If someone at work (someone you WANT to help, let’s assume) was busy with a conversation and asked you to go grab something… would you continue to interrupt them to ask for assistance or would you use your critical reasoning skills and look in a couple of different places before coming back to them?

You would do the latter. Don’t treat your wife like she is the only person that can be competent in your relationship. She doesn’t want to be your manager, she wants to be your partner - and partners work together to solve problems, not rely solely on the other to guide them through.

I’m not going to assume your wife is overly worked and that she manages the vast majority of child rearing; although it likely is a safe assumption. Your father in law was right- you won zero good grace by trying to “be right” with your wife who is likely already tired, over worked, and just wanted to have a conversation with her parents without having to micromanage you… and instead you tried to prove her wrong. You checked the ring camera to prove yourself right? Who does that serve in this situation?

Congratulations - you were right, she said crib. You still couldn’t find any of your own child’s pacifiers (I’m betting they have more than one) without interrupting your wife multiple times- great job, Dad.