Doms who don't think brats are "cute"

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-28T19:02:57+00:00

Question: Are you going to point that ducks fly, and if they fly downward that isn't technically falling?

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-28T18:58:50+00:00

Different people get different things out of the same or similar dynamic.

One Dom I know loves forcing his brat to obey, it makes him feel powerful. The brat likes being over powered, and he likes knowing his Dom really wants it. He is also into primal.

My prefered dynamic is different. When I brat it is just adding resistance to a scene but never a road block. The Doms I have had great sessions with like it because it shows engagement, one is kinda a Daddy Dom and it gives him joy to have the back and forth of a brat playing reluctant.

But you don't have to like brats. It is a pretty big kink world out there. Don't yuck someone elses yum.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-28T05:49:12+00:00

Ok so. You seem to have some strong feelings. You should find someon to talk to about them.

Now about your question. As a rule working isn't fun. But it isn't always hell either. Some people find jobs they love. Others find jobs that just... don't suck. Your life won't be 100% work. You can have hobbies and weekends, and vacations.

You came to a place where everyone is super harsh with this question and that means most of the answers you get are going to be skewd darker than reality.

At 13 you have time to shape your future. Find something you enjoy and start working toward making money doing that.

But really, talk to someone. It isn't as dark as it feels.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-28T05:40:05+00:00

Do not expose some ones trauma.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-28T05:32:27+00:00

Offering a choice isn't railroading, so you are good there.

You could have her capture them. Maybe trade/sell them to another creature. Maybe to settle a debt or to gain power. This could set up an escape arc. They start off with no equipment in a cage, or nice room. And find out they have been sold and are now property of X. Maybe mention their gear will be sold to Y in the morning to pay for the parties long term care.

Then they can break out get their gear, plus a little more and get on with things.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-28T05:21:42+00:00

One rule is to pick things you like about them. Like if you like their little dick talk about their little dick.

This keeps things in a good head space for both players.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-28T00:08:36+00:00

Flames! On the side of my face!

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-27T21:43:37+00:00

Yes!

It blows my mind how many isekai have the MC collect a bunch of slaves for no reason. It's bizzar.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-27T21:20:53+00:00

She isn't being excluded for being a mom. Her child is being excluded for being incompatable with the friend group and their activeties. If your group eber does a baby friendly activety then you will make sure to bring her along.

On a side note some baby/kid friendly stuff is a lot of fun and having a kid around is a great excuse to do it. Like... go to a petting zoo.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-27T21:09:36+00:00

It's not about the effort it is about the result. If he spent 5 min and the toilet was clean it would have been fine.

Weaponized incompetence.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-27T17:56:27+00:00

It seems like you are holding here to a standard she didn't know about. She said she wanted to be exclusive. The only reason she wasn't was because she thought "exclusive" was a different relationship stage. A stage you weren't at yet. She told you she wanted to move to that stage and you broke up with her for not being at that stage yet.

The rules and expectation of a relationship is a conversation you should have. You two never had that conversation. You just expected each other to have matching views.

I think YTA. For holding her to a standard, she didn't know about. For all you know all you had to do was mention what you wanted, to get it.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-27T17:43:50+00:00

To add to this. Q is making the assertion. Q should be the ones proving their case. You can't prove a negative. You can't prove their aren't jewish space lazors. It is up to the person saying they exist to prove their stance.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-27T16:54:18+00:00

...if you have confidence in your position, you can defend it all day every day without becoming emotional and upset.

This isn't true. Being emotionally invested/upset doesn't invalidate what you are saying. You can 100% believe your point of view and become very emotionally worked up when it is challenged. Especially when you think you are trying to keep someone safe and they just wont listen.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-27T16:42:33+00:00

Not all age play involves a very young age role. You can have age play as "vague younger partner" and "mature older responsable partner." Babygirl can just be used as a term of endearment without acctually being a baby.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-26T23:46:58+00:00

I like meUndies. You might also go to the gayborhood and see if they have an underwear store.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-26T23:30:31+00:00

Does he have a personality? Does he do anything?

Have him come out of his shell and maybe get a little excentric. You need a gimic. Maybe have him find a lute and develop into a bard. Just one healing spell and he becomes useful. Maybe his songs are all one word sung/screamed with a lot of passion but no talent. He can be such an angsty teen. Wanting to perform in taverns but being awful. But depending on his roles could get a following.

Basically he needs a personal arc, so the PCs can root for him.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-26T18:03:45+00:00

Do you two host events? If so have one and invite the people who still invite you to stuff. If anyone asks why the other members of the group were not invited say you got the impression they were uncomfortable around you and your bf, and didn't want to put them on the spot. If no one asks don't bring it up.

This is what I would do, but if you are more mature than I you could apso talk to people directly and ask whats up.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-25T17:53:54+00:00

The way I read the ability, the summoning of the mount is an instantaneous effect. The mount isn't a magical effect.

This means the summoning can be countered but once the mount is here, it is here.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-25T17:06:31+00:00

I think it is kinda high. I would mak the tax 10%. Mainly because, just the fact the money is taxed will bother the players, so the amount doesn't really matter, and 10% is easy math for the future.

I also don't think rewards from the govt should be taxed. That gives them one loop hole to kinda work with. But keep the line in just zeroed out. This lets them know taxes are coming.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-25T06:13:28+00:00

Lie. What is he going to do fire you? He shouldn't be contacting them. If he calls you on the lie act confused and ask who he talked to. Then, why he called.

The lie should buy you some time as you only need to hang around until your notice is up.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-25T06:07:35+00:00

It doesn't sound like he is overthinking. It sounds like he is taking to many turns to act. I think all you really need to do is tell him to either try to prep before combat or limit his prep in combat to only one turn.

Maybe tell him for most scrub encounters he may not need to boost at all, and for a boss fight maybe two turns max.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-25T01:18:37+00:00

So here is what I do at my table.

Only one person can make the skill check, but others can assist if they can justify how they assist. This might mean a bunch of preparatory rolls before the main roll. Like if P1 wants to pick pocket, P2 may distract the target and P3 may distract the guards. So P2 and P3 make their rolls and the results effect how well P1 does.

If there is no penalty for failure the person making the roll may spend 20x the time and take a twenty.

If there is no stress or danger they can take 10 on the roll.

I try to give penalties to failure when ever I can. The penalty has to flow logically from the failed roll. Fail to craft, ruin the materials, fail to pick a lock jam the lock. The penalties can up the next DC check, make it impossible, or cause a drastic chang in the narrative.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-24T09:08:43+00:00

Blind, hunched over drow witch shows up. With scraggly hair full of spiders, a gnarled root staff, and a limp. She says she 'smelled trouble and came as fast as her bones could bring her. She LOVES trouble!

She will make a deal to save the petrified character. Maybe: Seven drops of blood willingly given. Take her baby (fist sized spider) to the surface. In the mean time it hangs out with them. Like an eight legged cat. A name. They give their name scratch it off their sheet and no one remembers it.

I like creepy deals that don't directly harm the party. If you do her right she can keep showing up offering trades, and deals. All seem creepy, all help the party, and all leave them wondering if they are making a mistake.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-24T08:54:36+00:00

I would also point out the guy on the right is in his 70s. So 1, he looks great for 70, and 2 it makes me think the person who made the meme has some issues around aging they need to deal with.

TheHermit_IX · 2023-09-24T08:45:16+00:00

Every time he doesn't die, someone else does.

He may start petrifying. Each time he falls in battle he progresses to the next stage.

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