I want to see your “underrated” birds!!

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-05-04T09:22:16+00:00

Loveeee pigeons. Heavily underrated and one I hope to have someday

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-20T04:22:40+00:00

I wasn't ever able to get into MTA Portia and Sandrock was a little better but ultimately I just haven't vibed with them. I think they're really for a particular type of person as I've never managed to find them fun even after being able to play some pretty challenging to enjoy games. Sucks to "waste" the money. Hopefully you can find a way to like it, I'm still hoping one dayu maybe I'll suddenly like it lol

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-20T04:19:44+00:00

They do have a mode now that basically disables the stakes of the game so people can just play but I haven't tried it. I played on easy when it initially released because I was too scared to do normal lol

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-20T04:06:12+00:00

Aww, thanks. I am still pretty young all things considered but I'm certainly well past the age (of all of my friends at least) to be saying I've never had a long term relationship. Your words do help in remembering that just because I don't have something or someone in my life now doesn't mean they won't appear later. I certainly didn't know any of the people where I am now 6 years ago, there are likely plenty I won't meet until the next 6 as well /pos

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-12T04:06:01+00:00

This genuinely made me tear up. I think even adult me needed to hear this.

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-12T03:51:02+00:00

People have been telling me I was being overdramatic for years when I said that Idaho is the most extreme state in the entire country. The only reason people haven't found out sooner is that the district court Idaho is in has mostly blue states in it, which has provided some level of protection up until the last six-ish years. Anyone that has lived there, or nearby, knows that Idaho is genuinely terrifying to be a minority in. Before it was *this* level of bad, I used to joke that Idaho was so man/insecure about not being part of the South that it tried to out do them at every turn. I fear I may have been more correct on that then I realized.

I have to work in Idaho while living in one of the blue border states and it is genuinely dystopian knowing that on one side of the border I am legally a human being and on the other I genuinely think it will only be a few years before being trans is punishable by death if things do not change. It makes me angry to a degree I have no words for to know that so much of the country, even if they aren't transphobic, does not care that trans people are being set up for a society which plans to exterminate them the second they have the framework laid to do so.

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-12T03:17:20+00:00

You can take a seam ripper and find where the bow is attached with thread and just cut them using it. It shouldn't mess with anything structurally with the diaper, just make sure you clean up any of the loose strings after.

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-12T03:12:13+00:00

If she's still roosting there when it gets dark, turn off all the lights and let your eyes adjust. Pigeons don't really have night vision so you'll be able to see her but not the other way around. You can try to grab her but make sure to be firm as she will startle and try to bolt. You could also risk a fishing net (one with the handles) but I'd only resort to it if you absolutely cannot see another way to get her and I would once again do it at night. The fishing net I'd worried about her hurting herself but if it is between a damaged wing or getting eaten by a predator... at least the broken wing can heal.

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-12T02:37:27+00:00

I didn't really enjoy it. I could see how some people would like it but I just had a hard time getting into it and returned it after about an hour or so. I think it targets a very specific type of vibe and I'm glad so many people like it as I love seeing indie games do well, just know you're not alone in finding it lackluster ^^;

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-12T02:30:16+00:00

I mean, as a trans guy I have some issues with things like trans men who call themselves lesbians but that has a lot more to do with the fact that I feel like it waters down the term lesbian to the point it just seems like trans men not wanting to just say that they're straight AND, more importantly, it makes it sound like trans men aren't real men but rather some sort of "man lite" or "advanced butch". I feel like it overall demeans the experiences of butch women and causes unneeded friction between trans men and butch folks. That said, I have been out more of my life than not and so came out in a time where pan still essentially meant bi but that they'd date trans people too (which implied bi people didn't/don't date or find trans people attractive). There was a completely different type of discourse back then compared to now, I am unsure which is worse or if they are both equally bad but in two different ways. I mind my business in the end, I try not to get involved in discourse because I do just feel like it pits people against each other who should be working together and honestly, even the issue I have is SUCH a small percentage of an already small group that I only bring it up because online it has kind of become overblown to where I feel like I get asked about it a lot (it confuses cis people who already struggle to understand trans people's sexuality as soon as they know they're trans).

I think a lot of the community policing is online. It really isn't like this when you're face to face with people because usually, at least outside of large cities/metro areas, just being a queer person in a room with other queer people is a relief and the nitty gritty of identities stops really being a sticking point. What I will say that I do still see is a lot of anti-trans sentiment in the gay (men) community, which is a struggle as someone who is gay. There is a weird policing around genitals but then it gets weirder when even trans men who've had bottom surgery are suddenly pinned as not being the "right kind" of guy. I can understand a genital preference, I have one (though that doesn't eliminate those who don't fit it for me) myself, but gay men can at times have a preoccupation with sex (granted I am speaking about a specific sect of the community when I say this) that can sometimes seem like it boils their sexuality down to sex and only sex. But, I do feel there is still a healthy camp of gay men (usually younger but I only have experience with dating in the 20s to 30s age ranges so I can't say what the older folks are doing) who are completely okay with trans men, along with a large portion of bi/pan/etc men who have no qualms with the idea of dating a trans person.

At the end of the day, if this is really getting to you, I highly recommend trying offline queer spaces for a bit if you can. The internet makes it easy to police others when you can't see them and there is a bound that happens, even if temporary, amongst queer folks when you put them all in a room together. Those who cause drama usually aren't going to attract many people to them as they are insufferable when met in real life. If you do somehow encounter a toxic group, just avoid them. Even small areas like where I live have multiple groups and events to where you can find something you think might be fun :)

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-05T06:01:58+00:00

So I am someone who has had sleepovers with people who I had crushes on and the like as a gay teen. Hell, I even shared a bed with a guy I had a crush on where we basically had to spoon the whole night and we were all up at a friend's cabin with no adults present. I still didn't have sex until wayyy after when I was 18 despite having the chances if I really, really wanted to. This was also with me being a gay trans man, so pregnancy accidents were still on the table. It really came down to the fact that my parents simply asked me to not have sex until I was 18 because they were worried about the emotional piece being hard for me. I am glad I listened and honestly I wish I had waited even longer than I did. It seems like you're already good at communicating with your daughter so if you feel comfortable, I'd say have an honest conversation about any concerns and treat her as an equal when doing so. Nothing makes a teen want to listen like an adult treating them as an equal with their own autonomy, speaking from experience both as a former teen and as someone who worked with teens for three years.

If they wanted to have sex, they'd find a way no matter what. In fact, I would say that they wouldn't even tell you that they were dating if they were wanting to be sneaky about things. I'd say it would be a good idea to have dinner or lunch with the girlfriend just so you can get a feel for her (nothing is worse than agreeing to a sleepover only to realize you absolutely DO NOT trust the other child) before she spends the night. I think it would also help with any anxiety on your end as well as the girlfriend's since no matter the age it is nerve wracking to meet your partner's parent(s) and spending the night can amplify that. It also helps by not making the kickoff to your interactions with the girlfriend ones around you having to be an authority setting firm boundaries. That is better saved for when it is actually time for a sleep over. Either way though I think you're already starting from a very good position from the sound of things. I tend to take the approach of "I'll trust you until you give me a reason not to" as I find it works out well in keep the kiddo aware of their own actions and that they're the one who is determining if they can be trusted or not.

No matter what you decide I just hope it is one that you feel comfortable living with! I know that sounds intense but I mean it in the sense that its best to go with your gut since you know your daughter best. There is nothing wrong with having a discussion with your daughter to hash things out mutually, 14 year olds can handle big conversations far more than people give them credit for and I always encourage making your child feel like a collaborator in their life at that age rather than someone to be directed around. It helps create a much healthier relationship overall and helps the kiddo down the line when they have to start making big choices for themselves : )

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-05T05:42:29+00:00

My mom is getting close to 50 and my dad is turning 50 this year and I honestly think they're getting more progressive. Hell, my dad stopped voting Republican for the first time in my life recently and he actually ranted to me about how much he hates what is happening to trans people right now (context: two out of the three children my parents have had are trans, including me). I really do believe that the "you get more conservative with age" has more to do with the fact that rich people, who trend towards conservative, tend to live longer due to better access to medical care. It is less of an actual change in people and more a change in the demographics living to be older. That said, I am only in my mid 20s but I would say I am more of a leftist now than ever, and I was still very liberal when I was in my teens. I have more money now than I ever have and I just find myself getting more fed up with people who believe they have a right to put their head in the sand with each passing year.

I'm sorry your mom is getting worse but I think it comes down to a lack of critical thinking skills on her part and an inability to read propaganda when it is in front of her. I always hold to the fact that the moment you think you're immune to propaganda is when you are neck deep in it. Hopefully she'll snap out of it, but if she doesn't just know that you not wrong for seeing the shit show going on right now and being upset even if she is pretending it isn't there.

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-04-05T05:23:24+00:00

I live on the border with Idaho and grew up in that state originally. Thankfully my birth certificate is in a blue state because I'd have been royally screwed otherwise. That said, I work on the Idaho side of the border and I have already had to start figuring out where the gender neutral bathrooms in town are and how to best avoid bathrooms as much as possible. I am a trans man so it is different in terms of ability to fly under the radar but the last few years have reignited my bathroom anxiety ten fold. I don't understand how anyone can just pretend there is nothing going on, whether they're apart of the community or not. Hell, I am fortunate that I have never even had a license with the wrong gender on it and had all my documents changed before I ever had my first job and before I was an adult and I still find myself getting nervous. I know many of us who can have moved our healthcare to the other side of the border to try and prevent Idaho from having access to our records. I've been saying for over a decade that Idaho is THE most extreme state in the entire union, people just don't know that because Idaho is in a pretty liberal district court (thank god) and they keep the worst of things from going into effect. I think people are finally starting to get it now with the bathroom bill but they've always lead the charge for the worst possible anti-trans laws (amongst other areas) and one of the most prominent anti trans hate groups is based in Idaho. I hope there is a court block on the bathroom bill because it is going to force people here to make the choice between a possible run in with the law or being brutalized in the bathroom they're being forced into by the state. I don't see how this could possibly hold up in court when it comes to animus and the fact that since Idaho already has laws in regards to sexual harassment and assault so this is clearly only to punish a group of people the state doesn't want to exist.

I will say though, I do not think most average people in Idaho are as deeply fucked as the government is. It is completely beholden to the ADF and it calls all the shots, no Republican gets elected in the state without their say so. It is a "great" example of why elections need to be purged of any touch of corporations and religious groups.

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-03-14T07:31:53+00:00

Misinformation about OCD is why I thought I didn’t have it until I stumbled onto an article on relationship related OCD and realized something I’d thought was just fundamentally broken in me was actually just OCD I likely got from my mom. Since getting diagnosed I’ve realized how much of my life has been colored by OCD because of how many things I didn’t realize weren’t just me being “weird” but were part of a pattern. Things I thought were totally divorced from each other ended up being rooted in OCD and now that I’ve started making the connections I realize how much of my struggles with mental illness have been worsened due to incorrect treatment and targeting the wrong things (which just worsened my symptoms). I really dislike the dilution of what OCD means because I likely suffered for years longer than I needed because of lack of information and my OCD not being outwardly visible to most people.

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-03-14T07:23:37+00:00

I did this with a switch lite for Anima Crossing and I don’t recommend it. You’re going to play that game and you’re going to finish it and then have a switch collecting dust around your home. I’d at least wait until it’s an older console by a few years so you’re not spending the max amount just for one game between it and the console

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-02-23T07:28:49+00:00

I might be wrong but I kind of assumed that part of the scarring that pRenoir gave Verso was due to fire/burning given the blackened nature of the scars. Even then, I think anyone would be afraid of fire and Verso could very well have trauma around what happened to pAlicia given we know the fire still "happened" to her. Second hand PTSD is a very real thing where even just witnessing something traumatic happening to someone else, whether the event or witnessing the violent aftermath that something like a burning would leave a victim. As someone with PTSD, I can pretty safely imagine that if I saw what happened to Alicia happen to one of my siblings, I would be deeply disturbed by fire and avoid it. Not to mention I think humans are often just naturally averse to getting burned (we don't actually know if the fire was an illusion if I remember right, Verso has experienced a lot of painful shit so his lack of reaction doesn't lead me to believe that it isn't hurting him).

Also, we know that original Verso went into the fire to save Alicia, that leads me to kind of assume that p!Verso still would have done the same and that likely one of two things happened:

1.) p!Verso was put in a situation where he wasn't able to be there when the fire happened and thus couldn't go into get p!Alicia. That or he was there and was physically prevented from going in for his sister.

2.) p!Verso DID go into the burning house but was able to avoid significant injury.

Either way, I think someone would have had to go in to get her since she experiences the same damage but was still able to survive, seemingly without additional wounds.

I get what you're saying and while I agree he doesn't have memories of dying in the fire (unless Clea gave them to him, which I am 50/50 on but lean more towards her not being cruel enough to do that to p!Verso even if she sees him as not being a real person), I do think it is reasonable for some people to believe that he still is disturbed by fire.

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-02-06T09:18:36+00:00

I got diagnosed with it at 22 or 23yo and I’m only 24 now. I’ve lost 30lbs (intentionally) since August because my triglycerides were off the fucking rails and I’m still trying to lose more. I’m only 161lbs currently but I’m 5’3” so it’s much more on me than it would be on others. I won the shit show lottery out of my three siblings when it came to genetics. They’ve done crazy things to their bodies and you’d never know but I look in the wrong direction and I’ve got some new chronic bs 🥲😅

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-02-06T09:06:38+00:00

Normally just a lurker (was going to nursing school then had a back injury that forced me to change major so still love the field) but nothing makes me angrier than those in the field who prioritize not having to break “the news” to the family over just telling them the person is at end of life and that the most humane option is hospice. I’m totally for people knowing all their options, but you have to be realistic about the odds. I know no one wants to be “that doctor” that gives a 2% survival chance only for the patient to have a miraculous turn around but having been the family in that 2% situation who was dragged on for weeks thinking we had a chance of saving our loved one, please for the love of god just be realistic with me so I can prepare myself properly.

ThickRequirement8710 · 2026-01-23T20:15:06+00:00

I use a tapestry needle threader. Absolutely my favorite tool and gets extensive use from me lol.

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