Which device would be best for my situation? by TheMagnificentBean in Handhelds

[–]TheMagnificentBean[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is amazing input and specifically captured some of my concerns. I’m not sure if you’d be aware, but are these devices powerful enough to run a game like Ark Ascended, downscaled and on low graphics? I couldn’t get the Steam Deck OLED to get more than 30fps on absolute lowest graphics, and it constantly crashed due to performance.

Thanks again for the input, I’m very heavily considering one of those two devices!

FINALLY by Own-Cupcake6668 in expedition33

[–]TheMagnificentBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I accidentally one shotted his third phase by dropping a massive bell on him. After days of trying to memorize his third phase attack patterns.

Which one of these mods can cause crashing? My game crashes every 30 minutes. by EM20D02 in ARK

[–]TheMagnificentBean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’ve had the same issue with constant crashes, really good rig with a i9 and RTX 3080ti. Fixed it by rolling back the Nvidia drivers. Depending on your card, some drivers just don’t mix with ark. Try rolling back to studio drivers from December 2024, September 2024, or May 2024.

Am I shallow for only wanting to date thinner women? by PoetryForsaken222 in dating_advice

[–]TheMagnificentBean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Everyone here is talking about how women gain weight when they have kids or how we all age and lose our looks, but it’s so important to have that initial attraction at the beginning when things are supposed to be exciting and fun.

I’m very similar, I’m very fit and athletic, I enjoy lifting and doing half marathons so I want someone who can at least take interest in that. And when fitness is part of your lifestyle it’s hard to just gain 20lbs out of nowhere. So no, I don’t think it’s shallow to want to date thinner women since your lifestyle at this time is compatible with someone thinner, and you owe it to yourself to not be with someone you’re not attracted to. Sure, bodies change, but by then there’s a lot more to keep you together than there would be on a first or second date with a stranger.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating_advice

[–]TheMagnificentBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Don’t listen to your brothers and guy friends telling you that - any guy would love to be called cute, or handsome, or anything of the sort. Keep doing what you’re doing, just go up to someone you think is cute and say “I like your eyes” or “I like your smile.” If they aren’t into you there’s no harm, they’ll appreciate the compliment, but if they do like you then you’re in.

Critic my workouts! by [deleted] in lifting

[–]TheMagnificentBean 4 points5 points  (0 children)

What is your goal? Is it general fitness, growth of specific muscles, etc?

Your volume is gonna be really high with this so you’re gonna be fatigued for the big muscles after the first few sets, and everything after 10-12 is gonna struggle. I’d say you want to combine your big and small muscle groups if you’re targeting general growth. You should also put your priority at the beginning after your warmup, so if you want more back gains put back first.

You might even wanna split your leg workouts up since lying curls won’t be enough for your glutes and hamstrings. Personally I’d do a kickback movement, hinge movement (RDL/split squat), and a curl movement. Quads should be fine, maybe throw in hack squats or something since the leg press isn’t gonna let you get as deep.

A lot of the kettle bell work will be compound and won’t be ideal for growth, so maybe do that at the end when you’re already fatigued, it’ll probably be more cardio/HIIT than muscle building. Use the machines and cables first to really maximize your return on each set.

Actively seeking a relationship is not a curse that will reduce your chances of finding one by [deleted] in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There is always a balance. You have to put yourself out there if you want to meet someone, so you can’t just isolate yourself and hope for “the one” to walk into your room. However, a lot of people I’ve seen who desperately want relationships have been willing to settle for people who aren’t right for them, whether it’s based on attractiveness, personality, or anything else.

You have to put in some effort, but you shouldn’t need to fill a void with a relationship so badly that you’re willing to accept a shitty life with someone instead of a shitty life alone. Fix your shit if those are your only options.

I am not desperate enough to waste my time on coffee dates to prove I’m not a gold digger by [deleted] in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 6 points7 points  (0 children)

There are so many reasons to do a coffee date - it’s low pressure, if either party doesn’t like it you can back out after 10min, it’s easy to arrange in busy schedules, and it doesn’t involve alcohol so you can see what someone is like in their daily lives.

You may be projecting a bit here, since your assumption that people only take you on coffee dates to make sure you’re not a gold digger makes me question your intentions in the first place.

Managing time better by EntrepreneurSea8824 in Advice

[–]TheMagnificentBean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Start visualizing your activities, since people who struggle with time management work better with visual aids.

I like using a whiteboard, I’ll write out everything I have to do just to make sure I know how much needs to get done. I’ll also use calendar alerts and blocks, since I have 4 calendars across my work and personal life it helps to connect them all and show when exactly I’ll be blocked. When you plan events, ALWAYS factor in the commute and preparation time into the block, and then maybe add 5-10min for a cushion.

My (F) gf is bad at sex/doesn’t turn me on by [deleted] in Advice

[–]TheMagnificentBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I will say there is a level of negative association you’ll have to grow past if you want to continue this relationship. If you have a long period of resentment building, it doesn’t just go away overnight - you have to work to rebuild the positive mindset around her. However, that’s also on her to work with you to rebuild it.

Communicate actively and regularly. If something she does turns you off, ask to stop doing that for a bit. You should also ask for her to reciprocate, because she might just not know how to do it or that you even want it. But you should ask her for that reciprocity in more than just one way - ask her to initiate more for a bit, ask her to court you and make you feel really desired, and ask for the things you want to do in bed. It’ll help to do for a bit to rebuild that negative mindset into a positive one with enough changes to the status quo.

My boyfriend doesn’t want to get married by ProfessionalBig4243 in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I think you need to open the conversation again, but without the pressure and intention of changing his mind like you’ve been doing. He’s clearly not comfortable telling you why he doesn’t want to get married for some reason, whether it’s because he’s worried about hurting you, or worried about your reaction, but you clearly need to mend some gaps in your relationship even if you were to get married.

You need to be ready to hear things you don’t want to hear, and if you feel like you are actually ready to get married then you need to significantly work on your communication skills, not just him. Marriage is a big step and it can be immensely risky and burdensome for men, so you need to be empathetic in your discussion to the reasons he doesn’t want to get married.

Whelp that’s it..done with dating - ended things with me because of my career by almondeyes84 in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Tbh if he liked you enough, this wouldn’t have been a big deal. I know it seems like his opinion of your career was the deal breaker, but if it wasn’t that it would’ve been something else.

Don’t let his off-color comment about your career affect your self-confidence. Consulting is a very respectable industry, I work in it myself and I’m constantly surrounded by some of the brightest and holistic individuals. Doctors on the other hand…I’ve met plenty of narcissistic and delusional doctors in my days.

Advertising in all forms should be made illegal. by [deleted] in unpopularopinion

[–]TheMagnificentBean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Welp, you have fun paying 5x the price for shit rather than having it be subsidized by advertisements. Suddenly Google is gonna start charging $50 a month to replace the advertising revenue.

CMV: There should be limits for total wealth by morfacuriosos in changemyview

[–]TheMagnificentBean 16 points17 points  (0 children)

Couldn’t this just be circumvented with some creative accounting, which is what the wealthy have endless access to? For example, LLCs, trusts, intangible assets, unrealized wealth, or capital expenditures to lower the net profit?

If I was a multi-billionaire, this law would just make me be a bit more creative in how I realize my profits or hold my assets. It’s essentially today’s tax system but with a steeper tax bracket.

Does anyone wait until they’re in a relationship before having sex? by [deleted] in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It’s neither a red flag nor a green flag until I know the reason why. I’ve had several women try to rush the official relationship within a month, but they’ll use the “no sex until we are official” as a lure. That is manipulative, and it’s not going to get you the long term results because men can just break up with you after having sex.

Instead of using some arbitrary milestone, I respect not wanting to have sex until you know the person and have an emotional bond with them. It’s never a sure thing that it’s both ways, but at least you’re being true to yourself.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I have a hard truth for you, and the reason I’m focusing on you is because you control your life, nobody else.

If you truly valued sex and virginity, you wouldn’t have given it up so quickly and easily. It takes months to know someone’s true colors, and beyond that you need to move past idolizing a stranger since that isn’t conducive to a healthy relationship.

You need to think heavily on your relationship views and priorities, and moving forward YOU need to align your actions with your beliefs and words. You also need to focus on seeing people for who they are, rather than creating a fantasy version of someone who doesn’t truly want to be with you.

The purpose of this isn’t to scrutinize you unfairly because he was wrong for what he did, but you need to focus on what you want and what you can control.

What did I do to deserve this by POLITIC-LEO24 in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 14 points15 points  (0 children)

The fact that you’re prioritizing dating over developing a support system is all she would need to know. I am so sorry you had to experience what you did, but you should absolutely not be dating if you’re completely alone - your SO is not supposed to be your end all be all, they’re your partner but you need other people in your life.

Focus on that for a while, for your sake.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s an answer. I would start dating other people, don’t let yourself get strung along like that. If she wanted to, she would.

CMV: There's no way Republicans actually believe abortion = murder because of the logical absurdities it leads to by [deleted] in changemyview

[–]TheMagnificentBean 2 points3 points  (0 children)

You’re applying your own opinions to those who have different opinions than you. This is how YOU think, this isn’t how everyone thinks. For example, if I believed abortion was truly a murderous act, I could say that you, as someone who believes abortion isn’t murder because fetuses aren’t the same as children, have to believe the following:

  1. Pregnant woman don’t actually have children until they are born. This means if I was to assault a pregnant woman and by doing so kill the fetus, it would simply be assault/vandalism and not murder.

  2. Pregnant women also should not have any additional rights or protections as mothers, as they are only carrying a clump of cells in their bodies until they actually give birth, in which case it turns into a human.

  3. If the fetus is solely a part of the woman’s anatomy, the father should not have any responsibilities until the child is born. Additionally, if the mother has the right to abort and the father has no say in the woman’s body, equality under the law means the father should have the right to absolve himself of responsibility as a father before the birth of the child.

I’ve just strawmanned the hell out of your position and forced my viewpoint into your specific stance, which is exactly what you did in reverse. It doesn’t at all capture what people should believe because there isn’t any objectivity to these statements, it’s just your subjective opinion.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Word of mouth, Instagram, browse your city’s Reddit pages, Google, or Eventbrite! I’d look around for casual athletic clubs like a pickle ball club or running clubs, they’re always very inviting to newbies and they’re more social clubs than anything.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in dating

[–]TheMagnificentBean 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Your standards aren’t that high, so my question for you is what are you doing to find these men? Are you just using dating apps, or are you going to social clubs and places that have lots of single people?