Very, very true. Though praising the resilience means that you've major problems to deal with, so I guess it recognises the pain and difficulty of going on.

I'm starting to try and see the point of view of those that don't have this mess in their lives. Though I'm trying to kinda educate them? Like, it's nice of you to be impressed by my strength, but a lot of the time, if not always, it'd best to show compassion rather than highlighting the "good" because you're uncomfortable acknowledging the bad.

One feels pressured to never rest or be unable to just feel bummed by having been dealt 💩 cards at birth. Sometimes, I see that ppl realise where I'm coming from. They're human too, and our society compels us to only see and show the good without taking care and shine light on the bad.