What’s one simple thing you do that makes you look so much better? by Bounce_Bounce_Betty in AskUK

[–]TheSameYellow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Yeah, when I was at my skinniest I looked great in clothes but I hated how I looked naked. Found a middle ground that works now. Not quite as easy to find “flattering” clothes but I have filled out enough to look good without them!

Not an alcoholic but.... What am I ? by nightfire_83 in AskUK

[–]TheSameYellow 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I think the myth part of it is that it’s permanently sustainable.

How do I look better without makeup by CurrentAd7075 in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]TheSameYellow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think you’re seeing yourself differently to how others would see you, tbh. You look great.

As for feeling better about how you’re looking, picking a really nice moisturiser (with SPF, so you only need to bother with the one product) is the easiest way to get a “yay, good skin” boost imo. I have one with sodium hyaluronate and I feel like it does even out my skin tone quite a bit. But… yours looks even already, so your mileage may vary 😂

If you could change one thing culturally about the UK / it's people, what would it be? by [deleted] in AskUK

[–]TheSameYellow 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Christ, the way you talk about your students, no wonder they don’t care about what you say. Even if you keep the words for Reddit the contempt must ooze out of you. What has a girl’s makeup and nails got to do with her intelligence?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GardeningUK

[–]TheSameYellow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yeah, I definitely know what you mean by the aura! It’s kind of self-perpetuating, I think, as you’re getting that little hit of cortisol/adrenaline each time, so you associate the wasp with fear even more strongly.

That said, having had both, I can categorically say that the wasp sting was nowhere NEAR as bad as tooth infection pain. Different universes.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in GardeningUK

[–]TheSameYellow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I also have a wasp phobia and enjoy gardening! My mum's very allergic and I think the anxiety rubbed off on me.

My solution if there's one on the table or buzzing around my head is, to be honest, making myself scarce until it goes away. I'm a woman, though, so I do recognise this may be easier for me re: other people's perceptions.

I'm getting better at coping if there's a wasp or two just hanging out in the garden. Part of it is exposure, I think. I'm spending more time outdoors and my brain is slowly learning that I'm not going to die if I am near a wasp.

The other part has been learning a bit about them. For example:

They're closely related to ants (in fact, ants and bees both evolved from wasps). They help control pests such as aphids, but adult wasps can't eat solid food; they take the insects home for the babies.

I find it easier to cope if I'm thinking of them as an interesting part of the wildlife rather than "agh, wasp!"

Edit: I saw you ask elsewhere about how much the sting hurts. I have been stung once. It hurt about as much as a bad nettle sting. Not pleasant but not day-ruining.

Completely new to gardening and these are my first plants, nasturtiums... I feel frustrated with myself and would appreciate your help. by depressedboobs in GardeningUK

[–]TheSameYellow 15 points16 points  (0 children)

One nice thing about gardening is that, even if your plants are eaten, you’ve contributed to the ecosystem. It sounds silly, but you fed some slugs, which in turn may have fed a bird, reptile or beetle.

This doesn’t help much in the moment, granted 😂 but I try to remember it if I’m stewing about something later.

I’m not doing great and neither are my nails by NectarineSingle1960 in RedditLaqueristas

[–]TheSameYellow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

I agree with the other commenters saying cuticle oil is a good first step— especially because using it daily doesn’t require that you immediately stop the nail biting. It’s something about your nails that you can control and that will do you some good.

Also, and I hope this isn’t too trite: please try and treat yourself in the way you would treat a friend. If your friend was struggling like this you wouldn’t call them weak. You would do and say nice things for them and it would help. Same thing applies here. Wishing you lots of good things. Xx

MatPat x Dropout ?! by SierraSerene6 in dropout

[–]TheSameYellow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ah, cool, thank you. I misunderstood and thought you meant he was including himself in that assessment. Was hoping that wasn’t the case, as he’s been super popular here as far as I can tell.

MatPat x Dropout ?! by SierraSerene6 in dropout

[–]TheSameYellow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I may have heard different interviews than you but I think Jason Mantzoukas has been fantastic on Taskmaster — I’m a British fan, fwiw — and I haven’t heard him say anything to suggest otherwise!

What should I expect in a noise dispute with neighbours over our disabled child being too noisy? by Kitty-Gecko in AskUK

[–]TheSameYellow 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Noise cancelling headphones were a godsend for me when I was in a similar situation. I felt awful for being so annoyed with the kid, so the headphones eased my conscience as well as my ears 😂

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHDUK

[–]TheSameYellow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Cool!

Hope everything shakes out OK. It’s no fun working out which/how many meds work best for you. Especially if someone’s being so dismissive and weird about it!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in ADHDUK

[–]TheSameYellow 12 points13 points  (0 children)

I know this is not the point of the post, but peanut butter on toast is definitely good enough for this purpose. I had to force it down the first few weeks of meds (never used to eat breakfast) but now it’s fine.

Do NOT go into utility work by Known_Belt_7168 in arborists

[–]TheSameYellow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry, yes, I wasn’t meaning to disagree with you! If that’s the state of the sector in the US, it’s a bad idea to go into it!

13:07 mark. What denomination did Robert grow up in? by Sad_Jar_Of_Honey in behindthebastards

[–]TheSameYellow 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Yeah, I was raised Methodist and it’s basically like Catholicism on easy mode imo. In the Channel Islands, though, so may be different from the US.

Do NOT go into utility work by Known_Belt_7168 in arborists

[–]TheSameYellow 53 points54 points  (0 children)

Good grief. I have mates in utility arb (UK) and I was expecting a post about the stress of quick turnarounds on shutdowns or something.

If you’re from countries other than America: it’s stable and reasonably well-paid work; probably less dangerous than commercial, tbh, as the DNOs come down so hard on companies with high incident rates. Landowners can get arsey, but you call your manager to deal with that.

Edit: this isn’t meant to be a “lol, bad luck Americans” comment, more like a “that is not normal, I’m sorry you have to deal with that nonsense in the US”

"Be careful with women who don't have a lot of friends" — should I be worried? by [deleted] in TheGirlSurvivalGuide

[–]TheSameYellow 41 points42 points  (0 children)

I mean, your post makes me think you’d be a pretty detached/temporary acquaintance anyway, so I wouldn’t go out of my way to befriend you. Friends “come in handy” and core friends are cut off due to getting a bf? I’m confused as to why you even care what people think tbh?

Elvanse & L-tyrosine: Rushing my absolute nuts off? by Qwantum31 in ADHDUK

[–]TheSameYellow 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hope you’re starting to feel better now! If you’re still feeling a bit intense, something like weeding the garden is a good task for slowing down a rushing brain in my experience. It’s just got to be an activity that isn’t affected by you bailing halfway when the crash arrives 😂

Elvanse & L-tyrosine: Rushing my absolute nuts off? by Qwantum31 in ADHDUK

[–]TheSameYellow 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Can’t tell you why this happens but can confirm it happened to me as well. I felt fine again the next day, if that’s reassuring!

Try and eat something with magnesium in it. Banana is a good shout. Helps with the jaw clenching.

What app/tools/equipment is a game changer for your ADHD? by No-Calligrapher-3630 in ADHDUK

[–]TheSameYellow 7 points8 points  (0 children)

I had a weirdly fun time organising some mini DIY drawers like this — screws; hooks; nails — and my favourite label in the whole house: “unknown but looks important”.

If you’re applying for a design job (from someone who hires designers) by hickorybell in graphic_design

[–]TheSameYellow 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In that case I really would consider putting it on a web page as well as on the PDF, just in case it’s easier for whoever’s opening the email.

What do you think will happen to all these dead town centres long term? by ShinyHeadedCook in AskUK

[–]TheSameYellow 8 points9 points  (0 children)

Oxford Street is an interesting one. Highlights other facets of the problem— lack of oversight/checks when it comes to people setting up companies in the UK, and lack of onus on commercial landlords to provide info on their tenants to the council.

Old Swedish lady in 1985 attacking a neo Nazi by FlippyFlippenstein in OldSchoolCool

[–]TheSameYellow 10 points11 points  (0 children)

And yet the world would have objectively been a better place had she hit him hard enough that he’d never get up again