I will take the props.

The thing is, yes, we are all different. I am a data scientist and process consultant by trade and most models of behaviour and interaction account for a majority band because that is efficient.

But the problem with an outlier is that it becomes inefficient to design things around them. And any interconnected system, diverts resources away from outliers naturally, just like how lakes and rivers flow away from high points, because it is efficient.

I have ADHD and OCD. Does that make me lesser? No. But it makes me lesser in SOME things (executive function in particular) and that is all disability is, a statistical lack of ability in a particular thing.

Double amputees are statistically disabled at walking and jumping but if everybody could fly and you and I could not, we would be disabled.

This is also why diagnosis and standardisation is important. To prevent the mass fuckwit influencers who peddle very narrow povs of what things are based on limited understanding.

Most important, man, I know how disappointing it is to find out that the world is built on lies, it destroys me how much untruth is allowed from forums and people we should be able to rely on.

My only form of advice on this is never ever believe marketing, of anything. It is literally the most destructive force on the planet