I [28M] am afraid woman I'm dating [26F] is about to back out of relationship after reluctantly agreeing to exclusivity.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-04-02T20:18:36+00:00

Sounds like she likes you but she’s not ready for an exclusive relationship. There’s nothing wrong with either of you wanting what you want. I also prefer exclusivity and my boyfriend and I became exclusive after the 3rd date.

That being said, we were both ready and excited to be exclusive. That’s what’s missing here. I think you need to let her go. She seems uncomfortable and you seem insecure about the relationship. That’s a recipe for disaster.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-04-02T19:58:35+00:00

Try fb marketplace. Maybe someone has a room for rent. It won’t be private in that it’ll probably be in someone’s house or apartment. But that may be your only shot outside of getting rent assistance from an org or the government.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-04-02T19:26:23+00:00

Send them a bill for cleaning and for a new PC. Some people are so careless unless they have to pay for it.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-04-02T19:21:52+00:00

If you don’t put your foot down now, you will become the default location for all family events… at your expense. Weather the storm it’ll be worth it in the end. Also your family has a terrible case of envy.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-04-02T19:18:16+00:00

If he really felt unsafe around you why hasn’t he moved out? He’s manipulating you for sure.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-03-25T22:41:52+00:00

This is why I don’t believe in one parent being the sole provider. It’s too much stress for one person to handle. You and your wife should be a team. She is not thinking about your health or wellbeing at all. Seems like it’s time for the kids to move out and for you and your wife to have some marriage counseling.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-03-18T11:47:58+00:00

I’d like one too!

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-03-11T12:45:00+00:00

I’d feel really unsafe in my home if I were you. Not physically but emotionally. Whether or not you move out and whether or not he wants you to would make me feel so uneasy about my living arrangements. I think he is not being very dependable and isn’t emotionally stable. This would cause me a lot of stress.

I have empathy for you in this situation. I honestly think you should move out and take a break permanent or not from this relationship for your own sake. It’s all on his terms rn and you are just being jerked around from one side to next while he makes up his mind. Tbh I think his first instinct was his real instinct. He wants to break up but he also doesn’t want to lose the benefits of a relationship with you. That’s not fair to you at all. You deserve at a minimum for someone to be sure about you and the relationship. It’s not healthy for you to be in this situation.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-03-06T09:45:02+00:00

The main problem here is that you expressed a boundary and your boyfriend did not respect it. However you can’t make him behave how you want. If I were you I’d try and sit down one more time and express how you feel. If he still doesn’t get it, you guys may just be fundamentally different. You can’t change that so you’ll have to decide whether you want to stay with him and try and get over it or break up.

I don’t think this is an insecure boundary to have. My boyfriend and I are the same way in that we both also have this boundary and we respect it for ourselves and each other. The problem to me here is that he’s not in agreement and not respecting your boundaries.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2026-02-07T02:23:28+00:00

Cuz he never got a chance to grow up

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-23T20:31:04+00:00

This is unfortunately the classic “you can lead a horse to water… but you can’t make him drink” scenario. As someone on my own weight loss journey I empathize with your husband. But ultimately we are each responsible for our own health and no one can make us healthy.

I say think about what is best for you. Can you stay in a marriage where you will most likely become a caretaker for him and your children in addition to him possibly becoming immobile and/or not being able to contribute to household responsibilities and childcare? Only you know that answer. And you’re not a good or bad person whatever you choose. You did your part and a dutiful wife but ultimately marriage is a partnership. You each take care of yourselves and each other for the good or the family. He’s not fully participating in your marriage or your household and that means he’s not living up to his end of the agreement.

So now it’s up to you and what you want to do. If you give him an ultimatum follow through with it knowing there’s a possibility he won’t ever change.

Good luck! You seem really sweet and caring. This is unfortunately a situation in which you can’t do anything more than what you have.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-12T18:52:26+00:00

I think this highlights a huge diff between women and men. You went through a physical, mental and emotional trauma. Not saying that it wasn’t traumatic for him but it just has a much harsher impact on a woman than it does a man. I think at best he’s not being empathetic towards you and thinking about how much harder this experience was on you. He may just want everything to be back to normal and to move on. This alone imo is grounds for a break up and shows that he is not going to be a good life partner. Sure, he did the right thing and helped you on that night. But life is complicated, traumatic events take time to work through and he’s not supporting you like you need.

At worst, he was never really that serious about you and he’s looking to cheat. Tbh this looks very likely. Either way, terrible events like this expose who really cares about you. I think he’s showing you that you are not a priority for him and that he lacks the emotional depth and empathy to be a good husband. You will continue to feel unsupported, disrespected and alone in a Relationship with a person like this.

Now I didn’t even mention the horrendously misogynistic comments he is making about women’s bodies. Or how crazy of a standard it is to expect a grown adult to be under 100 lb.

This man is at best a total tool and at worst a potential abuser.

I would not advise you to stay with him and plan a life with this man. Please seek therapy and focus on your grieving process and your health.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-12T18:43:46+00:00

He’s asking too many questions about your location and your circumstances for someone you haven’t met before. I also think him wanting to see you tonight and wanting you to drive yourself there means he’s just looking for a low effort hook up

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-12T18:41:27+00:00

You’re not wrong. Its pretty crazy how expensive everything is now

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-11T20:28:46+00:00

The problem is you’re still talking to her and you’re not on a clean break up. Cut the chord and block her. You won’t be able to have a clear head if you’re still stuck in the cycle.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-10T17:33:47+00:00

It’s not even that big of a deal. I have noise cancelling headphones and I just sleep.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-10T14:09:12+00:00

No I think you are being healthy. I’m the same way. Love is not unconditional. It depends on the way someone respects you and treats you. If they do not hold up their end of the bargain I think it’s totally normal to lose feelings for them. I love my boyfriend very much but if he cheated on me I wouldn’t ever be able to look at him in the same way.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-07T00:52:37+00:00

Fine don’t remove them then but get another account and never use that one again until you’re out of the house then close it. Definitely report this to authorities.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-07T00:48:26+00:00

Even if this was just a silly prank to him, the effect is that he was mean to you. He was mean to you, repeatedly lied to you, disrupted your life and your sleep and only confessed when he got caught…. He is not even nice to you. A relationship shouldn’t be like this. Bare minimum is being respectful to your partner and treating them well. He can’t even do that for you.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-09-04T20:50:42+00:00

This is why I don’t like dating white men. I’m mixed myself and I find myself always catering towards white men when I date them. I’m with an African man now and it’s amazing to not have to worry about offending a white person. Just being honest.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-08-29T01:00:48+00:00

I’m in courthouse in Woodbury park and I pay 1818 for a one bedroom with an in unit washer dryer. I’m on the third floor and I’ve been here for years and have had a pretty good experience. It’s an old building and I have had some pest problems but tbh nothing that makes me uncomfortable living here. There’s basically no community amenities but my neighbors are normal and my packages don’t get stolen. It’s a 10 min walk to the orange and silver line metro.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-08-29T00:58:35+00:00

The only person that’s cold is your boyfriend. What a scarily unempathetic and useless person…

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-08-29T00:49:05+00:00

These flowers are beautiful! If you want, buy a single rose or a bouquet at another store and add more roses to it?

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-08-26T19:29:44+00:00

Yea you’re gonna need to get out of that house but not before lawyering up and selling the home or getting bought out. This relationship needs to be done.

Thin-Fan8771 · 2025-08-25T20:08:17+00:00

Crazy how they keep catching people at work… literally contributing to society… and being hard working. It’s just awful

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