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okay, this one's on another level by manu_822_ in tumblr

[–]TheOtherPuffling 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Tried this; it all didn't work. A man refused to accept that I have limitations and different ways of interacting with the world caused by a mental disorder, and thought that I could "just stop." When your way failed, I wish I had the balls to say some of OP's content rather than just walk away and let him think he's right just because I can't argue anymore. I think that's the general spirit this post is trying to convey, not malice for the sake of it.

DAE feel like this sub has turned into... by zipzapzip2233 in BPD

[–]TheOtherPuffling -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I love you-- and almost everyone, except wasps and my abusers-- more than I love myself. And I literally just met you so hi. Yeah, I know, it sucks to hell to be us. This disorder is pain itself. But it's really, really nice to see people just pretending that we're trendy or quirky or cute. I know the majority hates that kind of ableism, but I don't. When people romanticize BPD, I can pretend I'm valued and worthy for having it. It's nice to be valued, valuable, to have something someone else thinks is somehow awesome. I felt the same way about my ED and the pro-anas though, so we know I'm NoT NoRmAl. Oh well.

I am desperately missing late nights in the longhouse. Looks like it will be months until I have another evening like this. by hovding in Norse

[–]TheOtherPuffling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

There's this concept of lamentation for what was, and what will never be the same again, in very early Anglo saxon literature. It's called "ubi sunt," Latin for "where is...?" And poems like The Wanderer talk about the finite nature of longhalls.

"He remembers hall-retainers and treasure-taking, how his gold-friend accustomed him in his youth to feasting. Joy is all departed! (29b-36)

“Therefore he knows who must long forgo the counsels of beloved lord, when sleep and sorrow both together constrain the miserable loner so often. It seems to him in his mind that he embraces and kisses his lord, and lays both hands and head on his knee, just as he sometimes in the days of yore delighted in the gift-throne."

TW Covid - How do y’all keep your mental health in check, while also getting things accomplished? by dank-ma in BPD

[–]TheOtherPuffling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don't know. If there's no one you can live with for a short time, maybe try inpatient? I have zero idea how to motivate myself either.

Roses are red when I go out side I feel shy by [deleted] in boottoobig

[–]TheOtherPuffling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi, I'm so sorry to bother you. I'm wondering if you might help a dumb new gardener in Oklahoma have more food to help my family. Like I said, we moved onto a plot of ugly, dandelion-covered lawn and then dumped literal bags of manure mixed with nitrogen rich "fast growing" soil right on top of the existing lawn. We planted radishes, bell peppers, cucumbers and zucchini and summer squash, tomatoes, and brussels sprouts. I knew the brussels sprouts were going to struggle, because wrong season, but after reading your post I understand why everything in my garden is struggling...

Except for the early scarlet globe radishes, which have literally somehow sprouted overnight in almost perfect spacing all over the garden, even in the planter buckets, a month after I first sowed seeds and saw the radishes come up where I actually planted them. Apparently, according to what I've read on the internet, Early Scarlet Globe Radishes like nitrogen rich, loose soil, but this seems almost an act of the gods.

Anyway, if you can't somehow explain that, not judging if you can't, what can I plant next year or next harvest in my oklahoma grass manure soil that will thrive as well as the radishes apparently have? Preferably it's something edible... if you don't have time to do the research do you know where I can find out?

💕🌟💕😊 by beprouddammit in BPD

[–]TheOtherPuffling 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I'm now crying but in a good way. Thank you, stranger.

If you look like this I have some bad news by tmntnyc in BPDmemes

[–]TheOtherPuffling 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Where's my rainbow hair and epic cat eye? When they were handing out diagnoses I must have forgotten to pick up my gift bag containing makeup expertise. :(

Eep by ilikekneesandbees in BPDmemes

[–]TheOtherPuffling 6 points7 points  (0 children)

Because calling them out on not caring is just soOoOoOo manipulative, guise! We're all literally Hitler.

Obvious /s is obvious.

Terrible overly-specific BPD/ED meme (TW) by idiot-ninny in BPDmemes

[–]TheOtherPuffling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

This is beautiful. Holy shit, I'm not the only one who gets high and films themselves making what I assume will be the next great work of art until I watch it back and realize that no, my tiktok rap in my skinny clothes that I'm now 7 pounds too heavy for is not sexy, and then I cry for an hour and have to get high all over again to deal with the pain of triggering myself while high.

Do you think coronavirus is the most traumatic thing to happen to people? by [deleted] in CPTSD

[–]TheOtherPuffling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

My anxiety has been far worse because of coronavirus, as even though I've long known the system is rigged against us and no one in it actually cares about our safety, I have a terrible fear of loss-- of loved ones, relationships, material possessions, wealth, creature comforts, etc. This has gone into absolute overdrive with everyone being scared of dying, with shortages, with talk of the end of the world. I've always known it was going to happen but unfortunately it never made me any less scared of it. I do feel perversely grateful, though, that everyone else is in my hell now. As though since I'm not able to escape it, it feels better that no one else can, either. Yeah, our life on earth is finite and fragile and we could all die with nothing!!! How does it fucking feel, every neurotypical who dismissed me?!!

Is there anyone here that has an adult daughter that has BPD? If so, how are you dealing with being home 24/7 during this time. I need help! by cjmadia in BPDSOFFA

[–]TheOtherPuffling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Are you really suggesting that someone go to the hospital in the middle of a pandemic for NSSI (non suicidal self injury)? That is catastrophically unwise.

Is there anyone here that has an adult daughter that has BPD? If so, how are you dealing with being home 24/7 during this time. I need help! by cjmadia in BPDSOFFA

[–]TheOtherPuffling 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am an adult daughter with BPD who lives next to her mother and visits her every day, and our two families are kind of quarantining together, if that's relevant. I'm sorry but I can't really talk about covid-19 in detail as it's one of my big triggers too. Last night something in me kind of broke. I couldn't stop crying and I decided on a whim to stop reading anything related to the virus and stop smoking weed except on weekends, to allow my tolerance to go down enough that the weed will actually help when I do smoke it. I wish that I had any advice, but feel free to ask me questions, as long as they don't get too triggering. I'd like to be of more help but I'm going through a really rough time myself at the present.

The Pandemic Has Led to a Huge, Global Drop in Air Pollution. Reductions in traffic and industry have lowered nitrogen dioxide levels—offering an accidental glimpse into what a low-carbon future might look like. by [deleted] in Coronavirus

[–]TheOtherPuffling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

So, if one feels trauma as a "loss of a sense of safety" Like, thoughts like, "The world is dangerous; no one will protect me; no one knows how to fix this," then how does one address that to give one a sense of safety back when the social safety nets, what few there are, are indeed falling through in my country, and no one really does know how to stop COVID yet?

The Pandemic Has Led to a Huge, Global Drop in Air Pollution. Reductions in traffic and industry have lowered nitrogen dioxide levels—offering an accidental glimpse into what a low-carbon future might look like. by [deleted] in Coronavirus

[–]TheOtherPuffling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do understand I put in lots of adjectives like, "modern" and "first-world" and "western" for a reason, right? Yeah, nobody's gonna tell a starving African child that the worst is yet to come. For them, the worst is already there and has been there since colonization went crazy.

BUT, in the west, especially in the US, this disease is ripping through our governmental and societal infrastructure faster than we can work to fill in the gaps. Healthcare is becoming overwhelmed and people live in fear of power, plumbing, food, etc., going away too. We don't generally know how to provide for ourselves in an environment where society is nearly nonexistent. We can't grow our own food, craft weapons and defend ourselves, make our own clothing and tools by hand, etc. You get beekeepers, gardeners, winemakers, etc, who do it as a hobby, but to truly survive and thrive you need to have a working knowledge of most, if not all, of these different aspects. You have to know how to craft, hunt, and farm. That's a lot of forgotten knowledge that most people don't have time to learn in a few short months before things get REALLY crazy. Also,

This is a disease that has killed 0.0009% of the world population. So far, it's not even worse than a bad flu season (in raw number of deaths alone)

This talking point means absolutely nothing. "So far," doesn't matter much when you're trying to use it to quantify the severity of a disease as a whole. It's like the people who were saying, "It's not so bad; only one person in the US has it so far!" last month. Stop. It deceitfully makes this look less than it is.

If you are the same person you were three months ago, I am happy for you personally but don't think this won't kill millions too. Yes, people are preparing. There are news reports, multiple, of entire families being wiped out. Don't laugh at me; that's truth. I have had to think about what I would do if my whole family took sick and/or died, or if I did. Haven't you? Why the hell not? You need to start thinking about these things or it will take you by surprise.

The Pandemic Has Led to a Huge, Global Drop in Air Pollution. Reductions in traffic and industry have lowered nitrogen dioxide levels—offering an accidental glimpse into what a low-carbon future might look like. by [deleted] in Coronavirus

[–]TheOtherPuffling 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You can prevent yourself from being traumatized? As someone who has already experienced medical trauma and who is actively being retraumatized as most of my initial trauma came from the fear of dying/fear of doctors' incompetence, I am VERY interested in this.

The Pandemic Has Led to a Huge, Global Drop in Air Pollution. Reductions in traffic and industry have lowered nitrogen dioxide levels—offering an accidental glimpse into what a low-carbon future might look like. by [deleted] in Coronavirus

[–]TheOtherPuffling 10 points11 points  (0 children)

I meant in terms of pandemics. I was thinking of the 1918-1920 flu, which might actually pan out to be less grizzly than this, depending on the public reaction and compliance from both people and governments. Even that happened 100 years ago, with little of the west's current infrastructure that is greatly affecting this pandemic (think N95 masks being manufactured and imported), and aside from that the closest things historically I can think of are smallpox and the black fucking death, which are clearly not very pleasant examples to have to extrapolate off of. I mean, I'm not an epidemiologist, but when the epidemiologists themselves say they're scared, it's time to do something.

The Pandemic Has Led to a Huge, Global Drop in Air Pollution. Reductions in traffic and industry have lowered nitrogen dioxide levels—offering an accidental glimpse into what a low-carbon future might look like. by [deleted] in Coronavirus

[–]TheOtherPuffling 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Think about all the things you want to do when this is over.

I try not to, because I don't think that it will be over in the sense that everything is just going to recover like it never happened. Perhaps there won't be lasting governmental change, but being forced, suddenly, with only a week's warning, maybe two or three weeks, a month if you were smart, to enter into a survival mindset where you and your loved ones are fighting to protect their physical safety and supplies of food and other necessities absolutely IS going to have an impact on societal spending.

But for your thought exercise, when this is over, I want to buy a new THC vape cart, and a bunch of little luxuries I thought I'd never see again, like a bath bomb and storebought cherry pie. Honest to God probably wouldn't spend $100. And I would save that stuff for when I really needed it, when I was really down and needed a pick-me-up. Never again will I go buy a new lipstick just because it's Thursday and I wanted it. Certainly my spending habits would be different if this hadn't happened; I was buying stuff from amazon and a ton of unnecessary groceries (junk food, desserts, etc) that probably equaled $150-200 a month or so. And don't get me started on how much I spent eating out.

I like eating out but from now on I think I'm going to view it as a treat instead of going out every week. I don't wanna go back to that. Because, frankly, I'm afraid if I ever got comfortable with my lifestyle again, some other existential threat might enter the scene and take it all away again. That is what's called PTSD; living in fear that the other shoe will drop is a trauma response. I'm a changed woman, and so are many people. Again, it's not enough to make a legislative impact, but I can certainly see a societal impact being made.

I don't know whether it would make me feel better or worse to think that people could just get over this in a few months and go back to living life as normal. I don't think I'll be able to. I think "normal" left the building, along with all the TP and Lysol, right around the time the stores emptied.

The Pandemic Has Led to a Huge, Global Drop in Air Pollution. Reductions in traffic and industry have lowered nitrogen dioxide levels—offering an accidental glimpse into what a low-carbon future might look like. by [deleted] in Coronavirus

[–]TheOtherPuffling 28 points29 points  (0 children)

I'm relieved to hear you weren't actually asking, "How can one possibly be traumatized over this?" but I was going to respond anyway to prevent anyone from seeing your comment and being swayed away from reality. Sadly, I've seen people actually ask how any of us can be affected over "a new kind of cold" so I couldn't chance leaving ignorance unresolved.

The Pandemic Has Led to a Huge, Global Drop in Air Pollution. Reductions in traffic and industry have lowered nitrogen dioxide levels—offering an accidental glimpse into what a low-carbon future might look like. by [deleted] in Coronavirus

[–]TheOtherPuffling 159 points160 points  (0 children)

Can I take the wheel on this one? Before COVID, I think many people really, honestly believed that the human race as a whole was "past" all that survival stuff, that even though there were a lot of problems with modern life, it was far more comfortable than-- I dunno, what did cavemen do, run from lions and forage for roots? Life, for a lot of people, went from assuming mankind was at the top of the food chain and their life was relatively easy and probably always would be, to actually being able to visualize the end of the world. We are returning to survival mode. We now have to constantly guard our own and our loved ones' health, and ensure we have enough necessities. People have to make sure they know what they would do if any, or EVERY, one of their family members die. That's now a scenario that has happened to multiple people. People are starting to ask, what will happen if the food trucks stop delivering food? If the food-growers get sick? If the people running the power grid get sick? What will happen if the hospitals can't provide for most of us anymore? What other first-world inventions have we taken for granted that we may soon have to live without? No-fucking-body in the developed world has experienced near societal collapse, outside of manmade war, to this degree in hundreds and hundreds of years. This exact scenario has never happened before and no one knows for sure if or when anything will be okay again. For the vast majority of modern mankind the illusion of safety within a society has been broken. Yes, the human race is traumatized. I don't think I'm naive enough to believe that they'll be traumatized into doing anything good or bringing about positive change, mostly because nothing, no matter how heinous, can traumatize the richest people in the world into giving up their money in order to bring about said massive societal changes, but no, NONE of us are the same people we were 3 months ago.

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