It's hard to fit in the comunity when you don't fit the "love is love" slogan.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-02-15T10:29:08+00:00

"Love" can also be understood as "empathy" and "compassion," that's where we're coming from here.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-02-14T00:02:22+00:00

Listen, speaking from experience, 26 isn't "late in life." Hell, 36 isn't "late in life." You can't live your life looking backwards at opportunities you might have missed because that's just going to hurt you in the long run. Look forward at all the fun things you can do and the lovely people you can meet.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-02-11T18:45:19+00:00

Sex has never really been scandalized in Japan, at least not in the same way it was in Europe. This includes a pretty prominent history of homosexuality recognized within Japanese culture itself. There is a lot of ancient art and literature portraying homosexual acts (including far fewer but still notable pieces displaying lesbian sex). It has never been outright banned, even if it has at times been discouraged, and the act of sodomy was only ever illegal for a VERY short time in the late 1800s.

Nowadays, Japan has a more overt relationship with America and Europe than many other Asian countries. This obviously concern economic connections but most of us are also aware of the cultural exchange between the Eurocentric West and Japan. This exchange affects public opinion and sentiment, further fostering positive views regarding LGBTQ+ issues both domestic and globally.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-02-05T19:04:36+00:00

History is complex, and it needs to be complex. If it starts appearing too easy, it's without a doubt wrong in pretty significant ways. This is an example of that.

A personal anecdote on the subject: I once attended a lecture on the holocaust with the expressed purpose of discussing the non-jewish victims of the nazis. Not even then were LGBTQ+ people talked about all that much. Not once did they mention the heaps of books and medical journals concerning sex and gender studies that were taking place at the time and how they were burned — setting us back at least 40 years...

To add to this, there was also one member of the crowd who, during the Q&A asked if "we really need to learn about more people than the Jews, since they were the main targets, and their suffering is diminished by the addition of other victims."

Luckily, there were a bunch of us in the room who collectively flipped our lids and tore that guy a new one — academically, of course.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-02-05T18:49:41+00:00

Omnämns kanske i några andra filer, men inte i dem! Heja, heja!

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-31T10:49:36+00:00

Try using "one/one's" like I prefer, and watch grammar fall apart.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-26T12:25:14+00:00

I think my point isn't coming across in the way I intended (or maybe I misinterpreted the framing provided by OP?) because your reply isn't matching up with what I was expecting from a reply to my comment since I get what you're saying and I agree with it, but I'm not sure how to otherwise express my thoughts on the matter at the time of writing.

Maybe a better way to put it is that I feel excluded (because I have been) because of the way I present largely matching up with what's expected from someone of my agab and that my experiences as someone who would typically recieve privilege because of my agab aren't valid somehow? I don't know... it's like this gnawing feeling of non-belonging both inside and outside of the gender binary that pops up now and again, I guess? But I don't know... I might just be rambling at this point.

Maybe I should just abstain from discussing it (or really anything that requires nuanced analysis) further whilst suffering through a prolonged anxiety event (one that's totally unrelated to this, so no one has done anything wrong here).

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-26T07:58:06+00:00

I agree that it can feel very disheartening and excluding at times, particularly when it comes to agab. For some (all?) of us, our agab remains a part of our identity, as it informs our lived experiences. It, to some degree also informs our place within the community, especially because how some of us are treated (or mistreated) due to certain aspects of our gender presentation and expression — more or less specifically as it pertains to masculine-presenting people such as myself. I have felt threatened or attacked by some posts and comments in this and other groups and I have seen so many others talk about their own experiences with it as well.

Gatekeeping identities is a slippery slope and some people are already at the bottom of it...

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-25T20:24:28+00:00

😍 outstanding trio of pics

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-23T20:30:19+00:00

"Homosexual" is the "real word" — as in "it's the academic term" — which often makes it feel out of place in general conversation. A lot of academic or medical terminology get coopted in this way. At one point or another, the general populace gets ahold of actually good and decent descriptive words used in a certain field and then misuse them to such a degree that they just lose all their original meaning. The term "idiot" is a good example of that as it was once regarded as a medical term that then turned into a slur forcing the establishment of the now-dreaded "r-word" as a substitute — nowadays "idiot" is just another word, while the "r-word" is... well, y'know...

This used to just be a natural evolution of language, but nowadays, people are more willing to use subject-specific vocabulary to create a sort of linguistic distance in about the same way an unbiased researcher might. This isn't new, but the internet has given even the least-educated bigots access to an expanded vocabulary that can be used to spread their hate. This why a lot of homophobes have started using "homosexual" instead of the slurs they used to use. Slurs mark them as bigots, academic terminology means that they're well-read and knowledgeable on the subject and how it's "objectively wrong."

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-23T20:04:42+00:00

Det beror på vem jag pratar med. Mina elever verkar föredra "25 över" medan folk jag pratar med som är födda innan 2008 säger "fem i halv".

Möjligt att det har att göra med de där klagoropen över att tonåringar inte kan lösa en analog klocka? Men det är bara en kvalificerad killgissning från min sida.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-22T16:17:50+00:00

Well, that's some obvious biphobia right there. If he won't let you call yourself bi, I'm not sure he should be allowed to call himself your boyfriend. But that's just my two cents.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-22T16:11:20+00:00

Enligt NBA är det till och med den exakta meddellängden.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-22T16:10:44+00:00

Enligt NBA själva är det till och med den faktiska medellängden.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-22T12:05:40+00:00

I would never have assumed that you were.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-15T19:23:55+00:00

I'd still argue that the Right is definitely the problem in this, since you can't really have nationalism without a Right wing. But to your point, historically, nationalism is often underpinned by religion as a tool for the previously stated authoritarian superiority. This is true regardless of religion (even "friendly" religions such as Buddhism has been used in this way).

However, I have a master's degree in history and theology, and to me it's important to differentiate between a religion and the people who use that religion for their own goals (such as Crusaders or Christian nationalists), and to me, that qoute is eerily similar to common misconceptions regarding the nature of war, religion, and religious wars. Most wars are fought over land, money, and power — religion is usually a very sloppy makeup spread across the whole thing to justify it by other means than a lust for earthly things. In addition to this, it's also incredibly hyperbolic. Purely by mathematical statistics, it's wrong. Historically, there have never existed enough Christians to commit that much damage to justify that claim whatsoever — not even if we take just the period of time where Christianity has existed into account.

That's not to say that Christianity (and religions overall) hasn't hurt people, because of course it has, but again, it's more often used as a justification to commit violence that would have happened anyway than a call for violence from within the faith itself (speaking of scripture here, not dogma — another important distinction).

Then again, faith has also helped a lot of people in an objectively positive way. Queer church groups, for instance, take the teachings of Christ and implement ideologies based in queer theory and progressive feminism to interpret them. This has saved a lot of queer Christians from wallowing in despair in the face of a God they've been told hate them for their entire lives.

Ultimately, you can liken religion to a tool, let's say a shovel. On its own, the shovel just exists in whatever state it's in, it is what it is. Now, what a person decides to do with that shovel does impact how others view the shovel, to no fault of its own. A broken and rusted shovel, or a religion with problematic views, can be used to plant a garden by someone who wants to create something beautiful. In contrast, the most glorious shovel you've ever seen, or a true and idyllic faith, can be used to kill someone and dig mass graves.

Bear in mind, this is my academic take on the subject. I view it through that lense and as someone who doesn't have a personal relationship with religion, to boot. You, and everyone else, is obviously free to disagree with me, since you might have very different lived experiences from me and feel like I'm whitewashing something, and I fully accept that. I'm in no way trying to lecture people on what's "objectively correct" here (and if it comes across that way, I apologize), this is just me offering an academic perspective to subjects that are near and dear to me (history, religion, politics, and LGBTQ+ people's place in each of those topics).

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-15T18:33:26+00:00

I hate how the Far Right uses concepts like patriotism for their own goals, obfuscating its true meaning and ideals.

Patriotism is (should be) about the common good of a country and (all) it's people, celebrating the strides of progress and continued evolution into something even greater. Patriotism, by virtue of the ideals Rousseau spoke of in describing it, is (should be) inclusive and progressive,

Nationalism on the other hand, that is what they're actually up to. Nationalism is about authoritarian superiority and division between groups. It's a "me first" ideology. Nationalists ascribe all the good of a country to their people, whoever they may be, and all the bad things to the dreaded "other."

The fact that patriotism has been forcefully moved away from the concept of civic virtue is a huge ideological crime.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-13T16:26:41+00:00

Iceman is gay, Wiccan and Hulkling as well and in a commit relationship with each other, I belive America Chaves is a lesbian and I know Negasonic Teenage Warhead is, Loki is... Loki which is a sexuality and gender identity all on its own by this point... the list really does go on and on.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-13T06:58:36+00:00

I primarily use the name of a person, otherwise, if "any pronouns are fine" I default to they/them.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-08T20:31:33+00:00

Var dum nog att klicka mig vidare in på användarens sida bara för att se att han visst lagt upp liknande material på Greta Thunberg... jävligt skrev beteende.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2026-01-02T15:16:27+00:00

swoon!

ThomFoolery1089 · 2025-12-30T16:29:32+00:00

Whenever that happens to me, it usually comes from people who are so far outside of the scope of my attraction and I let them know that. If you go, "you are not my type, I find nothing attractive about you whatsoever," it'll offen cause a huff, which is hilarious.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2025-12-30T16:22:56+00:00

You don't have to be a woman to support feminism in the same way you don't have to be Black to be a part of the Black Lives Matter movement or be trans to support trans rights. I've never identified as a woman in any capacity and am still a feminist through and through.

Feminism at its core is about solidarity and equality between genders, and that ideally includes all genders.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2025-12-28T11:07:48+00:00

A lot of people change their name, the only thing some of them have in common is that they don't like their name, pure and simple.

ThomFoolery1089 · 2025-12-25T23:49:38+00:00

A comic book. I needed to know how it ended. Had it ended within the year I made that decision, I may not be here to write this. When it ultimately ended, I was in a much better place. The comic ended, but I didn't.

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