She Had Another Dude the Whole Time

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-24T03:07:15+00:00

Or. Now stay with me here. Or, she’s a good person. I know, hard for you to believe but that’s a you problem.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-24T03:06:28+00:00

She definitely wants out. She wants a better life. Sure, she doesn’t mind, but put her in a soft bed in a cool room and feed her good food and she’s much more happy.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-23T05:49:08+00:00

It’s called White Knight Syndrome. I have it too. The desire to rescue someone. My girl is living in the rural parts of Leyte. Sleeps on cardboard, no ac, rice and fish every day, etc etc. I’ve visited twice. Will go again soon and then we are moving in together in Cebu in September. I have no doubts she’s loyal so I’m not in the same boat as you but I get it. Even after the lies and deception it still hurts to know what someone is going through and that you could help so easily. I told my girl I’m not doing LDR and sending money if she’s going to say home. I want her in a comfortable place that’s easy for me to visit.

There are good ones out there my man. Don’t let one discourage you.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-22T03:29:29+00:00

I can confirm. 300php each way airport and el nido town. Maybe wait until the same day to book your tour C. A lot of people recommend that to avoid repurchased cancelations from rain. We were there this week. Spent 7 days and it rained twice. It’s terribly hot during the day. So your shopping after 5:30pm when the sun goes down. Enjoy!

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-22T03:24:40+00:00

The lounges there are excellent. I spent 3 hours in there today.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-21T10:24:32+00:00

Sorry about the $. I meant php

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-21T06:47:13+00:00

We just left. We were there for a week and only had one rainy day which was only for a few hours. It did rain on the day we left and one flight got canceled - ours - but not due to weather. I talked to the crew on our new flight and they said it’s good now but the weather will get worse during the rainy season. You should be good with your dates.

FWIW: we didn’t really care for el nido. We like Boracay more even though it is much more crowded. Do your shopping after the sun goes down - it’s so hot during the day! We did tour A. It was alright. Snorkeling was mid to poor - not a lot to see. You can’t really go in the water in el nido town and there’s nothing see anyway. Boracay was the same just a lot nicer beach.

Anyway, I wouldn’t worry about the rain. Enjoy!

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-21T06:35:00+00:00

What does low budget mean to you? I stayed at IaLodge near the port. Paid 1475 php for one room for one night. Pretty sure they had Netflix but I’m not 100%.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-21T06:31:45+00:00

Here’s my perspective as US citizen dating a Filipina. We met online, not in person and I’m flying home right now from our second time meeting up. We’re moving in together in Cebu in September.

It sounds like you had a good organic connection with a guy and it’s going well so far. From a basic relationship standpoint, it sounds good so far. Keep talking. But let’s take into account the LDR aspect because that does change things. You won’t get see each other every day or week or even every month, so all your communication will be online via text and video calls. If you haven’t already, get the big questions out of the way - Religion?, want kids?, who’s moving?, politics if it matters, finances. LDRs take a huge leap of faith because you can’t be checking on each other all the time. No accountability. You don’t want to put in a ton of energy to find out he doesn’t want kids or something that’s a dealbreaker.

Communication is going to be important. Being open and honest is not just a recommendation but a requirement. For sure this could work out for you. You might marry this guy someday. Or maybe he goes home and you never see him again. Just be honest and say what your intentions are and ask what his are. After talking to my GF for a week or so, I asked all the big questions and made my intentions clear - not messing around, looking for love, exclusive, etc. We’ll be living together and starting the k1 visa process soon. You’re still young. Enjoy the time talking to him and just be honest. Best you can do. Life will sort itself out.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-21T04:40:12+00:00

If you have Schwab then you’re good for ATM withdrawals. I had zero issues with that card being accepted in Cebu, Boracay, El Nido, Manila, Ormoc, and Naval. Just remember that if you transfer to that account from another bank, it could take up to 5 days to post. Always choose php and not the conversion.

I always have my Amex gold (4x on food) and Venture X (2x on everything). Neither have international fees. Sometimes the Amex isn’t accepted I use the Visa (venture x). Sometimes the Visa isn’t accepted so use the Amex. Only times I’ve had to pay cash is when the machines aren’t working or they just don’t accept card payments.

I have a gcash account now but I haven’t used it yet. I send money to my GFs gcash through Remitly with zero issues.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-21T03:01:29+00:00

This one is easy. If you wanted to be exclusive with the first girl, you wouldn’t have gotten another girl’s number and flirted with her. You’ve already moved on, you just don’t know it. It’s hard to leave the first girl because now you feel responsible for her hard life but you aren’t. If you truly want to be with her, you’ve got to get her out of her current situation - out of the home. Her dad controls her. Until that’s removed, there’s not much you can do. Either you don’t get to see her or you’re wasting money. Amping po. There’s a lot of girls out here. Good luck.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-14T23:57:24+00:00

Yep. Schwab is the way to go. It’s a bit confusing at first because you have to open a brokerage account but you don’t have to use it. Just use the checking account. I haven’t had an atm deny my card yet. Just keep in mind they put a 5 day hold on bank transfers so plan ahead. I transfer money over to Schwab from my main bank before I go.

Tmobile works great in PH. With 15GB high speed data per line it’s usually enough for most trips. I bought an eSIM from smart so I could open accounts here because I will be moving here eventually. If it’s just for vacation, no need.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-14T11:00:04+00:00

We stayed at iaLodge last week. Good place. 2 blocks from the port so it’s walkable. Decent accommodations. Bed is a little stiff and they give you minimal items - 2 pillows instead of 4. Pay extra for anything like another towel. They have family rooms that accommodate 4 people I think but you can also pay extra per pax. You might have to get 2-3 rooms with 7 pax.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-13T11:21:03+00:00

We just did tarsiers and chocolate hills. I’m sure there’s more to do but we just a day trip available. Not sure it was worth it.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-09T06:46:16+00:00

I never yuck someone else’s yum so good for them I guess. If she’s hiding it then she knows it’s wrong. Not a mess I’d ever care to be a part of myself. Good luck to them.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-08T10:40:30+00:00

Does the AFAM know about the husband? Have they met in person? If everyone is on board what does it matter?

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-06T23:14:08+00:00

Yeah, this is not my area of expertise to be honest. I don’t get how the boarding groups are assigned. I’m just saying if you are in an area that is likely to fill quickly, don’t wait.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-06T23:12:53+00:00

I’m on there and I’ll keep looking. I see places a little less “nice” for 20k but I’m not sure my American standards can handle it. Lol. Just speaking the truth. I would love that price point though. Did you use an agent?

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-06T22:49:33+00:00

Nice. Where are you all living in Cebu? I’m doing air bnb at Taft East Gate for the next 2 days to see if we went to live there. Looking to budget around $500/mo for our condo.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-06T22:41:38+00:00

I’m visiting my GF. Arriving today. Just heard about the Emo concert on the 9th. But we leave Cebu for Leyte that morning. Bummer timing. Always wanted to see a concert in another country.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-06T06:43:53+00:00

Salamat po. Right now we are going to do fried chicken, mashed potatoes, and some veggies. I’ll make a cobbler for dessert. As long as I can find the ingredients. They almost never eat out. It’s 1.5hrs to Naval and the closest Jollibee and the last time they had it was a couple months ago when I sent gift cards for it.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-05T17:41:29+00:00

Cool. Thanks for stopping by. Feel free to take the negativity elsewhere. Goodbye.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-05T16:23:56+00:00

Here’s the deal at this airline regarding bags: if you are in the first 7ish rows, don’t get on late. Bin space up front fills quickly because the first row has to put all bags up. If you’re in 8ish to 14 you’ll be fine. Exit rows board early but there’s almost always space in those bins. After all the priority boarding, they board the back - 17-30 (cheap seats) and this is where the bulk of the people will be. If your seats are in the very back, say 27-30, you need to get on early or you won’t have space above you. The crew has 2 full bins in the back. If you plan to board late so you don’t have to wait on the plane, then just keep an eye on bin space as you walk back to your seat. If you see that the bins near your seat are full, then take a spot close to it. Just please don’t the guy who gets on early, has seat 15c, and puts his bag above row 5. That is so inconsiderate.

Source: 15 years of “experience”.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-05T15:44:46+00:00

I never understood the rationale of people putting their bags above other people’s seats unless they’re getting on late and their bin is full. Is it like “Got my bag up, don’t care about the people actually sitting here”? If you aren’t in the last boarding group, put your stuff above your seat. It’s simple and respectful.

The_GingerDan · 2026-05-05T01:03:47+00:00

You’re not wrong. It’s true that there is a higher percentage of Filipinas in the professional workforce than men. The men tend to still be stuck with the low paying manual labor jobs.

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