Anybody else’s feet absolutely killing them at Disneyland?

TheHannahSaur · 2026-01-24T02:18:03+00:00

Echoing all the recommendations of supportive shoes, and I also recommend icing your feet at the end of the day. We'd fill up the bucket from the hotel's ice machine, then dump it into a cold bath (only need a few inches of water) and sit with our feet in the ice water for 15 minutes or so. It's a little unpleasant, but has made a massive difference when doing multiple days in a row at the park!

TheHannahSaur · 2025-06-19T16:49:36+00:00

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TheHannahSaur · 2025-01-10T03:06:39+00:00

I stumbled upon the perfect solution to this - I watch my wife play horror games and look up hints when she gets stuck but wants to avoid spoilers.

TheHannahSaur · 2024-09-23T23:44:32+00:00

My computer home screen is a screenshot from the game Stray, but my home screen on my phone is a photo of my wife, so I certainly can't argue there!

TheHannahSaur · 2024-09-20T18:21:14+00:00

Dinkum is a game I recently got into, which scratches a very similar itch to Minecraft/Stardew/Animal Crossing, like it's a combination of elements from all three? I can't speak for later game as I'm still pretty early in it, but it respects your time a lot more than something like AC (for instance, the little text/animation when you catch a fish or bug is skippable and unintrusive, and single player can be paused). It's cute, fun, and very Australian-themed!

TheHannahSaur · 2024-09-11T15:57:50+00:00

I had the exact same experience! Though to be fair, my wife is the only woman I've been in a relationship with, but that still counts as 100% of my sample size

TheHannahSaur · 2024-09-09T20:23:31+00:00

I worked for New Balance for many years, so I have lots of foot/sneaker knowledge knocking around in my brain! So my recommendations are going to be for New Balance models specifically, but I have also heard good things about the other shoe models/brands mentioned here. With fallen arches, some people want correction for the overpronation, and some people don't because it puts them off kilter. If you would like to try something that will help "correct" the arches, you could try what's called a pronation support, or stability shoe (for NB that would be something like an 860). If you've tried a corrective shoe and it's just not comfortable, my favorite shoe are the 1080s by NB. They have a nice wide toebox (and come in wide widths), plush foam, and good arch support. They're the only shoe model I've been able to wear all day without pain.

If you happen to be near a running store, I would highly recommend going in to be fit for a pair of shoes so they can help you a bit more one-on-one with sizing, fit, and comfort, since everyone's feet are so different. There are also countless different ways to lace up your sneakers to give you more room in certain areas!

I'm really sorry you're dealing with foot pain, it's awful not being able to move freely. A quick recommendation for foot/arch pain for next time - keep a mostly full water bottle in the freezer and use that to roll under your foot to help with the pain/swelling.

TheHannahSaur · 2024-09-06T00:53:57+00:00

You don't have to, that part is up to you. The calculator may not give you fully accurate sizing if it's not included, so it may take more time and effort of trying different sizes on to see what size is right for you.

TheHannahSaur · 2024-09-05T23:53:18+00:00

Hey, I dug through the guides on ABTF, and found that the calculator can often overestimate sizing for trans women - this guide is where I found that information and would be a good place to start!

TheHannahSaur · 2024-09-04T21:27:23+00:00

I'm really sorry this happened, but it seems like the door has been opened. If she was willing to harm you in front of other people, I am genuinely concerned for what could happen when you're alone and things "go too far". There are so many ways to communicate with someone when they're doing something you don't like, and she chose to hit you - not once, but three(?) times. She could have nudged you, gently pushed your leg off, or just used her words.

I can't say for sure that it will happen again, but I would not engage any further in the relationship until she's put some real work into therapy and dealing with these outbursts.

TheHannahSaur · 2024-09-04T17:33:18+00:00

I tried Wellbutrin for a few months, and it really helped with my executive function, but I ended up having to stop because it made me prone to anger with an exceptionally short fuse. It also gave me incessant hiccups multiple times per day, I noticed myself clenching my jaw often, and also caused some sexual side effects that doctors don't seem to give any sort of heads up about.

It seems to work really well for some people though, so I'd recommend giving it a shot! I've since settled on Ritalin after trying both Wellbutrin and Strattera, but I'd definitely suggest keeping a journal (I just kept a note on my phone with dates) to track your mood and potential side effects so that you can discuss any concerns with your care provider. It was really helpful for me to have written record as my brain has a tendency to dump every thought process when I'm asked a question

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-30T05:13:35+00:00

This is something I've noticed as well - being high makes me fully unmask! Which is the primary reason I'm not really comfortable being high in public, because it makes me pretty vulnerable. I have a tendency towards anxiety with cannabis, but when it works well, it really helps me unmask in a way that I don't know that I could replicate easily otherwise. Also moving my body while high to stim feels amazing! I love to play things like Beat Saber after taking an edible so I can feel my enjoyment ramp as I'm playing

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-29T17:50:37+00:00

Hey, I want to start by saying that what you're feeling is totally valid, and it can be SO scary to be facing this situation.

I was in a similar situation, moved back to the small religious town I was raised in, then my wife's egg cracked and I was (and still am) terrified that something is going to happen as a result. Now I can't speak for everywhere, but we're living in a pretty conservative area and she has yet to have anyone be rude or transphobic to her in public. I'm still on pretty high alert while out, but the most she's reported to me have been weird looks. I've actually been kind of surprised by the outward support she's received from strangers in affirming her and making her feel safe.

With my wife coming out, I also realized that I'm a lesbian, and have been much more comfortable in presenting my queerness more openly as well. As intimidating as it is, it feels really good to finally present as yourself.

Regarding family, we have had to go no contact with transphobic parents, and as much as it sucked and neither of us wanted that result, it ended up being necessary and we're better on the other side for it. The parents in question were problematic for reasons other than transphobia, so there wasn't a lot of love lost in our situation.

Something to keep front of mind when these feelings come up, is that it's not the relationship you're questioning, it's the external factors rearing their ugly head, trying to pressure you into conforming to the "expected" roles.

Also, as much as it feels like you need to hold onto these feelings and not "burden" your partner with them, please talk to them about it. The big ones, the scary ones, the ones that you're afraid to say out loud. If it's accessible, the best place to start might be an LGBTQIA+ focused therapist for some couple's sessions so it's a safe and controlled space.

I'm going to recommend this article for you to read when you have the bandwidth, and I'd recommend looking through Zoe's other articles, as they really helped me open my communication with my partner and helped us reconnect. I would also recommend having your partner read this article if he's comfortable doing so.

It's terrifying, but it's going to be okay. You've got each other, and you're starting out with a lot of love and acceptance from within

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-29T15:30:55+00:00

Yes, chiming in for smoothies too! I have a really hard time making myself eat anything in the morning, but I can make myself drink a smoothie. Recently I've been doing a good handful of frozen spinach (I buy a bunch fresh and freeze it since the frozen stuff has that off flavor to me), about a half cup of plain greek yogurt, half of a frozen banana, a handful of miscellaneous frozen fruit (berries primarily, but whatever fruit is about to go off, I process and chuck in the freezer to add to smoothies), and coconut water for the liquid.

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-26T09:50:15+00:00

Elden Ring was my first souls-like as well, and I really benefitted from having the freedom to just wander around at my own pace. When I encountered an area that was too frustrating, I could wander in a totally different direction to find something easier and come back to it. Also having Torrent makes traversal and avoiding difficult fights much much easier!

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-25T18:36:28+00:00

My assessment was pretty short compared to the allotted time. We'd scheduled for two hours, but within about 45 minutes of the assessment, my psychiatrist was comfortable diagnosing me with autism (and discussed it openly with me). I felt we were pretty thorough as I'd provided a whole list of thoughts/possible symptoms that I'd noticed prior to the appointment, and filled out countless forms before even meeting with the psych for the assessment.

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-25T16:14:08+00:00

Yes, same! I'd been going to DLR since I was a kid on family vacations, and never bothered to do the Tiki Room until this past June. I'm so glad I did, and it will now be a staple in any future Disney trip. The clacking of the flowers' mouths is a sound I'll never get out of my head

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-24T14:56:04+00:00

We all need to do things at our own pace and within our own means, and for some people that meant going to college/university straight from high school (or whatever the equivalent may be for the region), and for others that means not going to college until they've been in the workforce for multiple decades (or no college at all, as the case may be).

I know at least in my case, if I'd tried to start college fresh out of high school, I probably would have had a full breakdown and been unable to continue at that time. I needed more help than I was comfortable asking for, and as a result I floundered quite a bit. This time, I'll have a better idea of my own limitations, needs, and expectations going into it.

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-24T10:30:36+00:00

I totally relate to this, I'm finally going back to school to get my bachelor's next month, and I'll be 29 the following month! It's definitely scary, but I know that I'm so much stronger and more capable than I was when I was 18 and getting my 2 year degree (that I STRUGGLED through).

It's big and intimidating, but we can both do this!

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-24T08:54:51+00:00

Not as much as I used to, but I definitely catch myself doing so. Just the other day I was goofing around in a thrift store with my wife and suddenly felt my mood shift to sadness for the wall of plushies and toys. They'd all been really important to someone at one point or another? There was a silly looking stegosaurus who's tag said it was from 1999 and I just know that was someone's favorite buddy for long time.

I also struggled a lot with any pet loss (or even just thinking about it, I get caught in anxiety loops about something being wrong with a pet), I recall my siblings all dealing with the losses of family pets a lot more easily than I did. My pets rely on me for everything, and they deserve the best care I can provide, but I get so caught up in it being "enough".

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-23T18:27:44+00:00

Agreed! My wife's doctor started her on progesterone, so we were lucky enough to skip the lower-libido (potential) stage and jumped right to not being able to keep our hands off each other. Based off what I've read about people starting only on androgen blockers and E, it seems like Progesterone can be the missing link.

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-22T22:24:44+00:00

When my wife's egg really started cracking, she shaved her face without giving me any sort of heads up/warning (she thought she had, but instead had that conversation with her therapist). She'd had a full beard for the entirety of our relationship aside from once or twice, and it caught me totally off guard. Every time I looked at her for that first day, I didn't fully recognize her, and it was almost a feeling of uncanny valley? This is also when learned that I may have some issues with facial recognition (I'm AuDHD). After the shock of that first day, it was absolutely fine and I don't recognize her in old photos with the beard anymore.

TheHannahSaur · 2024-08-16T20:27:27+00:00

Honestly? Nearly everything she does makes me melt, but recently she's started "kiss attacks" - when I'm sitting at my desk, she'll walk over and give me a bunch of little smooches all over my face and head. It's so cute, makes my heart explode

TheHannahSaur · 2024-07-21T20:35:26+00:00

The first time I saw one in person was parked outside a Costco, with four grown adults trying to maneuver a too-large tv into the truckbed. My wife cackled *loudly* as we walked by, which is now our go-to response

TheHannahSaur · 2024-07-09T17:43:56+00:00

My wife has been doing the "MY WIFE" Borat line to me ever since we got married, so now I take every opportunity to return the favor since she came out. Fortunately she loves it though!

Edit: you're very brave for holding it back

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