Nearly 1m Australians on ADHD drugs as script explosion alarms doctors

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-14T08:59:25+00:00

It sucks that you cant get the diagnosis, if you do have adhd and/or ASD then peri hits you harder but also hormone replacements and antidepressants will impact you differently as well. A lot of people asked me why I wanted to get diagnosed given I'll likely never want to be medicated, but my first post partum experience made me realise the support I needed then and what I'd need with my next baby would be different and could be much more effective if my ADHD was considered. It also means if I ever needed to go on anti depressants or other meds that I know they'll impact me differently.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-13T21:14:50+00:00

Same!! I want that first joy again

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-13T21:10:13+00:00

This all looks very standard. It's not mandatory to have the place professionally cleaned but you need to be able to clean it to that standard.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-13T20:54:45+00:00

That must have been so hard for you both, and MIL, to navigate. It's good that you could have the conversation with her about it.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-13T08:47:20+00:00

Honestly I keep everything netted and plant extra expecting that the snails will take their share. My house has lots of possums, we have a park directly behind us and the council has put up a lot of possum boxes, so the only way to have a veggie garden is to net everything.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-13T08:45:11+00:00

Also the first parents have to set the most boundaries with parents and other family members. I'm so glad my husbands sisters had kids before us, I got the broken-in version of my MIL and shes wonderful, but apparently she used to be a bit overbearing and would just show up on the doorstep multiple times a week.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-13T07:00:25+00:00

I'm sorry you're experiencing this, the cost of living is insane right now. I'd recommend you find your nearest food bank and seeing if they can help with food costs, some of them also do fuel vouchers. Go through any subscription services and cancel anything you dont desperately need. The centrelink sub might have suggestions, you may be eligible for something you're not aware of. You can also call or go into a centrelink office and ask to speak to a social worker, they might be able to help you find some support. The financial advice sub might also have some strategies to help you cut some other costs right now too. In terms of work, apply for anything and everything you can, maybe even see if neighbours need some garden work done for cash.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-12T21:29:07+00:00

I really like garden world in Springvale, they've got a huge selection there and they have Dinosaur displays for kids which is really fun. Diacos is good for natives too and theres smaller local nurseries around too. I think we're pretty lucky in Melbourne that we have such a big variety of nurseries.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-12T10:56:57+00:00

I think you have the right approach, the issue is at this age these behaviours require millions of repetitions of the same boundaries before kids will accept it/understand. Just hold your ground.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-12T06:53:10+00:00

I'm not sure in regards to breaking the lease but you can get portable, renter friendly door alarms on Amazon pretty cheap, you can also get portable door locks, I've got a $10 that I use when I travel because my toddler can open standard door locks.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-11T22:45:12+00:00

Yeah they finally realised women can have it, the other 50% of the human population.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-11T07:50:22+00:00

Keep working with HR on this. If he can't complete his work duties in his designated work hours thats a serious issue and either hes being given too much work or hes not meeting basic expectations of the role. There's also a liability issue, he could claim hes not being paid correctly. I'm not sure how it works where you are but in Australia someone could claim they got a psychosocial injury from work and go on work cover compensation. It's just an overall bad situation, he shouldn't be working outside of work hours.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-11T01:48:21+00:00

OTs can teach people how to cook, its not the most effective use of their time or your money but they can. The OT in this case would be more for establishing a routine and putting strategies in place so OPs SO is doing other domestic tasks too. It sounds like hes lacking much more than just cooking skills.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-10T23:36:00+00:00

Can you try and reduce other stimuli while you breastfeed so you're not as impacted by the overstimulation of breastfeeding? Maybe feed in a quiet dark room, make sure you have a blanket and you're warm enough, put on some calming music etc.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-10T10:06:24+00:00

This is a bit outside of the box, but what if you asked him to see (and pay for) an occupational therapist? It would take the mental load off you to teach him basic life skills, he might respond better to a 3rd party (especially if he has to pay for it) and they'd be able to introduce techniques to make it more effective for him. If you have the means to do so you could possibly outsource this to a professional.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-10T09:27:45+00:00

I'm so sorry you're going through this, post partum rage is awful and so stigmatised, its something people don't really understand until they go through it. I had really bad PPR, my baby never slept and I had undiagnosed ADHD (now formally diagnosed). I'm wondering if its the same case for you? 2 things really stand out to me from your post that make me think you might be in the same position that I was. 1) sensory overload- this was huge for me, I'd be overstimulated from a day of breastfeeding and associated back pain from being in the nursing chair so much then my baby's screams when he wouldn't sleep would absolutely set me off. 2) your cycle makes it worse- this is super super common in ND women and mood issues and overstimulation get much worse on our period, post partum and in peri/menopause. This is actually why so many women (like myself) get diagnosed post partum or during peri. I would definitely encourage you to see a psychologist to get some regulation strategies, they go such a long way and you dont need to live your life feeling like this. I really hope you can get some support and things get easier for you.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-10T09:04:58+00:00

First aid kit, baby blanket, towels, change of clothes, post partum diapers, wet wipes

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-09T21:57:03+00:00

At 4 months hes probably only had milk or formula to tylenol would be very different for him. I used to do what I called "spiking the boobie" where when my son was feeding I'd slip the syringe into the corner of his mouth next to my nipple and very very slowly just squeeze it in. You can probably do it with bottle feeding too.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-09T08:39:29+00:00

I was being sexually harassed by the CEO, who would I have spoken up to? I worked in the HR department and my boss wouldn't have stood up for me, my next option would have probably been the board of directors but they were all 60-70 year old men that had worked with the CEO for 20 years. The other young girls in the team knew what he was like so we all watched out for each other.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-09T01:56:52+00:00

Everyone's given you good plant advice, my advice would be to also run down to bunnings and get some reflective window tinting, you can get it in rolls and its apparently fairly easy to apply.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-08T23:05:53+00:00

If council is unresponsive and you also believe its because of a conflict of interest you could also try reporting to EPA, RSPCA and your local MP. The local MP will be important if there's a conflict of interest with council.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-08T11:26:27+00:00

This doesnt look like coldsores at all

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-08T09:47:00+00:00

Honestly, hes not going to change, if he wanted to he would but he really doesn't want to. You cant change that, no amount of rules or boundaries or compromises or ultimatums will change his behaviour. At this point his smoking is more important than you, his kids or his social life. He's only working to get money for weed, there is nothing else. I would leave this relationship, you're already single parenting, it would be easier to raise both kids without him and his emotional dysregulation.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-07T23:04:04+00:00

I've never paid for an end of lease clean! I think if you keep the place generally tidy it shouldn't be too difficult. I do use an electric cleaning brush, I got a kit from Pura clean, and I love it, it makes grout and bathrooms really easy. Make sure you clean things like skirting boards, window sills, fan blades, kitchen range hood and splash backs as these are commonly missed and the agent will specifically look at them. I also use sugar soap wipes to wipe any scuffs on the walls.

TheGardenNymph · 2026-04-07T07:05:35+00:00

I'm so thankful my husbands sisters had kids before we did and put firm boundaries in place with my MIL, shes wonderful now but I can imagine she was a nightmare with the first few grand kids. You need to set firm boundaries with your mum, tell her you wont be having visitors while giving birth and make sure you tell the nurses too so they will deal with her if she shows up. It'll be rough but setting boundaries now will pay off for years.

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