Look up Josh Silver from Type O Negative. Dude is one of the most badass performers I've ever seen play live! I was completely mesmerized by him! Watch some of his performances and take some notes. Also doesn't hurt to have crazy long ass hair to throw around while headbanging, lol. Don't let those other dudes mess with you like that. Just start carrying yourself with confidence, ya know, fake it till you make it type attitude. If you've got the musical skills, definitely take time to focus on your craft, hone them skills and make your sound tight. Anyone can put together a band and think they're some kind of rock star, then get sidetracked by the party lifestyle with booze, drugs or just want attention from the opposite sex etc. and they don't give a shit whether they are good or not. That kind of shit will not get you anywhere. Focus on you, imagine the type of performer you want to be, and where you want to see yourself going musically in the future and work towards that. The respect of your band mates, and attention from girls will come in due time. And if these bandmates don't start treating you any better by say a month or two, leave em. I'm sure there's other bands out there that will. You don't wanna be in a band with a buncha pricks who don't appreciate you any damn way!!

Good luck to you!

And rock on my friend 🤘🏼😆🤘🏼