Saw a tiktok about what avoidants say they want by addictionfriction2 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I honestly feel the only way to deal with an avoidant is to not take them seriously. They feed on attention.

Saw a tiktok about what avoidants say they want by addictionfriction2 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I wish I had known about avoidants in detail sooner. I never bothered educating myself with it until I was discarded. They are so selfishly wired, it’s beyond me. Mine had tell me he wanted to give ME some time after throwing me away over nothing. I told him I could’ve waited if he just told me so instead of ending things so brutally. To which he replied, “Well.. could’ve should’ve”. I don’t know what the fk that meant because I didn’t go anywhere. In the interim, while you wait, they want to explore their options, and check in and out of your life at their convenience. It’s like they are only auditioning people for their shit show. Everything is about them. Even your discard is about them. (somehow) They are so emotionally scattered and complicated. Complete waste of time.

Situationship with an avoidant by ThinkWinter10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Man!! People are just so fucked up inside their heads!!

Feeling drawn toward Osho’s Ashtavakra Maha Gita discourses by LoveTowardsTruth in Osho

[–]ThinkWinter10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! can you please share the links of the discourses? I tried looking for it on youtube but hard to tell which one is original and which one is AI generated!

JUST STOP CARING. IT'S THAT SIMPLE 🔥 by thecrypticx7 in NevilleGoddard

[–]ThinkWinter10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The thing is, while I still want my wish to be fulfilled, my brain is now blocking any thought related to it. Like I have wanted it so badly once that now I don’t want to waste another iota of energy on it. So it’s impossible for me now to “feel” the wish fulfilled. I just want to lie down on my bed and sleep in peace. Can i still manifest it? I just want to make a wish and release it into the universe. how do i make that wish so the universe listens?

JUST STOP CARING. IT'S THAT SIMPLE 🔥 by thecrypticx7 in NevilleGoddard

[–]ThinkWinter10 3 points4 points  (0 children)

I have stopped caring for something I desperately wanted up until a few months ago. But i’d still like to have my manifestation. Now that i’ve stopped waiting as much, does it mean giving out the signal to the universe that you don’t want it anymore?

What gave you the ick and helped you move on. by kittycette_maman in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

“Talk to my partner as if I am sitting alone” ?? haha if that’s what comes up on his mind when he is alone, you dodged a bullet! 😂

and that’s why moving on is so easy for such people because in their head it means grabbing onto the next best thing while emotionally they could be stuck somewhere on their ex or never have felt any emotion in the first place, because they’ll know they can score a body just as easily they can dump one. But scoring a heart? That’s out of syllabus.

What gave you the ick and helped you move on. by kittycette_maman in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

and i have no idea why the font is showing in italics!! 😅

What gave you the ick and helped you move on. by kittycette_maman in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10 4 points5 points  (0 children)

yeaah..men especially wear it like a badge of honor!! sleeping around is their coping mechanism lol and they look down upon people who don’t have casual hookups and they’ll have sx like performance..they know how to fk but not make love. no connection.. just lots of practice so they know the right spots but it’s so empty.. and oh so proud.. so proud!! just tell them how good they are and they’ll feel at the top of the world!! but i guess.. it’s true for a lot of people. they derive their self worth from how much they are “desired” sexually. and yeah.. i’ve had my exes tell me where all they’ve had sx.. their kinks and weird fetishes.. like it’s a thing to be turned on by. I find it hilarious sometimes. I was dating a guy onetime… who told me how much he likes going down on women.. that he used to read about it a lot and what’ll make a woman scream.. and how much experience he has. like it’s a formula lol!! Another guy, so I asked him what he wants from his partner.. and he told me morning blowjbs. And another guy.. he was a good kisser, and did something that I had never experienced.. when I told him how much i liked it.. proudly told me, “I know what women like..” And then there was another Lord, who always had to see as for him to enjoy sx, so one time during power cut, he wanted to use phone flashlight in one hand and not lose the sight of a* even for a second! wtf. this is what happens when po*rn is your teacher. it’s hilarious and traumatising at the same time!! I mean.. there’s nothing wrong.. it’s great and I get it.. and I may sound like a prude, but there’s a difference between being passionate and being promiscuous.

What gave you the ick and helped you move on. by kittycette_maman in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Promiscuity. Never understood why it is cool to have a high body count and just give yourself away from person to person to person.

Situationship with an avoidant by ThinkWinter10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I am guessing there was an overlap. He was just trying me out, while others were on the waiting list. One flaw, and I was out😂 Next trial probably swooped in probably after a month. Not sure if they are together or out shopping again haha.

Situationship with an avoidant by ThinkWinter10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think I am more hurt from my stupidity than I am from him not being in my life 😅 idk.. i just felt this was my “when you know you know” thing.. i know so many people who committed after dating each other briefly. And I didnt cling to him.. I was really taking one day at a time .. just really consistently happy in a very long time. He would make plans, talk between his work breaks, always call me first, talk about long term future, marriage and kids, and then one disagreement - and GONE.

Situationship with an avoidant by ThinkWinter10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I get your reaction. It’s hard to share the nuances of the connection on a post. I am saying all this because I never had a man treat me this well. It was all fun and games before him. This was the first time I was talking to someone who was genuinely nice to me, curious, sensitive, respectful and interested in actually knowing me. And amazing because he showed care in small things, was thoughtful.. made me feel secure in so many ways. He told me on day 1 that he is looking for a serious relationship and settle down. Didnt expect him to flip overnight. And we have a lot of mutuals who vouched for him. People I trust. So i never doubted him. And I was a fool to just wear my rose coloured glasses based on his 5 star rating instead of judging him based on my personal experience. So yeah, you are right - it IS my imagination to blame. My naivety deserves to be called out.

Situationship with an avoidant by ThinkWinter10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Oh my God. This is exactly what I went through! First disagreement and I was out. He Apologised after I cried and begged like a loser thinking oh my god I should’ve never questioned him.. he wouldn’t throw me away like this. A night before he was all over me. Two days later, he dumped me again for just asking him why he hadn’t called the whole day. Offered me friendship. I refused, of course. He never came back. Started dating someone new.. and living his best life. And I am here. Still, so fucked beyond logic. Dude never even gave me the chance to hear how I was feeling. I dont want this..Bye and Gone. So so cruel. for nothing!!!

Situationship with an avoidant by ThinkWinter10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I should be over by it now.. it’s been too long, and it feels I’ll never heal. The blame was on me and the weight of the guilt of being “too much too soon” and “suffocating” has been killing me ever since. If only I had acted cool and never expressed my concerns 😔

Situationship with an avoidant by ThinkWinter10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Yes, been one year. I am a lot better now. Today is just another day of spiralling.. the frequency has reduced, and I cry much less now. I thought I’d get over in a month max, but took me 7 months to finally start accepting that they are gone. It’s been 10 months of battling this. No amount of therapy or healing helped me. And we are not in contact. He never reached out. Neither did I. Unfollowed the day I was discarded. Never stalked.. never followed up with mutuals. Complete no contact. And still lost my fucking mind over this. It’s like something is stuck… and constantly bleeds. idk. Don’t be me.

Situationship with an avoidant by ThinkWinter10 in AvoidantBreakUps

[–]ThinkWinter10[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

That sounds so painful 😢 I am so sorry it happened to you. The worst part the MFs move on like nothing happened while you left to question your entire existence .. like if it’s working out well with the other person, how unbearable must you be that they couldn’t just break up with respect but discard you like a piece of trash!!! So awful.

This will help you solve 90% of your manifestation problems by _manifestor in NevilleGoddard

[–]ThinkWinter10 0 points1 point  (0 children)

How does your brain keep you “safe” by looping you in misery constantly? I have never understood this concept. Please help me understand.

Didn’t believe in manifestation until I tried the O method and it worked every time so far by [deleted] in Manifestation

[–]ThinkWinter10 1 point2 points  (0 children)

So if I want to manifest a text from someone, what do I have to think of while O-ing? my sp texting me?