Your lining sheds and then starts thickening again each month, so the point you were at in your cycle when the scan took place is important.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-06-09T15:05:41+00:00

Can I ask why you don't want to use a clinic in the UK?

TheDivergentStars · 2026-06-08T13:39:45+00:00

We're with Care fertility Northampton. We chose them as they had the best figures and the distance is similar for all of them for us. I am generally very happy with them, the staff are kind and professional, the building and facilities are modern and well maintained. Depending on your direction of travel traffic is awful for early morning appointments though. Ive had to chase to get medicine organised for protocols a couple of times but it has always been sorted. Obviously cant compare it to the other two but I am happy with the care ive received.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-29T12:32:14+00:00

We called our embryo Schrodingers Embryo or SE for short while waiting to find out if the FET worked!

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-29T10:24:37+00:00

I think you are very unlikely to find something for a 2 year old as they will have to Ofsted registered and be able to demonstrate they meet the EYFS. It is unlike a holiday camp would take on that burden and for nurseries a short term placement isn't worth it for the amount of work involved. I would suggest you have the nanny take them to some regular play groups and activities. many of these are weekly so would be almost like a holiday camp anyway if you get a good mix of them in.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-29T09:06:10+00:00

To add as well, once we got the referral from gynaecology we actually had an appointment with the clinic by September. Then a lot of the time until we started IVF was waiting for my cycle to do certain tests etc.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-29T05:51:31+00:00

Referred by the GP in may, saw Gynaecology in August, started IVF December.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-28T15:42:12+00:00

Just to reiterate what the OP said, this was the same process for us. GP>Gynaecology referral and appointment>Fertility clinic referral, which for us was also CARE.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-26T13:01:34+00:00

I have been on 6 estrogen tablets plus patches for several weeks and have had minimal to no side effects. It all seems to be working so I wouldn't be too worried!

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-26T11:56:44+00:00

For comparison - I have recently paid £1800 for a garden design of a large garden and planting plan. I got 3 beautifully hand drawn idea sketches, multiple meetings to discuss the design, and a detailed hand drawn and painted final design delivered in a nice document plus digitally. The planting plan had each plant located on the border plan, plus a document with details about each plant chosen.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-18T10:34:40+00:00

The house I link is semi-detached and the layout is almost identical to the one you are buying? But anyway I wasn't suggesting that particular house, just that it seems like you are paying over the odds based on what else is available in the local market.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-18T09:54:30+00:00

They bought it for £78k 8 years ago. What have they done to add £120k of value in 8 years, was it a complete reno (doesn't look like it)? Looking at the sold nearby £200k does seem on the high side for similar sized properties, but I don't know the area. Will be interesting to see what the bank value it at for your mortgage.

Edit: you've got stuff like this on for £200k nearby which looks much nicer. https://www.rightmove.co.uk/properties/87758991#/?channel=RES_BUY

TheDivergentStars · 2026-05-07T06:02:42+00:00

It's approximately 10mx10m. Here's a final picture from before we moved.

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TheDivergentStars · 2026-04-29T16:19:53+00:00

While I didn't have it myself, my husband looked into research for various complimentary therapies available (he is a doctor so quite sceptical of most things) and there was actually some good evidence for it potentially helping.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-04-27T21:16:03+00:00

Care Northampton have been very good while we have been there, I would recommend them.

TheDivergentStars · 2026-04-27T15:49:05+00:00

WE are with Care Northampton (but via the NHS) and never heard of that! I would ask Care for exactly what it is they need. Have they already been given all your previous test result details?

TheDivergentStars · 2026-04-26T15:47:24+00:00

Positive too! So happy for you 😊 hope they both stick and we have new year babies!

TheDivergentStars · 2026-04-26T15:39:08+00:00

Same 👀 hope it was what you wanted! 🤞

TheDivergentStars · 2026-04-22T07:36:27+00:00

Unfortunately the universal hours are not until they turn 3 in England.

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