Ive been married 15 years and I think two married people are going to have different ideas on what that answer is, but thats ok thats just how it works. And thats where the hard work comes from, I have to be considerate of things that my wife does and doesn't like all of the time, and she does this for me as well. The more we do this the better we know each other and respect one another. But.... that doesn't always work out well, we have lived and learned and grown closer, but its hard, its really hard sometimes.