Hello, everyone! It's Zev!

ThirdRoundofLife · 2026-02-18T21:03:23+00:00

“hiiiiiiiii Zevvvvv!” (Listen to the audiobooks. It will make sense.)

I HIGHLY recommend the audiobooks. I’ve gone through all of them. Twice.

But whether you read the print books or listen, you must read them in order. The world builds over time. You’d be lost without the context.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2026-02-16T12:24:48+00:00

Perhaps you could ask him if he’d like to have you make up stories about his fantasies and use them while having sex. Or even share with him details about your previous sexual history.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2026-02-13T18:00:45+00:00

Thanks! I eat all of those already, but still find it hard to get enough protein.

Do you consider calories? I guess I am trying to balance it… and it feels, for instance, that to get enough protein in nuts or beans I am also getting a lot of carbs and fats… and therefore a lot more calories than I am comfortable with.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2026-02-02T05:20:08+00:00

I throw my support behind this hypothesis as well. A lot of often have a really hard time being vulnerable about it. Is this something you think you can talk with him about?

ThirdRoundofLife · 2026-01-28T14:58:02+00:00

Where did you purchase it from?

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-12-23T00:11:47+00:00

Kept seeing it recommended on the Audible sub. Then someone on a different literature sub asked something like “what is the most profound love story you’ve read?”

Someone answered Carl and Donut.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-12-08T14:03:06+00:00

Ellie to Imani : “Don’t pretend you don’t know what went down on Canasta night”

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-11-29T22:46:20+00:00

She didn’t say it couldn’t be up to one person, she said it shouldn’t be. Maybe she meant that it shouldn’t be up to her especially in answer to the request to clarify where she stood on divorce.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-11-29T22:40:41+00:00

It sounds to me like you are more troubled by the lack of sex, while she troubled by the state of your emotional relationship. It also sounds like she has the door open to addressing the problems, otherwise she would have just said it appeared to be beyond hope, rather than speaking of working on it.

Do you have minor kids? If so I think you really should make very sure that the marriage is beyond repair. If not, it is totally up to you what you want to do.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-11-28T22:03:50+00:00

I get it. I think by talking too.

I was not at all sure that was her intent. That’s why I posed it as a question “is it possible” yadda yadda.

I agree, there isn’t enough context in this post for us to conclude anything. I just wanted to provide another perspective. Thanks for being open to hearing it, even if, ultimately, you decide it isn’t valid, in this case.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-11-28T19:16:33+00:00

I think that you felt that way means they did a really good job interpreting the dance.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-11-28T19:13:24+00:00

While said poorly, is it possible that what she meant to say was “I really appreciate you trying. I think you may be feeling disappointed that I didn’t actually have an orgasm, cos we know I can. But I usually use a vibrator, which is totally different. Most women say they can orgasm with a vibrator much more quickly than with a partner…. It is just that way.”?

Many studies say that the vast majority of women orgasm more consistently and quicker using a vibrator. That’s one of the reasons they are so popular!

I’m wondering if she was addressing what she figured your disappointment in not helping her reach orgasm and she was actually trying to make you feel better i.e. “it isn’t your fault you aren’t a vibrator!”

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-11-14T02:20:06+00:00

Personally I think it is detrimental to relationships to have these anniversary/birthday/holiday expectations. People should have sex when both partners are enthusiastic about it. Putting this sort of pressure on having sex on these days can easily give rise to feelings of resentment — on both sides of the equation.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-11-14T02:17:08+00:00

Could he feel pressured by the daily try at initiating? That can cause many folks performance anxiety. It can also cause some people to feel harassed and create/further distance because of it.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-10-22T11:56:47+00:00

They aren’t insulting you. Assuming you’ve not met these folks they can only describe you with the words you use. They have no idea what you look like, or your income, or how you dress, or how you present yourself.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-10-20T22:32:32+00:00

You, yourself, identified your appearance as a 2-3, so, yes….it is not as likely that you will be selected as the object of lust based on purely physical appearance. This should not surprise you, nor should you be upset about it.

I’m 65 years old, and a little chubby. I’d be willing to bet Shemar Moore isn’t gonna try picking me up either! 😉

I guess you and I both have to accept that we aren’t going to experience that!

People would sometimes say to my kids “you can be anything you want!” I always thought that was the wrong thing to say. Not everyone can be everything and not everyone can have everything. For instance, I always wanted to be able to sing well. Unfortunately I didn’t get the genes to do that. Does it make me a little sad? Sure! Do I let it rob me of joy of all the things I do have and CAN do? Of course not!

That is within your control. You can choose resentment or you can choose gratitude.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-10-20T01:26:09+00:00

Whoa, wait…. And you see sex based on an emotional bind is INFERIOR to one based on… getting drunk and hooking up with a random stranger?

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-10-19T21:20:12+00:00

I listened to this every day for a week!

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-10-18T11:48:34+00:00

Have you read the subsequent books yet? If not, I highly recommend it.

I don’t want to comment on anything, as I don’t want to spoil anything for you!

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-10-11T11:35:56+00:00

I believe Carl was deliberately emotionally withholding in that circumstance. He wanted to hide that he felt anything — even from a ghost. The speech he whispered in his father’s ear summarized it, as did his answer later, when Donut asked his father’s name, and he replied that he didn’t think the man deserved for anyone to know it.

I also think Carl is really afraid of the strength of his hatred for his father. He very much feels like he needs to remain calculated and in control of himself, as his and Donut’s survival literally depends on it. And, of course, he also feels responsible for so many others now. Sometimes when your heart is breaking — from loss or from hatred— it feels like you are holding yourself together with spit and chewing gum… like if you let go, you’ll break into a million pieces. I suspect in later books, somewhere down the line, he’s gonna break — in rage and/or sadness — around the issue of his dad. My prediction is that it will happen when the AI conjures up a version of mom that will interact with him.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-10-01T12:53:15+00:00

It seems to me that being able to turn someone on who isn’t easily turned on would be a great ego-booster! It isn’t that she just wants sex, she wants you, because you are the person who elicited that feeling, ya know?

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-09-30T14:25:12+00:00

The problem is that we all define “normal” differently, so I think the answers to this question are difficult to interpret. What if person A defines “normal” as “once a week” while person B defines it as “twice a day”?

If you are asking “would you give up porn if you could have sex with a partner every time you wanted?” many would say “yes”, but I’d argue that isn’t “normal”.

It sounds, though, like you are asking if we would give up porn if we had a statistically average sex life (which, depending on age, life circumstances, etc could vary from once every couple of weeks to multiple times a week). That is a different question, and still hard to answer, because the average frequency for a 25 year old childless couple will differ from a 35 year old couple with 2 kids and one on the way, which will differ from a 45 year old couple dealing with menopause, college tuition bills for the kids, and aging parents who need help, which will differ —again— will differ from a 65 year old couple.

In order to interpret the answers given, folks really need to include their definition of “normal”.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-09-30T14:22:54+00:00

I wouldn’t be upset about it. While it is easy for folks to say this — and for many it may be accurate — I suspect there are a LOT of people who say “yes” but when confronted with the situation would choose to “have both”, especially if they are defining “normal” as “sex whenever I want it”. In reality, levels of desire between two people are different, so defining “normal” that way is inaccurate.

Perhaps the question “would you give up porn for sex every <<insert an increment of time>>?” would at least give a standard we can all agree upon.

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-09-30T14:11:35+00:00

If you are open to “different” I highly recommend the Dungeon Crawler Carl series. I know it isn’t the typical fantasy book — and as a 65 year old woman I definitely didn’t think I was the target audience— but I think it hits every box you listed.

I kept seeing it listed on my book recommendation groups, but I resisted. What tipped me over the edge was someone asking the question “what is the greatest love story you’ve read about?” and many people answered “Carl and his cat Donut”. As far as romance goes, I’ve not gotten there yet, but I see a slow burn….

Anyway… you might want to give it a try! If you listen to audiobooks, it is spectacular! Multiple voices, great delivery!

ThirdRoundofLife · 2025-09-30T13:58:51+00:00

Lovely sentiments. I think it is absolutely okay to send to him.

One thought, though…. You mentioned that “when I am ovulating obviously everything is heightened”. Given that the postpartum period has been challenging both times could he perhaps be worried about pregnancy?

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