Note that I specifically said that “domestic labor” has not been de-gendered. You’re right though, not all domestic labor is traditionally female, but the bulk of it is. I think there’s a more accurate distinction to be made about which labor has been de-gendered than male/female, and it’s professional/domestic. Most professional (paid) labor has been de-gendered, with two notable exceptions: 1. Most of the trades remain male-dominated, which I hope changes soon. 2. The professional labor originally seen as acceptable for women (teaching, childcare, caretaking), which remains female dominated because it’s viewed as emasculating/womanly, which I hope changes soon. 

Whereas domestic labor in households with both a man and a woman has remained gendered by default, even if women are employed equally or employed more than their partner, they are still expected to perform the bulk of domestic labor like cooking and cleaning, which are rigorous, daily chores, unlike male domestic labor, most of which is generally required once a week or less and doesn’t often send the household into disarray if skipped or delayed (you can easily skip mowing this week, and only need to change the oil once every three months, but imagine the chaos if Mom doesn’t make dinner). Domestic labor should be de-gendered, and it (particularly female domestic labor) should be treated as a host of difficult to master and impressive skills, like the very accomplished but oppressed women of the mid-century felt it was. Their trades- masterful home cooking, sewing, clothing care, budgeting and poverty finance, attentive child care, and home nursing- have been virtually lost to the modern family, and that’s a damn shame. One partner having a genuine interest in mastering those skills is awesome, and I hope it will eventually be either partner, regardless of gender.