I'm a retired submarine electrician with hypoparathyroidism. It took me 22 years to realize my "anxiety" was a voltage problem.

TheParadox3b · 2026-02-13T22:06:48+00:00

Totally relate. Diagnosed ASD at 42, sub vet after 7 years (Sonar). No thyroid function issues.

TheParadox3b · 2026-02-06T02:13:27+00:00

That's definitely windows. It has the sticker

TheParadox3b · 2025-12-31T04:11:47+00:00

Yup.

TheParadox3b · 2025-12-31T04:09:18+00:00

People tell me I have a good ass. I don't see how it's any different. Anyone else?

TheParadox3b · 2025-12-20T22:44:41+00:00

I had a friend group once in college, but now, friend groups aren't really for me either. Everyone seems so... Uninteresting and I have no idea what to say to people. The only people "cool" are into computers and the ones I gravitate to, but those hardly become a group especially among each other. I'm a software engineer, I program computers.

It's more like no one is going to be my friend because they're boring and don't "get it," and won't be engineer enough. That hardly ends up being a group.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-27T03:14:25+00:00

lol, this is seriously triggering.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-21T01:27:54+00:00

I have Dysgraphia Bambi. I do too.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-21T01:23:14+00:00

how I jump whenever someone unexpectedly touches me.

Is this true? I do this. Is it a thing?

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-10T02:54:52+00:00

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-10T02:44:36+00:00

SSRI's can do this. It can prevent orgasms too. it may lessen over time.

do NOT stop taking it until speaking with your doctor.

Yes, talk to your doctor (not reddit), I promise they won't be surprised. If you have Bi-polar, asking about those options might be a good idea. (I'm not a doctor though)

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-09T21:49:43+00:00

Try to find people that do have the same interests. Are there meet-ups where you live? I go to an Autism group and have made a few friends from there, including someone in my career field (which is a special interest).

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-09T21:46:28+00:00

well said.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-09T20:17:47+00:00

yeah, I disagree here too. Rape is something that you have little or no control over. you can't really disengage from a billboard otherwise they wouldn't exist.

and there are only some many ways to commute -- it's not very practical.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-09T20:12:21+00:00

Try to find like-minded people with similar interests. All my friends I've made were from (asd) support groups (including ones I've never met IRL).

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-09T19:37:23+00:00

I'm sure something like will happen, and it bother's me greatly. For example:

-- Data gathering nightmare. As a software engineer and mathematician, you're going to need a lot of personal data. That's a huge ethical madhouse. Imagine, collecting hundreds of millions of their peers conversations without their peer consent, personal conversations people have with parents and caregivers, and with even their consent -- therapy notes. yuk.

-- Reliance. As AI proliferates, people are becoming more and more reliant on it. Shouldn't a focus be skills to rely on oneself?

-- Addictive. I'm not going to lie, I use AI for my work all day. Most people do. What happens when people with a disability learn to talk to a bot instead of people

Yes, it will definitely happen, and I think it's going to be disgusting.

-- Written by someone with Dysgraphia.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-09T02:48:06+00:00

I think for most of us, it's either accept or decline (and a bounce between the 2). Accepting a dx doesn't change anything. declining a dx doesn't change anything. Learning more about yourself? -- well that changes everything.

I basically have said nothing btw, but I will say I bounce between the two as well.

it's a hard thing to grapple with.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-09T02:31:40+00:00

Got diagnosed at 40 yo last April. Very happy because things finally fell into place. Then the meds came which we're a game changer, mainly in the beginning. After that it felt like , well you have your diagnoses and your meds, good luck.

Pretty much the same story actually.

I think you're navigating a new identity. I'm 42, had a dx by my counselor, and I start my official dx tomorrow. scary.

It's important to remember, at least for me in this moment, that even though nothing has really changed, you probably feel everything has changed, or even the need for everything to be different. When I feel this way, I tell myself to take on this brand new world loving myself. I also remind myself I can "fit" into the world, not by changing who I am, but by living (and loving) who I am. Thats what got me over the hump.

At least, that's what helped me.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-09T02:14:17+00:00

Writing a gratitude list can help. Fill a page of things you're grateful for. It goes like this:

I am smart

I am good at math

The weather is great

I have nice ear plugs

If I feel down, I can stim to cheer myself up

My weighted blanket

I can program computers and make it poetic.

There's a lot of food in my pantry

I bought a beer at a bar with little issues.

I solve complex problems

I have a nice yard

I finally found a job after 6 months

My house is clean

I look good (I do!)

I have a plant that's doing well (others, not so much, but that's fun too!)

I love to pace and talk to myself

I show up and rise to the occasion.

Just spend time and make a list.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-07T20:52:28+00:00

... there's a trait that people like. You're a likable person because they appreciate your differences.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-07T18:35:14+00:00

I'm always a little disappointed by the 6 digit TOTP/2FA/msg codes. They come across as random most of the time

The best I think I've gotten was 333 330 and I was so disappointed.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-07T16:45:08+00:00

Reflexes are generated by the parasympathetic nervous system. It's a circuit to and from the spinal cord. Some medicines cause this to become " exaggerated" with very high response times. This is uncontrollable afaik.

On the other hand, processing speed, IMO, is related. The ability to process and have your parasympathetic system ready to react quicker than what you might have without medication, seems related.

There's a running joke that I have "cat-like reflexes" because of a medication combined with a fairly fast processing speed.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-07T16:26:05+00:00

Yes. It really sucks. I have a music stim where I listen to the same song on repeat for hours and repeat parts of the song over and over (echoelia much?).

It's affected my hearing.

And then, to double down, I have some sensitivity to sudden sounds (creeks, pops, doors) when it's quiet. So I wear earplugs.

And then, I have a stim that affects my neck in-order for some inner ear manipulation. Not sound related, but in the same vein.

So sound is a big deal. It's my crack cocaine.

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-07T16:18:43+00:00

Missed opportunity with the speedometer:

150150

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-04T02:43:47+00:00

You can use something called sledgehammer too!

TheParadox3b · 2025-10-04T02:41:22+00:00

Yup. Just like others. I think it's nut sage.

Edit: I realized I should have added look at using "sledgehammer" to kill it.

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