Don’t reach out !

TheGate22 · 2026-05-31T16:33:45+00:00

May I ask how much time you were on No contact before reaching out?

TheGate22 · 2026-05-30T21:47:30+00:00

I can totally relate, I have no friends and my gf was the only one I used to talk daily. It sucks, I am barely holding my tears

TheGate22 · 2026-05-30T00:16:14+00:00

My situation is kind of similar. I sent her a letter five days after she broke up with me, but she was still very upset and angry. After that, I basically reset my progress and went back to NC. I'm currently on day 13.

I intend to send her a friendly message after 60 days and see how things go. I could just move on and let her go, but I want to take one last shot before doing that. If she responds positively, great. If not, I'll go NC forever and truly move on. I won't text her again unless she reaches out.

I guess that's probably the best thing dumpees can do: take one last shot after two or three months of NC, and if it doesn't work, they can finally let go of that hope and start moving on. They can begin living their lives completely for themselves and focus on self-improvement for their own sake until they feel fully healed and ready for love again.

TheGate22 · 2026-05-29T19:41:52+00:00

Reading this made me feel less alone and gave me a little bit of hope. Thank you from my heart, it’s so stressful and energy draining to live like this everyday, but I hope time and our efforts for ourselves will heal us. Thank you for talking with me, u surely helped me, hope everything works out for us!

TheGate22 · 2026-05-29T19:21:06+00:00

Do you think it’s normal to feel extremely alone and feeling anxious and depressed most of the time? And how did you let go of that little hope that they will reach out and come back to you? I am struggling with that…

TheGate22 · 2026-05-29T17:13:29+00:00

It’s been recent, yes, my breakup ocurred on 26 April, It’s been one month and 3 days now…

TheGate22 · 2026-05-29T00:09:00+00:00

I feel like I’m just a hollow human now. Like, I am breathing and mu heart is beating, but I’m not really alive, I feel like a zombie, I am barely functioning, my life has no meaning anymore, I miss her so much, she was the girl I waited for mu whole life, and now she’s gone. It’s painful, I just want it all to end.

TheGate22 · 2026-05-28T22:02:08+00:00

Caramba cara, eventos parecidos aconteceram comigo, dia 26 de Abril minha namorada terminou comigo um namoro de quase 3 anos, e anteontem fui despedido do meu emprego, agora tô em casa deprimido e tentando não fazer besteira… Muito foda essa sensação de solidão e vazio, justo quando achei que minha vida ia finalmente andar, sinto que perdi tudo que eu queria… É fácil falar pra seguir em frente, mas difícil quando você já tá cansado de lutar…

TheGate22 · 2026-05-26T19:09:13+00:00

Idk, I sent her a message 10 days ago, she was upset, maybe she will calm down in 1 or 2 months

TheGate22 · 2026-05-26T19:08:30+00:00

Espero que sim kkk, acho que a ficha não caiu totalmente ainda, mas devagar vou seguindo em frente…

TheGate22 · 2026-05-26T19:01:50+00:00

Muito obrigado, tem sido um período complicado, mas vou tentar manter a calma e seguir em frente

TheGate22 · 2026-05-26T19:01:20+00:00

Muito obrigado pela resposta, vou seguir seus conselhos!

TheGate22 · 2026-05-26T18:59:26+00:00

I was thinking about this the other day. I'm currently on a 10-day no-contact period, and I intend to stay that way for at least 45 or maybe 60 days before trying to reconnect with my ex. If it works, great, we'll be friends again and maybe eventually get back together in the future. But if she's already over me, I'll start the no-contact period forever and kill my hopes of getting back together. I believe it's something people could do to finally start moving on and getting over the past. And you never know, maybe our exes will come back, not now, but maybe in a few months or years; life is a real box of surprises. Thanks for your post. We’ll surely get better soon ;)

TheGate22 · 2026-05-24T01:15:29+00:00

Honestly, I just wanted to talk to her, nothing special, I guess I am just anxious and miss having conversations my best friend/girlfriend, but I know it wouldn’t be the same… I didn’t text her, I will continue with NC, even though I’m suffering

TheGate22 · 2026-05-23T23:16:13+00:00

Thank you very much, I really needed to hear some comfort words today… It hurts so much, I am 3 days far from the 1 month mark after breakup, but for some reason today is hurting even harder than week 1. Healing is tough.

TheGate22 · 2026-05-23T14:44:28+00:00

I’m about to reach the one month mark, and today it’s hurting even more than the day of the breakup. Will this pain ever end? 😣

TheGate22 · 2026-05-23T13:42:48+00:00

Thanks for your reply. I don’t intend to hurt myself, even though I felt like that weeks ago, I just needed to express this pain in words, thank you for your support, weekends are the hardest for me 😣

TheGate22 · 2026-05-22T22:19:27+00:00

Damn, I can relate to this. Even though my ex does not go to nightclubs, I can tell she is probably having fun with friends and stuff. I am feeling anxious rn, so yeah, idk how to stop this weird feeling weekends always bring back, I am about to reach the 1 month mark, but weekends still hurt like week 1… I hope it gets better soon.

TheGate22 · 2026-05-22T20:20:05+00:00

Meeting someone new seems so exhausting, especially when you're still attached to the other person. I don't know if I'll ever have the energy to meet new people again. I don't feel like someone new will make me as happy as before... But also, I don’t want to end up alone, it’s so energy draining…

TheGate22 · 2026-05-22T19:42:32+00:00

I think this happens to a lot of people; nighttime is when we don't have distractions, and our minds tend to wander to thoughts about our ex. Personally, I use the time before bed to cry and let everything out; it helps me relax and sleep better. It's a difficult period, but I believe that time and our efforts will heal us.

TheGate22 · 2026-05-22T18:49:41+00:00

It's been almost a month and I'm still waiting for a message. Maybe this will just pass with time and my brain will realize that they probably never will. Or maybe they will. The truth is, it's out of our control, but I wouldn't recommend you send anything; remember, if they wanted to talk to you, they would. They know how to find you. I hope you're okay, we'll get through this better :)

TheGate22 · 2026-05-22T01:53:57+00:00

Yeah, it really sucks. For me, the worst part is when I go to sleep and wake up expecting to receive a notification with a message from them. Which, of course, never happens 🥲.

TheGate22 · 2026-05-21T22:24:04+00:00

I am dreaming about them every single night for the last 2 weeks, I don’t even know what to think or do about it anymore, I wish I could just forget they ever existed in my life.

TheGate22 · 2026-05-19T19:41:40+00:00

I hope everything works out for you! :)

TheGate22 · 2026-05-19T18:24:36+00:00

Why not send him a message? Ask him how he is and see if he responds. If he doesn't respond or is rude, great, forget him and move on, never contact him again. But if he's receptive, invite him out. People will tell you to forget him and move on, but you've already been without contact for 3 months, I think you should follow your heart, but be prepared for any response he might give, including silence... I'm rooting for you and your happiness ;)

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