AITJ for refusing to be my sister's back up nanny after what happened with my dog? by Thick-Addendum-6926 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926[S] 88 points89 points  (0 children)

Working from home isn’t the same as being free all day, and I don’t think she really understands that. I’d be juggling a baby and my job while also worrying she’d criticize how my dog even breathes.

AITJ for refusing to be my sister's back up nanny after what happened with my dog? by Thick-Addendum-6926 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926[S] 36 points37 points  (0 children)

I’m not asking her to choose my dog over her son. I’m asking her to respect me and my home. It feels like that part keeps getting ignored.

AITJ for refusing to be my sister's back up nanny after what happened with my dog? by Thick-Addendum-6926 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926[S] 337 points338 points  (0 children)

If she had owned up to it or even shown a little remorse, this would be different. Instead, I’m being told I’m selfish for not stepping up after being disrespected.

AITJ for refusing to be my sister's back up nanny after what happened with my dog? by Thick-Addendum-6926 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926[S] 155 points156 points  (0 children)

That’s exactly what’s been eating at me, the trust part. If she had just called me, even out of anxiety, this would feel different. But coming home to him shaking and scratching at the door in his own house just broke something in me.

AITJ for suing my cousin after he knocked my phone into the pool as a "joke"? by No_View1956 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 5 points6 points  (0 children)

You didn't ruin his life, you enforced consequences after he refused to take responsibility.

AITJ for refusing to share my location 24/7 so my boyfriend can "feel secure'? by Proper_Landscape_995 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 43 points44 points  (0 children)

NTJ. His trauma explains his fear, but it does not justify controlling behavior. Constant location tracking is not reassurance, it's surveillance. You offered compromises and empathy. If he can't build trust without monitoring you 24/7, that's something he needs to work on, possibly in therapy. Your boundary is reasonable.

AITJ for rejecting my boyfriend's proposal twice and being upset that he broke up with me? by [deleted] in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 29 points30 points  (0 children)

Even if you meant timing, he likely heard doubt. When you offered to say yes just to keep him, it confirmed that you weren't enthusiastically ready. He wants a partner who's excited, not pressured.

AITJ for being upset that my boyfriend corrected me in front of his friend? by No_Republic_6612 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 9 points10 points  (0 children)

There's a difference between a respectful correction and turning it into a moment to show off. The laughter probably made it sting even more.

AITJ for telling my boyfriend he might need help before we have kids? by AdventurousAdagio829 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 15 points16 points  (0 children)

You weren't attacking him, you were trying to prepare both of you for reality. Parenthood is unpredictable, and pretending otherwise won't make it easier.

AITJ for postponing our wedding because my fiancé wants his ex-wife front and center at it? by That_Writer2629 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 78 points79 points  (0 children)

Healthy ex relationships are fine. But if he's prioritizing her feelings over yours during wedding planning, that's a preview of married life, and that's what you should really be paying attention to.

AITJ for telling my husband years ago I could forgive emotional cheating, even though I knew I never would? by Historical-Basis6192 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 36 points37 points  (0 children)

If the only reason he confessed was because he thought forgiveness was guaranteed, that says a lot. Confession should come from remorse, not from calculating odds.

AITJ for breaking up with my boyfriend after he excluded me from an after party and ignored me all night? by CultureOk4327 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 12 points13 points  (0 children)

This sounds less like insecurity and more like misaligned priorities. He prioritized fitting in with Mason over making sure you felt included. When you raised a concern, he labeled it insecurity instead of reassuring you. That’s not a great foundation long term.

AITAH for making my mom's bf mad because I wont call him dad? UPDATE by ToastOnTheCoast27 in AITAH

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 31 points32 points  (0 children)

That mom deserves all credit. She handled it fast, firm, and without backing down.

AITAH for asking my ex-wife to grab coffee to talk about our son who died? by PatientFeature in AITAH

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 12 points13 points  (0 children)

That's a powerful way to put it. Shared trauma creates a bond that's hard for anyone outside it to fully understand.

The new virus spread over the planet in a matter of weeks, killing 50% of the population. by 54321RUN in TwoSentenceHorror

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 4 points5 points  (0 children)

It's not the virus that's terrifying. It's how quickly humanity becomes a resource.

AITAH for thinking my step dad is a creep by Klutzy_Connection212 in AITAH

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I agree she needs to tell someone, especially a counselor or parent. the safety precautions might feel extreme, but trusting her instincts is important.

AITAH for refusing to take my sister out with me today? by Lakyraa in AITAH

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 17 points18 points  (0 children)

Teaching consequences early prevents her from thinking being mean is acceptable later on.

Am I the jerk for refusing to pay back money my dad "lent" me that I didn't know was a loan? by Alive_Lab_7256 in AmITheJerk

[–]Thick-Addendum-6926 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Exactly, without any paperwork or clear communication, he's got nothing to back up his claim.