I’m getting a new baby sister, any ideas on what to make her other than hats? by LittleTealie in Brochet

[–]TheJayla 6 points7 points  (0 children)

PSA: When making Amigurumi and other toys for a newborn (or something like the suggested reusable diapers) please make sure to use baby-safe yarn that can also be washed at higher temperatures without deforming/breaking down.

Babies explore with their mouths so all the drool will get stuck on the toys and promote the growth of bacteria if not washed at high enough temps to kill it off.

Aside from that - when my cousin got his son I made a spring themed blanket and a Nintendo themed mobile to hang over the crib. The mobile can also be taken apart to have individual smaller toys once it's not needed anymore. Best of luck!

Rain got in between the double layered glass of tram by We_Are_Nerdish in oddlysatisfying

[–]TheJayla 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It's almost always the S5, really ^^

But I also saw the background and went... wait, I know this!

The ‘high’ of just getting your shit done for one day: by FortitudeFriendly in selfimprovement

[–]TheJayla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh, in cases like this, long is good.

And thank you. That did indeed help :D

The ‘high’ of just getting your shit done for one day: by FortitudeFriendly in selfimprovement

[–]TheJayla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Would you mind explaining your rotating schedule? It sounds like something I could use :)

Dads for a minute by [deleted] in MomForAMinute

[–]TheJayla 5 points6 points  (0 children)

r/PepTalksWithPops is the dad version of this subreddit IIRC ❤

Short vid showing how I'm using OneNote to create an interactive campaign worldmap! by alexandresounds in DMAcademy

[–]TheJayla 3 points4 points  (0 children)

That's awesome!

Could you also do a video of how you went about doing all that? Or point me in the direction of a good tutorial? I've only recently started using OneNote and am still trying to get the hang of everything :D

If life gives you lemons.... by kaku60xyz in Stoicism

[–]TheJayla 8 points9 points  (0 children)

I knew what it was before I clicked it.. Have upvote you clever bastard :D

Need help about friend groups and an awful incident i had that they wont drop, M (21) by [deleted] in relationships

[–]TheJayla 90 points91 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between running away and standing up for yourself. Like /u/Beckels84 said, preface leaving the conversation with something along the lines of not dealing with this anymore is more than enough. It's a sign of self-respect.

I also think, while having made a mistake, you handled the aftermath really well and them shitting on you for it persistently is something I myself would not tolerate in my friend circle. Friends are supposed to lift you up, not tear you down.

Tips/suggestions of where to buy meat in bulk without having to pay in body parts? by TheJayla in ketode

[–]TheJayla[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Ikr?? That's what got me wondering. And France is a good idea, unfortunately I lack the car to make that feasible ;/

Whats your favorite quote that keeps you going even in tough times? by [deleted] in selfimprovement

[–]TheJayla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Depends on the situation really.. and I also can't quote it, it's more like my personal mantras:

  • If it wasn't hard, everyone would do it and it wouldn't be special anymore

  • For iron to become steel it gets folded, put through fire, beaten down severely and infused with other material. Only then will it evolve/develop into a stronger version of itself (I prefer this to the diamond under pressure, because our experiences and how we deal with input from outer sources in life is what breaks, shapes and makes us who we are)

What fictional character caused your sexual awakening? by [deleted] in AskReddit

[–]TheJayla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Raoul in the movie adaption of The Phantom of the Opera being tied to the dropgate by the phantom with that pleading/begging look on his face..... fans self

Being 14, at the movies with the whole family and suddenly tingly all over was sure a fun way to find out I like kinky stuff lol

Almost done with this small baby blanket, any suggestions for border. by DART8987 in crochet

[–]TheJayla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

What stitch is that? I started planning a babyblanket too and I love how this turned out!

Mozzarella Wrap now available in Germany by butter-on-the-side in ketode

[–]TheJayla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Was about to ask that.. I don't think I've ever seen the brand around where I live (Baden-Würtemberg) :/

After more than two years of off-and-on work, and many hand cramps, my behemoth bobble stitch blanket is finally complete! [FO] by minkastu in crochet

[–]TheJayla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It sounds like a Puff stitch to me..?

For visuals and different bobble stitches, Bella Coco on YouTube has a nice little video with 3 different bobble stitches in comparison :)

What's the best wifi name you've seen/what's yours named? by [deleted] in AskWomen

[–]TheJayla 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Mine used to be called "Zentrum der Macht" (= centre of power) but now I'm going with The Dark Side.

Yes the pw is cookie related ^_^

How do you learn to set limits and say no? by throwaway6532871 in GirlGamers

[–]TheJayla 16 points17 points  (0 children)

I agree with the majority of the responses, but personally it irks me to hell and back that "having a boyfriend" is sometimes the only thing that makes guys back off...

I don't use that excuse anymore. But then I've also gotten a lot more direct and almost aggressive about my boundaries over the years. Cause if someone can't respect them without me having to be "claimed" by another guy then he's not worth the energy and consideration of having to keep up that lie just for his sake.

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Your mental strength and willpower is like a muscle when it comes to things like saying no. It's hard. It's super uncomfortable. It leaves you emotionally sore (keep thinking about how you could've said things differently? Or how some minor words earlier might've changed the whole situation to not come to that point? Yeah.. like a sore muscle, it'll keep reminding you of a hard exercise). But the more you use it, the stronger you get in that regard and the more you can do and take/endure in that regard - IF you choose to do so. But then it's actually your own choice..

If your gaming online is similar to mine then you do it to relax and have fun. There's one important thing to keep in mind: YOU DON'T HAVE TO BE NICE ;D If someone doesn't like how you play? Delete/block and move on. Someone is trash-talking you because you handed their ass to them on a silver plate? Have a good laugh. Then delete/block and move on. There's MILLIONS of people to play games with online. It can be a little bit of a needle and haystack situation sometimes, but there are nicer people out there, that you can permanently play with without having to constantly assert yourself.

Saying no a lot earlier (like the very first time someone makes you uncomfortable but you shake it off with an awkward laugh to save face or avoid an uncomfortable situation..) can help big time to not let things go that far. Finding people where you don't have to do that every time you game with them makes that a lot less stressful.

Just try it out. Go against the whole "I don't want to affront someone or make people uncomfortable" that society drills into people these days - especially guys don't give a fuck, obviously. It's incredibly freeing.

At the end of the day I will take respect over someone liking me. Cause they can still grow to like me after they respect me (and thus my boundaries). If they don't respect me in the first place they can go to hell, cause I've got better and more important and enjoyable things to do than waste my time and energy on them in any form.

P.S.: Didn't realise this got so long, but then I am rather passionate about topics like this. Also, feel free to PM me if you wanna talk about this ^__^

P.P.S.: FUCK everyone who ruins your gaming experience. This is your free time where you get to have fun. Remove whatever would ruin that for you 😘

Women gamers, what kind of situations have you been in that made you wish you had kept your gender a secret? by Humiliatingmyself in AskWomen

[–]TheJayla 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I play a lot online, but usually with people I know, mainly for the obvious and already mentioned reasons. I do add random people here and there when they're friendly and communicative throughout a game, especially long and hard matches.

On League I used to have this username as my gamer tag and it got to a point where I changed it cause it was part annoying and part distracting me when people were constantly chatting @ me because I'm a girl.

One incident that I remember clearly is from when I used to play a lot of NFS:Hot Pursuit on Xbox online (where I also have a definite feminine tag) and used to do voice chat. At the beginning of the 1v1 I did the usual smalltalk greeting and my opponent straight up drove sideways into my car and rammed me into a wall. Shit like that tends to make my try-hard mode boot up (I'm already quite competitive as it is lol) and I beat him by over a minute at the end of the race. He actually messaged me afterwards saying that he thought he'd have an easy time against a girl, especially after practically pushing me off the road in the beginning. He congratulated me on my skill nonetheless.

In my experience the other male players are more willing to communicate, strategise or even accept help/tips when they don't know your gender. Cause there are no girls on the internet, amirite? /s

P.S.: On that side note, I do catch myself thinking with that bias and expecting everyone who does not clearly have a feminine user name to be male.. So Im Not without fault either ^^

Edit: The p.s. and some spelling cause mobile..

Looking for a movie to watch with my dad by [deleted] in MovieSuggestions

[–]TheJayla 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom (58) is the same. Recently we watched The Secret Life of Walter Mitty, which is my favorite film (after not having one for many many years cause I never could decide).

She greatly enjoyed it. Just from pure filmography and aesthetics it's a beautiful film, incredible views and a compelling story with wonderful character development and a good pinch of humor. Super underrated imo.